I have been thinking a lot about this.
Why many health professionals say you should help someone who is suicidal, but nobody cares about other things that a person can suffer from in our societies. Why there is this huge focus on preventing suicide? Why they are spending so much on preventing suicide? I don’t understand why everyone thinks that ending our lives is not good. I think if someone wants to end should be free from all the judges and etc.Why you should hide your feelings about this from the people around you, only because people will judge you and it might affect your final intention?
It is not a matter of weakness. I have a good life – i think so. I am smart educated have a great job beautiful attractive friendly social often happy with others. But I desperately don’t want to live one more single day. I don’t think I belong to the people around me. I am sure this is the last thing that people around me will think of. I have realized that I am not going to die naturally soon, so I have to do something about it. I am sure that I want to be one of those who look great and the next day I am done with this current life. Whenever I pass the ocean, I can’t stop thinking about death. However, i don’t have the intention to do it then but I can deeply strongly feel that this will happen somewhere like there.
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society says killing yourself is bad because they just want to continue controlling you which just goes to show that society needs to crumple.
for sure .. it is all about power .. and ‘u shouldnt do this! ‘
Eh… *shrug* Indifference towards society for me, I’m too cool and selfish and arrogant to even care about the external world.
hummm … regardless of how much we ignore it, we are influenced by society. i just meant their influence on individuals
When you commit suicide it reminds everyone else that they’re mortal. Nobody likes to be reminded that their number is coming up. On top of that, there’s mass social hand wringing tied to an overwhelming sense of guilt when someone offs themselves. Everyone wonders what they could have done differently or how they could have prevented it. In reality though, so few people are sad enough to want to die that the idea of suicide is completely foreign to them.
@Letmesleep “Everyone wonders what they could have done differently or how they could have prevented it.” More likely people blame eachother… cause they couldn’t be guilty… or they blame you… for being too “weak/stupid/crazy” for doing it…
From the beginning of awareness humanity has been faced with coming to terms with the Life/Death/Life cycle. The response to this realisation has been both horror and awe – awesome in its true meaning – some ‘thing’ so impressive or overwhelming as to inspire strong feelings of admiration and fear.
Fear is an integral aspect of awe and most people don’t want to be reminded of this reality while still others can’t look away.
@just.me.20: I think people who don’t know or care about you will blame you for being “weak”, but those who actually know and love you will most likely feel guilty. I think only on the Internet is suicide taken so lightly. Most people would try to stop someone else if they saw someone about to commit suicide, but that’s because it became real to the person observing it. With no faces attached to our names, there’s a disconnect that allows us to show a huge lack of empathy for those we meet online. It’s the curse of anonymity.
I personally refuse to stop others, mostly because I never wanted to be stopped myself, but I would usually try to talk someone out of it. I believe in helping people, but I believe in personal freedom more. It’s not up to me to determine how much life is left for someone else, or what is and isn’t worth living for. In the end I’d try to be supportive of someone about to jump and try to persuade them not to, but I wouldn’t force them down.
This was a long-winded reply to the “weak/stupid/crazy” comment. I think you’re right that that’s the common sentiment on the Internet – that suicidal people are better off splattering their “flawed” genes on the pavement, but very few people are so emotionally dead that they’d say that to someone’s face if they were presented with the reality of an imminent suicide.
hi Letmesleep. humm. like your comments. still i agree with ‘blackholes can even be beautiful more’ more.
i dont think people feel guilty of someone suicide. do they feel guilty when they see someone is dying beside the street out of hunger, misery etc? i think those who know me will not feel guilty. they will think i was weak and mad. however i dont mind what others think . i feel horrible that i wrote my post yesterday and now i m still writing and still alive. So much confusion ! again society is controlling us by creating such websites.
just.me.20, i agree .. people wont feel guilty. i dont think they should feel guilty too.
if i decide to end my life, it is my choice and i m responsible for it.
i dont want anyone feel guilty or anyone interfere.
Maybe they’ll feel guilty, purplesky2, maybe they won’t. I really couldn’t say in your situation since I don’t know the people in your social circle. There are exceptions for everything, but I still feel most *decent* adults would at least call the cops if they saw someone attempting to jump from a bridge.
While I don’t necessarily think that’s the right call, in most people’s minds, stopping a suicide is a good thing. It shows that on some level they care, which I’m attributing to the desire to avoid feeling guilty and responsible for doing nothing. Most people rightfully assume that stopping a suicide will allow someone to get better and no longer feel suicidal in the future. It comes from the belief that life is inherently meaningful, and to willingly end it would be a mistake.
Still, I hear that you don’t feel valued by those around you, and for that I can only give my sympathy. Not everyone has the privilege of growing up in a nurturing, healthy family with caring friends. Some people just grow up around monsters. I personally don’t think a weak person can commit suicide. It may require a different kind of strength than continuing to live, but it still certainly requires strength. Defeating the survival instinct is no small feat.
In terms of control, I don’t feel controlled. Society told me I wasn’t fit or allowed to own a firearm and I told the world to shove it by getting a hold of one anyway. I use this site with my own free will. I live out of my own free will. I could kill myself at any moment and no one would be able to stop me. I’d call that freedom.
That’s very true. It’s hard to get people to care when it’s not as black and white as death. I hear what you’re saying – that if someone is about to die all of the sudden everyone cares, but many people seem to be uninterested whether or not someone suffers. I can’t lie and say that humans aren’t selfish. We are. There are still good people in the world, even if it seems sometimes like they are a minority.
Human depravity has always bothered me deeply. It literally depresses me, and is a large reason I finally left the faith. I couldn’t reconcile what I saw in the world with a benevolent being watching over us. Even briefly thinking about it made me a little teary eyed – sometimes I forget how much of my misery I’ve repressed. Evil is disturbing, and so is the selfishness of our species. I don’t have an answer for you as it’s something I’ve always struggled with as well.
I wish we could find it in ourselves to be better than what we are. To look beyond ourselves and our selfish desires. The world is what it is though, and to keep living everyone has to find an answer they are satisfied with. Some will have to look a lot deeper than others to be satisfied, and some of us may never be satisfied at all. I don’t have all the answers. All I can say is I’m sorry no one has bothered to help you.
. i dont say that ‘if someone is about to die all of the sudden everyone cares’ .. nobody cares that time too. what they do is not care. it is just another selfish act of controlling others lives.
u r really positive!