I need help and advice, at the start of this month I tried to kill myself and when someone realised she made me promise not to self harm for the rest of the month at the very least. I foolishly promised her as she managed to look like she actually cared and was in distress over it but I immediately realised my mistake. It’s been twenty three days and I’ve avoided any self harm so far but I really really feel the need to cut right now. I don’t want to break my promise, please, what do you guys do to stop yourselves from cutting when you want to but can’t?
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after many suicide attempts, i promised people round me to not do it. they know as i know that i’ll do it soon or later.
So the wild horse of self destruction seems to go in any direction it wants. Big and powerful, you are at its mercy. So what can you do?
It is difficult to introduce the idea that the power of this seeming compulsion is really just the thinker’s commitment to their own thought of weakness as their self identity. You think of yourself as weak, yes? This seems an immutable part of your character, yes? Then, you have invested what is actually your strength in weakness, and that manifests in a powerful psychological compulsion to harm yourself. Capische?
In other words, the compulsion, no matter how you have been thinking of it, is entirely your own. You don’t like it and you hate it, because you are committed to your image of yourself as a victim of forces beyond your control.
Conversely, the emergence of a friend, who exacts a promise that empowers you and commits you to face your compulsion, is a sign that you are no longer satisfied with being at the mercy of forces that seem to control you. It is a very good sign. It signifies, however dimly, the choice for life.
How to deal with it? The compulsion is internal, yes? It is a psychological, actually psychic, force, yes. It seems scary as hell, yes? Yet, your mind is a kingdom you must rule. If you summons the courage to demand that this force present itself to you, it will rise like a giant wave that will then splash harmlessly on the rocks and recede into nothingness. This seeming dangerous and impenetrable force can stand anything except being called out by its thinker. You, as its thinker, can and must do this, if you are to see its complete lack of substance.
Is this a daunting task? Yes. Can you do it? Absolutely. Is there help available? The entirely world looks for just this fearlessness for guidance. In drama, it is portrayed as the heroine in The Hunger Games. It is the stuff of songs and legends. These are the subliminal messages awaiting your discovery. Happy hunting.
G.W.
be strong. no one who has a hard time not hurting themselves is going to be a role model for someone else. if you choose to be strong, then you’ll have to do hard things. this is really the way to go… the world needs strong people. it’s the lack of strong people that make us all feel there is no hope.
please send me an email.. I can encourage you. howfrail at gmail dot com
Have no idea what the guy 2 posts up is saying.
Go for a run, draw on yourself with red marker, anything that will serve as a distraction. Anything that would replicate that relieving feeling? Personally, I just resist it through willpower… but with this pain, who knows how much longer that will last.
Why do you say she was a mistake?
You’re still alive!!!!! Thank you for staying around 🙂
Answer: Ask for God’s help.
@thereishope:….do you talk to god? do you have a personal relationship with him? tell us all…..what does he say to you?
if you can’t endure the need to cut yourself by being strong (which is the best solution if you can pull it off), try doing something that will release your angst/sorrow in someway… exercise, playing some video games, even punching or breaking something (not injuring yourself of course! and i would stay away from expensive stuff if i was you haha… learned that the hard way), anything that gives you a sense of “release” (even if it’s a mild one)… it might not feel the same as cutting, but it does help
Melissa Suicidal – I’m in a similar situation in all honesty.
G.W. – Thank you for the large amount of metaphors telling me to just realise that my compulsion to cut is simply a product of my own mind state. I already knew that but none the less thank you for putting it as you did.
howfrail – Thank you, I’m anything but strong but I guess I can try for at least another week if need be.
poisontongue – The feeling is just so overwhelming its like at the back of my mind 24/7 just nagging away telling me I want to cut…
thereishope – for now at least, I realised suicide is probably a form of self harm so I’ll put it off for another 7 days.
kf – I play video games for escapism… thank you for the idea though.
Someone suggested to me to tie a rubber band around my arm/leg and flick yourself with the rubber band over and over to create pain without breaking the skin. This doesn’t compare with cutting but at least you can kind of hurt yourself…..maybe that will be a good enough release?
I hope you find a good substitute.
Someone suggested to me to tie a rubber band around my arm/leg and flick yourself with the rubber band over and over to create pain without breaking the skin. This doesn’t compare with cutting but at least you can kind of hurt yourself…..maybe that will be a good enough release?
I hope you find a good substitute.
Also, if you do find a suitable substitute to cutting that’s not my rubber-band idea, please let me know!
Yes I’m a Christian. And while I do admit I’m struggling in my faith right now, I realize that Jesus is there to guide me, even when I feel down. And I believe that God can communicate to people without actually talking to them.