I was someone like that and I got out of it. You aren’t alone!!!! I am in need of some sleep now but will come back later. Do you want to leave? Do you have a safety plan? Is there any support where u live? Look into these things is u haven’t already. Take care there are ppl here… If u are in danger, call someone right away or get to a public place <3
I want to leave, but he makes it SO difficult. He has really bad anger issues, so it can be scary & he slaps me alot & makes me feel like everything is my fault 🙁 also, he always gives me ultimatums…his most recent one, I have to get his initials tattooed on me or we can’t be together…like wtf. I’m scared to hurt him, but when I tell him I don’t wanna do it because of where were at, he just says things like “wow, I was lied to this whole relationship”….so I just say yes. He’s SO controlling and he slaps me when he gets mad. A while back, we broke up..and the next day, he already had sex with a girl /: that isn’t love….this girl told me how they had sex more than twice, but he still denies it & says it was twice. And, he was accused of cheating on me a couple times & so I had that girl talk to her brother for me, cause him and my bf are best friends..and according to her when she asked him, he did cheat on me. I can’t take it anymore…the name calling, physical abuse, being controlled…I lost myself, I have no idea who I am anymore & everyone tells me to break up with him because it won’t change. I have a lot of support, but I think some of those supporters are giving up on me, because I won’t leave /: …I have bi polar & depression, which makes it so much more difficult. I wanna leave for good, he just always sucks me right back in…..
I know it’s extremely hard and painful, but you need to walk away from him. I learned through trips to ICU that people like that don’t change. It’s your choice to make, but just remember that there are people here (including myself) that will support you either way <3
Hey… I’m so sorry you’re going thru this 🙁 My ex was very possesive, and I think he cheated but I never knew for sure. He punched me in the throat, strangled me, told me he wanted to “keep me in a cage”, eventually he assaulted me where I had enough injuries to charge him.
So, you want to leave him? Congratulations for finding the strength to make that choice <3 🙂 Sometimes even thinking for ourselves can be difficult!
You sound like you are on the younger side (ie under 30?). It doesn't matter ur age, only that I think being younger and not being with an abuser for like 10 years, u stand a better chance of geting away for good, (and forming new healthy relationships).
You have got to come to the realization that no matter how much you want him to love you, no matter how much he thinks he does, that IS NOT LOVE. Ok? Love doesn't hurt. I don't know much about healthy love in my experience, but I know it exhists (u have to) and what is happening to you, that's not healthy hun :\
U may end up like me, to a point where u almost have to lose ur life to realize what's going on… I sincerely hope not. But even so, I still got out. And he got charged. I found it in me somewhere to stick up for myself. No one else was going to. No one else can do it for you either, no matter how much I wish I could take your hand and pull you out…
Do you live with him, or parents, or alone? Do you have an abused womens helpline or center? They can help you make the first steps to safely cutting contact with him when ur ready. When you are, also get a restraining order on him, one that is for you no matter where you go, not just for your property 😉
Can u see my email addy in your dashboard? Fuck it, here, it's piscesfish81@yahoo.ca Message me if u need to ok? Let me know how ur doing?
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I was someone like that and I got out of it. You aren’t alone!!!! I am in need of some sleep now but will come back later. Do you want to leave? Do you have a safety plan? Is there any support where u live? Look into these things is u haven’t already. Take care there are ppl here… If u are in danger, call someone right away or get to a public place <3
I want to leave, but he makes it SO difficult. He has really bad anger issues, so it can be scary & he slaps me alot & makes me feel like everything is my fault 🙁 also, he always gives me ultimatums…his most recent one, I have to get his initials tattooed on me or we can’t be together…like wtf. I’m scared to hurt him, but when I tell him I don’t wanna do it because of where were at, he just says things like “wow, I was lied to this whole relationship”….so I just say yes. He’s SO controlling and he slaps me when he gets mad. A while back, we broke up..and the next day, he already had sex with a girl /: that isn’t love….this girl told me how they had sex more than twice, but he still denies it & says it was twice. And, he was accused of cheating on me a couple times & so I had that girl talk to her brother for me, cause him and my bf are best friends..and according to her when she asked him, he did cheat on me. I can’t take it anymore…the name calling, physical abuse, being controlled…I lost myself, I have no idea who I am anymore & everyone tells me to break up with him because it won’t change. I have a lot of support, but I think some of those supporters are giving up on me, because I won’t leave /: …I have bi polar & depression, which makes it so much more difficult. I wanna leave for good, he just always sucks me right back in…..
I know it’s extremely hard and painful, but you need to walk away from him. I learned through trips to ICU that people like that don’t change. It’s your choice to make, but just remember that there are people here (including myself) that will support you either way <3
Hey… I’m so sorry you’re going thru this 🙁 My ex was very possesive, and I think he cheated but I never knew for sure. He punched me in the throat, strangled me, told me he wanted to “keep me in a cage”, eventually he assaulted me where I had enough injuries to charge him.
So, you want to leave him? Congratulations for finding the strength to make that choice <3 🙂 Sometimes even thinking for ourselves can be difficult!
You sound like you are on the younger side (ie under 30?). It doesn't matter ur age, only that I think being younger and not being with an abuser for like 10 years, u stand a better chance of geting away for good, (and forming new healthy relationships).
You have got to come to the realization that no matter how much you want him to love you, no matter how much he thinks he does, that IS NOT LOVE. Ok? Love doesn't hurt. I don't know much about healthy love in my experience, but I know it exhists (u have to) and what is happening to you, that's not healthy hun :\
U may end up like me, to a point where u almost have to lose ur life to realize what's going on… I sincerely hope not. But even so, I still got out. And he got charged. I found it in me somewhere to stick up for myself. No one else was going to. No one else can do it for you either, no matter how much I wish I could take your hand and pull you out…
Do you live with him, or parents, or alone? Do you have an abused womens helpline or center? They can help you make the first steps to safely cutting contact with him when ur ready. When you are, also get a restraining order on him, one that is for you no matter where you go, not just for your property 😉
Can u see my email addy in your dashboard? Fuck it, here, it's piscesfish81@yahoo.ca Message me if u need to ok? Let me know how ur doing?