I watched a video about how the brain reacts to falling in love. It Made me realise that all my problems depression anxiety loneliness are caused through the lack of love in my life. I completed an engineering degree in 2011 started taking anti depressants in 2006 and have suffered from depression my whole life. I am lonely and so shy I find it extremely difficult to approach others . I am so alone and miserable I want to kill myself no one loves me and I am afraid I will be alone and miserable for my entire life.
I love but no one loves me
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That sounds a lot like me. To be honest, I have learned to just do without, so I can’t really give advice on finding your soul mate. But sometimes things take time and maybe a little effort. Don’t give up on yourself so fast. There is a proverb that says “every pot has a lid” which means that there is someone for everyone out there. Even ME, if you can believe that 😉
Hope this helps !
I have often heard myself talk about how cooking for one, cooking for one self becomes exteriorly difficult. Eventually over time its nothing but plain sandwiches. Eventually overtime everything tastes the same.
Food you only cook for yourself eventually loses it taste. And the same for life.
“I am lonely and so shy I find it extremely difficult to approach others” – NY911
I used to be a lot like this … but back in the days when they didn’t consider it an “illness”. If it’s true that “all my (your) problems depression anxiety loneliness are caused through the lack of love” … then wouldn’t it be equally true that you’d have nothing to lose by trying any and all possible ways of trying to interact with people in ways you’d normally be afraid to try?
I found that i had to push myself outside of my warm and fuzzy comfort zone … without the benefit of a diagnosis, therapist or medication … because the alternative was a lonely, empty place … i can remember the fearful ball of nerves i was the first time i FORCED myself to go out … and then say “hi” to a perfect stranger. I looked for people who appeared more withdrawn than most, figuring they’d be more understanding ..it worked … i also took crazy chances with the wildly outgoing people … and found in some cases that worked too … don’t expect everyone to like everything about you at first … but when you feel withdrawn, like no one will ever reach out to you … sometimes you have to do the reaching out – as scary as that seems and sounds … but it boils down to – is death really preferable to trying and risking rejection? WIth every attempt you make, you have a 50/50 chance of making a friend … just be realistic and keep your expectations low … one step at a time … building friendships is like building a house … gotta have plans and a foundation before you can hang the curtains.
Build friendships with men and women first … then you will have advocates to help you find love
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