I don’t think it really matters to you, I don’t know you, and you don’t know me. Eventually people will get on with their lives after I’m gone.. sorry.
Basically I think it’s morally questionable to ask someone we love who is in pain to live so we ourselves don’t feel pain. To ask a stranger experiencing something deep and bad to live so we don’t feel a little bit of momentary angst is even more morally questionable.
I hope ALL…HAPPY has as good a life as possible however long or short it is. But if she’s in enormous pain, she doesn’t have to live for me. I’ll be happy — to the limited extent that I know of her — that her pain is over. Likewise, if something good happens for her in life, I’ll take some third-party pleasure in that.
I believe Nobody meant well and is a caring person. But I think he or she phrased it wrong and hasn’t thought it through completely, what they were saying.
I believe Nobody would have been more appreciated by ALL…HAPPY if Nobody had said, “I’d like you to stay around because I think I’d enjoy getting to know you and we can support each other in this often hard world, and maybe have some great times too,” rather than, “Don’t go or I’ll hurt.”
It’s a subtle difference, but it’s an important one.
The fact is, Nobody is trying to help ALL…HAPPY, which is noble. I respect that. But he/she is trying to help by Imposing a duty on ALL…HAPPY, and she has enough on her plate already. She doesn’t owe Nobody or anyone else here anything.
If someone wants to help ALL…HAPPY, with all due respect I suggest proposing ways to make her life better, even if through conversation, friendship, and companionship, rather than trying to make her feel guilty if she can’t take the pain of her life.
Just saying.
Nobody, I know you meant well, but please consider what I said above. I think if you do that and can understand it, you’ll be even better at supporting others in great pain than you already are. I think I speak for most people here when I say that your attempts to be helpful are appreciated.
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I’d prefer if you didn’t go… but it’s your choice. Please reconsider and talk to me.
I don’t think it really matters to you, I don’t know you, and you don’t know me. Eventually people will get on with their lives after I’m gone.. sorry.
Wow I kinda got deeply hurt by that remark… a bit harsh…:( but I understand. I wish you all the best then.
I agree with ALL…HAPPY.
Basically I think it’s morally questionable to ask someone we love who is in pain to live so we ourselves don’t feel pain. To ask a stranger experiencing something deep and bad to live so we don’t feel a little bit of momentary angst is even more morally questionable.
I hope ALL…HAPPY has as good a life as possible however long or short it is. But if she’s in enormous pain, she doesn’t have to live for me. I’ll be happy — to the limited extent that I know of her — that her pain is over. Likewise, if something good happens for her in life, I’ll take some third-party pleasure in that.
I agree with LWOG. It seems to be the basis of suicide helplines and all that prevent suicide bullshit.
Ok ok I get it, i’m really sorry Allbeletshappy. Really, i am .
No, im sorry. You were only trying to help.. Im sorry for making you feel bad. Thank you.. Bye.
I believe Nobody meant well and is a caring person. But I think he or she phrased it wrong and hasn’t thought it through completely, what they were saying.
I believe Nobody would have been more appreciated by ALL…HAPPY if Nobody had said, “I’d like you to stay around because I think I’d enjoy getting to know you and we can support each other in this often hard world, and maybe have some great times too,” rather than, “Don’t go or I’ll hurt.”
It’s a subtle difference, but it’s an important one.
The fact is, Nobody is trying to help ALL…HAPPY, which is noble. I respect that. But he/she is trying to help by Imposing a duty on ALL…HAPPY, and she has enough on her plate already. She doesn’t owe Nobody or anyone else here anything.
If someone wants to help ALL…HAPPY, with all due respect I suggest proposing ways to make her life better, even if through conversation, friendship, and companionship, rather than trying to make her feel guilty if she can’t take the pain of her life.
Just saying.
Nobody, I know you meant well, but please consider what I said above. I think if you do that and can understand it, you’ll be even better at supporting others in great pain than you already are. I think I speak for most people here when I say that your attempts to be helpful are appreciated.