Let’s look at it this way. How would you advice somebody who has been on an abusive relationship since the relationship has begun? Would you tell them to hang in there and hope their partner would change for the better? Would you tell them that the abuse is only temporary? Would you tell them to appreciate the simple things that the abuser does for them and forget about the abuse. Would you call them cowards for contemplating a breakup? Would you accuse them of being selfish and not considerate of their partner and other people involved in their relationship.
Life is like that abuser. I need a peace of mind that I cannot find out of life. There’s no reason not  try the alternative.
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I suppose the difference is that leaving an abusive relationship gives the opportunity for a better life. Whereas killing yourself promises no such opportunity (unless you’re religious.) It’s not so much peace of mind as the destruction/end of mind.
Either way they both mean you free yourself from anguish.
I like the poster comparing life to a bad relationship. It’s like the girl who gets beat up by her boyfriend and she’s like “He’s not like that ALL the time.” How many times do you have to get your ass beat before you walk away?
It’s easier to leave an abusive relationship than it is to end your life unfortunately.
@ brokenandbent30 so true hey. If it was that easy I would
Be long forgotten now.
if you look into near death experiences, you will find that there is a high possibility of there being life after death, many of the stories of people who have clinically died and then come back are so intensely moving and awe inspiring that I think anybody who is thinking of ending their life should spend some time looking at the testimonials of people who have experienced life past death. There are many testimonies from suicide survivors, and when these people return to their bodies they are usually completely changed by the experience, bringing back with them an abundance of wisdom and knowledge, not about technology and the modern perception of intelligence, but about happiness and how to live a fulfilling life. One of the things that many experience is something called a life review, which is way to show the people in this world how much they helped and/or cared for others as well as how much suffering they caused and/or suffering they had the power to help but chose not to. It is a way of showing us how important it is to love, care for, and understand one another, and how destructive it is when we live only for ourselves and block out the pain we see in others and/or do to others. So you see, the universe has its own justice system, whereas everyone who causes pain and misery to others must experience the result of misusing their own free will. In light of that, everyone is also capable of forgiveness, and that is how we let go of all the pain. Please look into this if you want to know more my friend.
On some level, I can understand how you feel ?
And how it is to be in that kind of relationship…
And it’s damn obvious that it is not easy, not at all.
If it was that easy then you wouldn’t even bother to be here…
I know it is not easy dear. Not at all.
But it is the only option you have. People don’t change. Specially the one who is constantly abusing you. That person can’t change.
(If you love someone, and your partner have a little time for you then you stop taking to him that trick can work…. he will realise that he should have give you more time and all…. you will be again in a happy relationship. )
But these kind person (constant abuser) never understand. As you told, your are constantly being abused. So, For your own peace of mind. Move on. Leave that person behind. Move on with your life. You are strong enough to do that.
Just believe in yourself. You know your life is gonna be far better than now the moment you stop allow yourself to be abused.
No one deserve to be treated like this.
How can someone treat anyone like that, specially the one who loves him/her. ?
Please don’t hang in there…
On this site there are so many persons who have mental, physical, situational and other problems.
I myself have mental issue. . And few other problems… I try so hard. I can’t control my mind. It is so hard. But still I try everyday. Every minutes. Sometimes I loose, sometime I win.
I told you about myself a little bit because I am having a mental health issue.. and I can’t control that. Well.. I can.. but it’s not that easy.. but my point here is that.. if someone is having a situational issue.. he/she is having difficulty in living just because because of some situation then he/she should immediately change his/her situation.
I know it is gonna be very hard for you. But if you are in an abusive relationship. You should immediately end this. You feel your life is worse and death is the only option you have left. Just because of that relationship
Please end this. If that person is intentionally make you feel like this… That’s not love. Please end this relationship now.
Ending this relationship would be good for you.
I don’t know if you find someone better or not…. but I am damn sure you will find a little bit of yourself or may be a little bit more than that. And You will find peace of mind.
You don’t deserve to be treated like this. No one deserve to be treated like this.
Lots of Love, Peace And Happiness For You. 🙂
@ still wondering. I’m not in an abusive relationship, I used an abusive relationship as an anology to describe my life. Like an abuse victim who cannot bear the pain anymore I have los a desire to live and should I continue living I’m guaranteed to be miserable. Life is only good for those who want to live.
Be Still listen to that silent space <3 try magic mushrooms and meditate <8
Well, life is always changing, wheter we do something to influence this change or not matters little: the world around you keeps changing all the time, at the times we hide in our rooms and at the times we try to move things. Which means it can only get better when you hit the lowest point, and it can only get worse when you’re ‘at the top’.
People, on the other Hand sometimes are very resistant to change, especially if they’re assholes.
What i’m trying to say is: I wouldn’t recommend anyone in an abusive relationship to wait for the Abuser to change (cause that’s both unlikely and rather stupid).
But your life will always change one way or the other, wheter you choose to try to leave it or not.
Also, you can have a lot of fun if you don’t care if you live or die 😉
@ oqoobo. I want nothing to do with life from now on. Ive been unhappy for 12 years and as selfish as it may sound, I think I deserve a peace of mind. If i cannot find peace of mind in life why not try the alternative. FYI life is constantly changing for the worst and this is not an exaggeration. I can’t get a job; unemployment rate in South Africa is at its worst; the fact that I’m getting older and im uneducated is not helping; I’m always rejected because of my looks and intellectual disability; I recently lost my mother who was the only person who truly cared about me and carried me as her burden. The reality is that some of us were meant to be total losers.