When someone who claims to love you, then hates you or at least resents you. What’s really sad is when someone who claims to love you, suddenly couldn’t give a fuck about you. It hurts so much, it makes it a lot harder to fight this monster inside my head. Why do people use the word love so ligtly? It makes doubt everything people say to just make you feel good for a moment.
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Some people use ‘love’ to manipulate others and to use them for their own satisfaction. In reality they don’t really care as I’m sure you’ve found out.
Why give this other person power over you? Why allow yourself and your feelings to be toyed with? Chances are that you’re in love with a sociopath and they are largely incapable of feeling empathy or love for others.
Why do people in situations like yours never consider just walking away from these people that torment you? I can understand if you’re economically stuck, but at least you should consider getting away from them and working towards that goal.
I saw this and omg it hit home…there was a man in my life that told me he loved me…however, he wanted other things from me. He was a liar… he had psychopathic tendencies. Lying, no empathy to others feelings, wanting only things for himself, among others. It took a long time to break away from that. And honestly I never fully did. Not mentally Anyway.
Fuck, I know this feeling. It hurts a shitload. Makes you feel betrayed, unloveable, and completely distrustful. People’s feelings change, often very quickly, and to the other person who is still in love, it usually comes as a shock. They probably felt that way for awhile and didn’t want to hurt you, but eventually had to let go for themselves. It may seem like they don’t care at all, but that’s only because you are comparing it to the love they used to give. It is different now. Love is blinding, truly and changes a person. When they fall out of love, they are again, a different person: the way they speak to you, the attention given or not given.
It hurts but remember:
“Everyone falls in love sometime,
Sometimes it’s wrong,
Sometimes it’s right.
For every win,
Someone must fail,
But there comes a point when,
When we exhale.”
Sorry, had to get a bit cheesy there, but that song seemed appropriate for this situation.
‘True love’ just doesn’t really exist. My philosophy – enjoy the moment. Accept that the other person will likely not be there forever. People find it especially difficult to deal with depressives/suicidals, so, if someone said they loved you but seems to have lost interest, it might be because they can’t understand what you’re going through, and are looking for a more ‘normal’ person. It’s very unfortunate but if a person no longer wants to put in the effort to ‘love’ you, there’s nothing you can do to change their mind. Stay strong, and perhaps you will meet someone who is more understanding.
In my case, he said he loved me…then he said he felt pressured to say it, but he was the one who said it first, then he said he said it to get what he wanted, then he said he didn’t remember saying it, then at last, he said he never said it to me…his story kept changing.
Most men use the word love because most females fall for it every time…. If a man wants the punanny and saying “I love you” is a shortcut to it then he will utilized that short cut….what people fail to understand is that love is an action word…no one has to say “I love you” if their actions speak for them….now sometimes men can fake that too and pretend to love you but you have to always always have that emotional wall up until it has been thoroughly proven that a man loves you….and if he does he would understand that…. the world love is as meaningless or meaningful as the person using it wants it to be….
As a person who has never experienced a person really loving them, how do they show it? That is a problem I have, I am too trustting
are you asking how to show you love someone or how to know when someone is showing that they love you?
trusting too easily is a big big big no no….trust should be very hard earned and very easily lost….never give the “benefit of the doubt” and always listen to your gut and even if its wrong sometimes …it will always be more right then wrong….
How do u kno when they love YOU…I show love too much, always have…never met an enemy…gained some, but never met one…hope that makes sense…starting out, everyone is my friend but then if they llo something to me or the people who mean a lot to me….it’s not pretty.
i think she is referring to the difference between seeing what is shown, and knowing whether or not it is genuine.
I mean…. I don’t really know how to accurately judge whether someone genuinely loves you because some people are very good actors that can played the part of the in love romantic very well…. I guess a good way to determine it is to assess them as a person….how they act? what they do? do they ask you for sex a lot? how they treat you around people that are close to them….how they refer to you in front of other women….how they interact with you in front of other women…I mean just subtle things that you can learn to pick up on to know….how does he look at you? does he take a sincere interest in you? does he take an interest in things that you like? does he like being around you a lot?
I think with relationships its good to be great friends with someone before taking a step into a relationship that way you can already know them well enough to know how they feel about you…
That’s really awesome info Pain…I appreciate that…I just didn’t know what things to look for…I know everyone is different is how they act and how comfortable they r with things and other people, but its good info to have when making sure the person u love, loves u back