A highly publicized suicide of an attractive or talented person is commonly greeted with the sentiment, “what a waste!” The substance that is wasted may be named as talent, intelligence, beauty, or life itself, or may not be named. But, whatever is “wasted,” is it fair to blame a suicide for “wasting” it?
“Waste,” in this sense, connotes an immoral misuse of resources that might have been better directed elsewhere. It is wrong to misuse or fail to use scarce resources, because they might be better used by others. Wasting may often involve depriving someone else of the resource that is wasted.
The problem with describing suicide as a “waste” is that to do so engages the same fallacy a clever child detects in his mother’s command to eat his food, because children are starving elsewhere. “Can I send them this food, then?” the clever child might ask, pointing out that waste is only a genuine moral issue if the resource is truly transferable.
If a clueless benefactor buys me a non-transferable plane ticket for a vacation in Tanzania, but I can’t go because I’m an albino, it can’t be said that I have wasted the plane ticket (except maybe in a sort of visceral, aesthetic sense). I did nothing to waste the plane ticket – it was a useless gift, and could not be transferred to others with pressing business in Tanzania. The waste was committed by the person who ill-advisedly bought me the ticket – the money used to buy it could have been transferred to more worthy endeavors.
Where the substance allegedly wasted by the suicide is “life,” waste in the moral sense is clearly not present. Until laws are changed so that we suicides may donate our organs prior to suicide, life, like the ticket to Tanzania, is a non-transferable resource. The waste, in the case of a suicide, occurred when the suicide’s parents made the decision to give the “gift” of life to a person who, it turns out, had no use for it.
What if the substance “wasted” is not life itself, but rather talent, intelligence, or beauty? All these are scarce things, and others in the community may have benefited from the beauty or talent of a suicide, had he not decided to end his life. The potential to benefit is lost.
There are two responses to the idea that a suicide “wastes” his talent or beauty. One is the same response a wealthy person might make to a poor person in justifying his decision to “waste” money on a tenth automobile rather than buy the poor person a house; that is, “it’s not yours.” Or, to put it a different way: it is radically collectivist to think that we have a right to the resources of others – beyond perhaps guaranteeing a certain level of subsistence for all, we do not have a right even to each others’ money. Why should we have a right to each others’ physical and personality characteristics? Is a Muslim woman who veils committing a wrong by hiding her beauty from others? The person who, on finding out about a suicide, says “what a waste,” is really saying – “it’s too bad, I could have used him (or her).” This is hardly a noble sentiment.
The second response is the utilitarian calculation at the community level, including the suicide himself. While others may have benefited from a would-be suicide’s continued existence, their benefit would come only at an extreme cost to the suicide himself. If the overall cost of utilizing goods exceeds the benefit to be gained thereby, how can it be a “waste” to fail to use them?
Disclaimer: This is an article that was written on a suicide blog I frequently read. Just thought this would be a great read for people on this site.
11 comments
Are you enjoying life. (your here so the answer is no.) If your young gifted and black I think that phrase is racist. What about if your young gifted and white. Then its a waste. If your ugly not gifted and black/white and have a bad mental illness and life is very hard.
Then I understand why. Dose it make it right.? Just sad.
No Donnie, I don’t understand your logic. Every person is of equal value. That said, every person has the right to continue to live their life or end it, whatever they see fit.
@donnie: You and joinel think everything is racist….its not…and your race really doesn’t matter in regards to suicide….
Suicide is like throwing away rotten food that everyone ignored while it was fresh, and simply chose not to enjoy it. The waste is on those who missed out. Food doesn’t choose to rot and then throw itself away. People choose to ignore food while it’s fresh, let it rot, and then point the finger and blame the other for the fact that no one bothered to consume it while it was still useful and valuable.
No one notices the waste while it’s occurring. It’s always an afterthought, but it’s an endlessly repeated lesson that no one ever seems to learn, which claims many lives.
It’s not a waste to discard what others don’t want. It’s a waste for others to ignore the value of what they have, until after it rots.
Also: i disagree with the race thing. There is a huge and seemingly global agenda that apparently tries to trick people into “making it about” some other issue… like race, or gender, which keeps most people distracted enough that they entirely miss the point.
A wasted person is tragic, no matter where they’re born, no matter what color or gender they are. Waste is waste, regardless of which “flavor” you prefer.
This world somehow continues producing an excess of humans who are not considered widely appealing, and so any value they do have, is wasted… and you might say it’s because some of us require a taster with an acquired taste, which most don’t want to acquire, due to misguidance and fear, which causes those less popular “foods” to rot, instead of being allowed to help nourish the world.
Isn’t it ridiculous how nobody cares until someone indicates they may be at risk of harming themselves? In today’s culture, the kids all think that’s cool or something. Self-harm is trendy. I’ve never cut or anything like that; I understand why people do it, but when it’s because it’s what the popular kids do? That’s just disturbing. I can’t imagine how I’d feel if I had a kid and discovered that they were a cutter or that they frequented suicide sites. I wouldn’t think there was anything wrong with them but it would be scary.
If I ever had kids (I don’t particularly want kids but sometimes things happen) I feel like I’d let them get away with almost anything they wanted so that I wouldn’t be part of the cause for them to feel suicidal. There was a 12-year-old girl in England who hung herself last spring after having an argument with her parents. I mean… I’d think that’d be enough to send any caring parent to the grave. (Though I believe these people were abusive.)
This comment isn’t exactly in line with the post, sorry. Clevername reminded me of how strangers suddenly think a person’s welfare is important just because they want to die, when before, they wouldn’t give a f**k about them.
* I meant in real life, by the way. Doctors, mental health workers, social services, government officials, family members one never got on with, et cetera. Their only job is to make sure you’re ‘safe,’ but it’s of no concern to them if you really are suffering, whether it’s situational or psychological/physical.
When Kurt Cobain committed suicide one of my first thoughts was “what a waste”. I thought he was a talented musician, a husband, a father, and a multi millionaire with a slight heroin problem.
Suicide is a choice, and people often get hung up on the “why”. “Why did he/she kill him/herself”? Everyone’s judgmental to some degree, so if someone’s reason doesn’t seem good enough, those left behind might think the person who committed suicide squandered an opportunity – the only shot that person had at life. A waste.
I suppose once you’re dead other people’s opinions don’t matter anyway, this stuff is only important to the living. (Like a funeral – big deal for the attendees, but the guest of honor couldn’t care less).
@Clevername & Persephone: I agree ….nobody give a shit really…I think they just pretend so that others think they do…
@C4: I agree with that as well….after you are dead nothing matters…that’s the end….funerals and the like are just peoples way of saying goodbye I guess…
PainNlife – Brilliant post. I agree completely.
For me, I’ve always thought it is so retarded that attempting suicide was illegal (at least in Ohio). I don’t get it. I’d bet my house, all my money (never mind that I have little) and my life that not a single one of the people who came up with this idiotic idea actually give a flying fuck whether anyone lives or dies. It’s all about control, IMO.
@elliecats: Thanks but all credit goes to Sister Y (the author of the blog that I borrowed this article from) … You live in Ohio? Me too…. I live in Cincinnati which part do you live in? I also didn’t know it was illegal here….what do they do if you do it…lock your carcass up?
I agree with you though…its all about control and money…
@PainNllife: I’m in Columbus. Maybe I have old information, but I seem to remember attempting suicide was illegal. RE-TARD-ED!!!
I haven’t been down to Cincy in years, but I liked it when I was there. There’s a nice flea market just north of there on 75 that I’m fond of.
But yeah, I guess they can lock up my dead body. 🙂