Why are people mean is it just human nature i mean wasn’t there a time when people could just get along is there ever gonna be a time like this or am i just dreaming.Speaking of dreams ive been having weird ones like they’re really disturbing.My teacher says people who are mean or bully or talk about others are just trying to make themselves feel better wich is pretty sad cuz in reality your just gonna feel worse about yourself.My teacher also said that people who do those things have a crappy life and thats pretty depressing too.I feel bad for anyone that feels so low to actually try to make themselves happy by making others sad.I just want all those people who are bullies to stop and think because “what comes around goes around” and one day your gonna experience ALOT of pain and regret in life.I wish you all luck
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Your teacher is right – bullies bully people for a number of reasons but most often it is their way of coping with their own problems. (Not a very good way frankly…)
They are either doing it to try to bring you down to how they feel, which for a short time makes them feel better (but of course it doesn’t last so they come back for more 🙁 )
Or they might simply be venting their own frustrations and lashing out at others.
When I was bullied at school, it took time, but I figured that the best way to get them to stop is to not let it affect you. That’s a very difficult thing to do, but if you can master it, show them that you don’t care what they say about you or what they think, then it will stop them from being able to get that “relief” they feel when they bring you down. So eventually they will get bored and have to find some other way of dealing with their problems that doesn’t involve hurting others.
If you try this, bear in mind that it might not seem to work at first – it could have the opposite effect and they might get more frustrated that they’re not having an effect on you and initially make it worse. But if you’re confident you can do it, keep it up and there will come a point where they realize that it’s not working.
Of course, this strategy only works if the bullying is vocal – if they are saying nasty things or insulting you or whatever. If the bullying is physical or violent, then it’s not exactly something you can easily ignore, in which case you need to talk to a teacher straight away.
And yes, there have always been bullies since there have been humans. 🙁
Even since B.C humans have never gotten along. We have killed, raped, and burned for a looooong time (back then it was in the name of god). Yes we set standards a bit higher than before. Has it stoped people, no. And your right bullies bully for a lot of reason (divorce, traumatic event, family abuse, etc.). Just know that people can change. I used to be bullied in first grade but we were idiots at the time. We’re not friends or anything but we know each other well enough to somewhat like each other.
Yeah it’s so weird when you get out of school. I remember some guy who was probably the worst bully in school… but a couple of years later I ran into him at a bar, and he actually came over and shook my hand and apologized. I was shocked but happy all the same…
Hey, Angel Ash, I’m in the midst of writing a reply to your email… taking me a long while, though. lol
@silent survivor
I think people are mean because they’re under a lot of stress. Stress to get money, stress to get higher, stress to survive… I don’t think it’s human nature; I think it’s the stress the environment puts on people. Some people react to stress in different ways, and some people just can’t handle it. Some people pour all the negativity on other people.
Just a theory, though.
@NeverKnown – Hehheh yeah it was a bit long wasn’t it! Depending on how long it takes you to write, might not get around to reading it tonight, getting dragged to bed by the other half!