Not that anyone cared, anyways I need to vent a bit because I have no one to go to. I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years and she told me last night that she’s perfectly okay with dying, and she isn’t worried about anything, I’m not sure how to take that, she told me she knew it was selfish but she didn’t care. Is it wrong for me to be heartbroken that she said that or am I just overreacting? It’s like she doesn’t even care that I exist
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Hey there, I was wondering how you were. Has your living situation improved at all?
No, it’s normal to feel heartbroken. I’m not sure what to say, but people can both care for someone and want to die at the same time. I guess it’s just a sense of futility…
I was similar to your girlfriend I told the guy I was dating I wanted to die and attempted suicide multiple times. It wasn’t that I didnt love him or care about him I just felt like such a shitty person I felt so much pain. I was consumed in the pain in the hopelessness I didn’t feel like I mattered to him. In fact I felt that he was better off without me and I didn’t think much else. He gave me an ultimatum one day and said that if I stayed the way I was then we were over. And I tried I never tried so hard in my life to get better. You can’t force people to get better they have to want to get better, I wanted to get better for him to save us.
Dont get me wrong, but you are very lucky having a girlfriend to talk to. You should show her how much you appreciate that. If she says she is fine with dying, she has nothing to hold on to in this life. Give her something that makes her WANT to live. It is okay to not fear death itself, but you should fear losing everything that has a value to you. If she doesn’t fear dying then she doesn’t have anything that is worth living for. Be the person that helps her out of her situation, BE her reason to live. And sooner or later she will find other values that make her life worth living.
Hey, I remember you!
I’ve thought about this, but I have never experienced it. Although, I would agree with Persephone. Well, at least she told you, so maybe she does care about you deep down?
@Persephone hello 👋 not just yet but I’m stilling trying the people who told me they would help aren’t exactly pulling through.
And everyone else it’s just she told me she had nothing to live for and it’s not like I don’t understand, she’s been one of my reasons for not killing myself for the past four years and I treat her as good as I possibly can and I respect her, she didn’t tell me I had to pry it out of her, being depressed myself of course I noticed the signs but I didn’t think she was going to say that and It has me here thinking I’m so worthless that my own girlfriend has lost interest in me
I hope everything will work out…
Well, four years is a long time. I’m sure she still cares for you, but I can’t lie… people can sometimes start to lose interest after long periods. Don’t give up on her yet – maybe she’s just really depressed. You could try to bring new verve into your relationship. You’re not worthless at all; don’t think that. If she’s going through pain she might just feel like she’s not worthy of you, or something.