Being humiliated is the worst thing that can happen to me, it goes back to junior high and traumatized me. Today, I had a family member drive me to the drug store. I had to get shampoo and other personal items. I also went ahead and told the cashier to open the liquor cabinet for me. We were having a lovely conversation.
The family member who brought me was in the car the whole time and just as the woman was opening the liquor cabinet, she comes barging in the store yelling “I HAVE TO GO! I’M ABOUT TO LEAVE! WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH THAT? YOU DON’T NEED THAT!” I explained that I bought other items too and that I was coming. I didn’t want to escalate the situation in the store. The clerk and I went back to talking about hair products, but inside I wanted to die. I’m a grown woman. I can buy whatever the fuck I want! I have never felt so humiliated before. I explained how out of line that was to the family member and she apologized, but I still don’t accept her stupid apology.
I told her she doesn’t speak up when she needs to like when her fiancé got drunk the other night and talked to her like less than a dog. THAT’S when she should have been speaking up, but no, she has to come into a drugstore and humiliate me. I will never accept her apology. She yelled so loud in the store, everyone could hear. Fuck her. Fuck this life. I’ll never forgive that **** no matter how much she apologizes.
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Your relative is obviously in a bad relationship and projected it on you. Perhaps there is more to this, or not?
Hey hun, I’ve been where you are today. There was a time when I wasn’t working so I couldn’t afford to run my car and had to depend on friends for rides whenever we hung out together.
I can’t begin to describe the torture I had to go through because I was dependent on them to take me home. One of my friends is a chatterbox who would literally keep talking till 6am if you let him (from late evening).
So I had to sit there for at least an hour or two more than the time I wanted to go home. I’d gently pester him to leave-but it was a struggle. Fortunately I cooked up good excuses but they still took longer than I preferred.
There were many such incidents so I stopped seeing them as often and resolved to get my car working so I never have to depend on anyone else for rides or anything else. I can tell you it’s a great feeling to be independent-your own person, never answering to anyone else or relying on untrustworthy people.
I know how mad you must be at the family member but it’s probably best to forgive them but never forget and use that as a motivation to get your own job/car (hopefully you are able to work). You’ll feel so free once you’re on your own and have a nice car. But until then-just try to get along with whoever you rely on until you no longer need their help. But also be there for them, since they were there for you.
One other quick story-when I was younger, my dad took me along to search for a new house for us. He had asked for my help/input but when we were discussing the details with the realtor he very rudely told me to stay out of it. I was furious that he embarrassed me like that in front of her and I resolved never to help him in such situations again. Live and learn my friend. I hope you’re able to get your own car soon.
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Isn’t it better you take the bus and avoid all that?
Walk. Take the bus. There is no problem on that.
Mental peace is better than a ride by car!
Cut this power this person from your family has over you and go alone!
On the way u can also stop, eat sth, see other people and breath….
I would have walked to the store on my own, but my ankle gave out on me the the other day when I was walking. I was walking to the store and fell flat on the sidewalk. That was humiliating, but I brushed myself off and kept walking. That’s why I took the ride in case I fell again, but I would rather fall than be humiliated in a store. This family member did apologize, but it just doesn’t matter. Nothing can take back that humiliation. Nothing.