To go or not to go

You should leave; she already told you it was over. If she changes her mind it will be up to her to go after you, even if you moved away. You on the other hand shouldn’t sit around waiting and putting your life on hold for someone who rejected you. (Being “friends” with recent exes only causes more pain.)

On/off relationships either mean the other person doesn’t ‘love’ you like you hope they would (and have temporarily broken up with you because they want to try playing the field), or one or both people in the relationship have serious issues they need to work on that make it difficult for them to be with anyone in a romantic manner. (If they seem like they do care about you, it’s probably because of the latter.)

If you leave now it will be a win-win because it shows you are capable of enjoying life without her, you will be able to work on any internal roadblocks that may have disrupted your time with her, and you can begin to move on.

She might miss you and return later, but tell yourself you’ll be fine either way. It’s good to learn how to be alone sometimes.

And when you’re up to it, go out and casually flirt with randoms (without sleeping with them or beginning relationships with them). This will give you a chance to provide you a glimpse of the types of people that are out there besides your ex. Later on you might meet someone you genuinely feel compatible with, you never know.