“Since the events that has transpired, there has been no reconciliation, leaving the matter unresolved. The lack of clarity and understanding has reached a point where I feel compelled to take control.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve reflected and prayed on what happened. It was unfair to be placed in a position of responsibility that wasn’t mine, and I was deeply hurt by this, which compromised my sense of integrity. The emotional pain I’ve endured—betrayal, anger, resentment, and heartbreak—has been intense.
After much reflection and prayer, I’ve found the strength to forgive you. However, for the sake of my healing, peace of mind, and heart, I must move on. I will not allow myself to be hurt again, and I no longer feel I can trust you anymore.
Therefore, I have decided to formally end this friendship. This decision is ultimately for my emotional health and peace of mind.”
This is a letter/text I need to send to this person who has deeply hurt me (and her too). This friendship ran deep where we could confide and care for each other during our deepest pain. I hold on to this little hope that things were the way before but it’s really the dread of not having someone to open my heart to. I’m not sure how she feels as a third-party got involved that hindered any communication between us. However, I truly believe my heart won’t open up to her again.
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What was it about? I’m curious, but I also respect your right to privacy if you’d rather not share.
It was about an artwork I made last year (art was very important to us). It depicted two people caring for each other. However, these two people were naked (to symbolize vulnerability) and she took it as something sexual, which our friendship was strictly not about. I understand nudity can bring sexual thoughts, however, the people in the artwork were inspired by us, but not us at all. I thought that was the end of the discussion.
One year goes by and the subject of the artwork comes up again (after not having thought of it since), which she said that it’s getting in the way of our friendship. I assured her again that it was nothing like she interpreted it to be. She asked me to “destroy it by burning it”, which I was going to do just to end the argument. However, art being important to us, this was the wrong way to go about it. I reflected on it and came to to the conclusion that she had to destroy it herself to take responsibility of her own emotions (I was fine with it being destroyed. It’s what it symbolized). She said she “never wanted to lay eyes on it again”. That defiled, disrespected and essentially raped my artwork. Therefore, I decided to write “THIS IS A PIECE OF SHIT” and crossed out the two people in the artwork then sent her pictures of it torn up. I defiled and disrespected her emotions because she couldn’t face them herself – my mistake and I owned it.
Burning the remains would’ve “purified” it so I threw it away and I actually take solace in it rotting away amongst other trash at the dump site…