Why does one person’s opinion that I don’t even care about bother me so much?
I’ve never understood this..     it makes no sense..
I’m not trying to make myself not care..     I really don’t care.
but it doesn’t matter..    it still bothers me..   makes me angry..
I don’t even care enough to say anything back to the person..    but it still bothers me?!
this happens to me a lot, and I never understand it..
they don’t even know anything about me..   why does it bother me?
maybe I’m just mentally ill   🙁
WHY?!
2 comments
Good question… and I think allot of people suffer from this, myself included
I think it comes down to wanting to belong, to be liked, to fit in. When someone we don’t even know says something, mean, callous or without thinking about how their words might hurt it isn’t about what they say but a reminder that we are alone?
Maybe it’s easier to focus on the words and project all our hurt on focus on them instead of our real fear and that empty feeling we have deep in our guts that we are less then and alone.
I think it’s normal. If you read some of the posts on this site, you’ll find many people that are hurt, affected by other peoples opinions. There are reasons for this. In my case, I think that when I feel hopeless, I’m more likely to take what others say to heart because if I was more confident about the future or life in general. I’d probably focus on that instead. It’s not an angry feeling, just annoyed. Don’t take it personally.