I’m in love with my best friend.. She however has a boyfriend, I feel so sad whenever I think about this.. Which is all the time. I hurt whenever she talks about him or he’s around. I know I could love her better than him, I know I could make her happier than ever, I know she has feelings..
My heart hurts so much.. Everytime I challenge her asking for a chance it puts so much strain on our friendship.. This is hurting her as much as it hurts me. I try to keep everything to myself but it doesn’t work.
I can’t move on no matter how much I try, I can’t lose her either because some days shes all I have. I have thought about ending things but i’m scared of that too.. I just want this pain to end…
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Sometimes you need to let things happen on their own.
Don’t pressure her.
Let fucked up nature take its course.
And just breathe.
I’ve been trying to do this for a year now..
I can’t take it ..
I’ve found that concentrating on one particular thing/person/whatever never has a happy ending.
Maybe letting go is an option you should explore.
The one we love, and the one who loves us, is never ever the same person.
It’ll be hard, but it stops hurting.
I’m not the best at advice.
i am in love with my best friend too and it is one of the reasons why i am going to kill myself. the worst part about it is that half of the time it actually feels like it will work out, but something always goes wrong or her actions suddenly change. the constant cycle of false hope/disappointment takes a bit more of me away every time. she doesn’t want to date friends so ive come to the conclusion that even if we are as compatible as i think we are, it is doomed from the start. this has happened at a time when i’ve lost many friends and my career stability, as well as the deterioration of my family. i feel like she was probably my best chance at having a relationship anytime soon but since my social life is in a decline it looks like i will end up being one of those people who is just alone forever, which is something i can’t bare. she has never had a boyfriend since ive known her but she did have a 2 month fling with some kid and the pain of that was unbearable. since he fucked her over things are a little bit better because i am the most important guy in her life again but i know that next time will be just as painful if not worse, unless i am the next time, which im not very optimistic about anymore. i feel like my reaction to her last fling and the fights that it caused permantantly destroyed our chances.
You sound exactly like me. I used to be in love with my best friend too. It killed me every single day to see her knowing she will never be mine. It was eating at me and making me weak. I wanted to give her everything and make her happy. I thought I would never fall in love with anyone else. I was wrong. I knew what I had to do. I ended things completely. She understood. I haven’t seen her in almost a year. It was the best thing I ever did. I got over her! The pain was gone and I moved on. I don’t know that much about your situation/relationship with her so I wouldn’t suggest you to end anything. Two things can happen; You could end the friendship with her and see if she doesn’t wanna let you go because deep down, she loves you too. OR you can end the friendship and eventually move on, throughout time. I know you’d want the first one more than anything, but take it from me, it was a huge relief moving on. It was great. You can’t go on like this, you have to do something about it or it will get worse. But again, I don’t know that much. Sorry for babbling, hang in there 🙂