I compiled a list earlier of why I hate myself. I was hoping that someone could help me figure out how to get rid of negative thoughts like those when I have them. Those feelings stick around for quite a while, and I have a very hard time concentrating on schoolwork when this happens. It doesn’t help either that because I waste time thinking these thoughts and feeling bad, I waste time that I could spend working on schoolwork and studying, and in turn, I make worse grades, making me feel worse. It’s a never ending circle of sadness. I’m making good grades in some of my classes, but in professional communications and Pre-Calculus, I’m failing, which I can’t let happen. I’m even failing art class for goodness sakes. I’ve got a friend who told me that I can just let my emotions out with him and vice-versa if either of us feel like a sack of nothingness, but my mom took away my phone for getting bad grades. I just found this site, and I really hope that I can get these feelings solved quickly, before something happens that I don’t want, like crying in school or something. All help is greatly appreciated. Thanks so much for reading this.
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Here’s the list:
I’m a screw up.
Everything I do goes wrong.
Everyone hates me.
I’m an idiot.
My grades reflect the previous statement.
I’m just a waste of space.
My social skills suck.
No one will ever like me.
I can’t change any of the times that I’ve screwed up.
No one will ever be proud of me.
I can’t get things done.
I’m crying right now because I’m feeling bad for myself.
Everyone knows I’m an idiot.
I’ll never be able to get my dream job.
Anyone who calls themself my friend is doing so out of pity.
Everyone’s better off without me.
If I died, no one would care.
Why should I live? I’ll never do anything big.
I could just disappear and everyone else could get on with their lives.
I just misspelled something. I’m an idiot.
I pity myself.
I don’t deserve anything.
I don’t deserve to live.
I’ve probably forgotten a million other reasons.
My memory is horrible.
I don’t even know what my motivation is to live at this point.
I shouldn’t go to a psychiatrist.
I don’t have depression.
This has happened other times, but it’s only because of my grades.
I’m an idiot because I haven’t fixed my grades yet.
I haven’t fixed anything.
I probably never will.
My pity for myself is pathetic.
I’m a waste of space.
Noone cares if I die.
It won’t make a difference on this earth if I die.
There are millions who actually have worked hard and deserve what they have.
I’ll never amount to anything.
I don’t think I’d go to the extent of actually killing myself. It’s just these negative thoughts keep popping into my brain, and I just feel worse and worse as it goes on. I’ve already got a focusing problem, so this is just making it worse.
Try to find something that you enjoy doing. If you enjoy doing it, keep doing it. Eventually, you’ll get better at it. Then you’ll have something that you’re good at. Then you can tell yourself that you’re good at something. It’s a process, but it’ll help keep the negative thoughts at bay.
Thanks, EmptyPluto. I’ll try that. My mom doesn’t exactly want me to do anything other than studying, so I’ll have to figure out what I can do that I don’t need her permission for. Maybe I can make it my goal to get abs or something? Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate you replying to this. 🙂
Aye, exercise is great to keep negative thoughts away. Congratulations, you’ve completed the first step: think of something you can do to better your situation! Anyway, best of luck to you.
Thanks, EP! 🙂
Hey, i’ll give this a go. I won’t address each and every one, so i’ll just get to the core of it: that’s just your perception of things and it’s NOT the reality. There’s several “nevers” (nevers? neversi?, hah) that you can’t be sure of, specially the ones at long term and the ones that involve your friends or other people. EVERYONE screws up, EVERYONE has doubts about themselves… if anything, you could use some of those to improve yourself, but really, most of those are just pessimistic exaggerations/wild guesses. Take a breather, calm down, and realize that it’s just pessimistic thinking, and that you can turn things around.
As EmptyPluto said above, doing something you like (like exercising) is a great way to keep bad thoughts at bay too. And you know, you’re not a machine, you are going to fail at some point in life, even if it’s a small fail, that’s just life. Accepting and overcoming that is the real test tho. Good luck! pretty sure you’ll turn things around.
Hi! So I had a problem focusing in school because I was drowning myself in thoughts similar to yours, but because I thought it was worthless for me to even try because I put it in my mind that I was set for failure. As the person above said, though, we all fail at some point in life! we are not perfect, we all have mess ups. I was so negative and let it over take my whole life, but I didn’t want to be that way anymore.. I didn’t want to drown myself or punish myself of what I could accomplish. It’s kind of weird, but I had actually started to write down positive things on a poster. I would write good things about me, I would write things I wanted to accomplish, and I would write how I felt I could accomplish them. I put it up on my wall and read it every morning when I woke up and every night before I slept. I felt I wouldn’t get the encouragement elsewhere, so I encouraged myself. I got up every morning and I repeated everything I wrote down; “I am beautiful”, “I will make it through high school”, “remember to breathe”, “take it one day at a time”, etc. and at first I thought it was one of the most stupid things ever, but I had been doing it for about a month and I noticed a lot of positivity started showing, I was working harder, and I believed in myself a little more! You got this! I also go for walks, or just sit outside and enjoy the views, exercise, do hobbies such as writing or painting and I notice a lot of my negative energy seems to be gone even if it is just for a moment. Don’t beat yourself up so much!! You can do this.
Yup try exercise
Hi FeelingRatherBlue,
I used to think like you do, Always thinking negative about myself. I have low self-esteem (even now) to the point that i want to disappear from this world.
I don’t know if my comment can be of any help of you, but i still want to shared it to you. This is based on my own experience.
Try to think it like this. You are not alone. There are also a lot of people out there that failed on professional communication & Pre-Calculus and art. Heck, even i am bad with communicating with people or with physic and math even tough i am an adult. Everybody has their own good side & bad side. Don’t push yourself too hard. It’s ok to failed on certain subject. So just be yourself.
You only failed once or twice or thrice, but you are not a failure. It’s ok to failed on something. Failed is a way to learn something new. 🙂
I think you have trouble in concentrate is because you push yourself to much. Try not to think too hard, Try to relax once a while. Give prize to yourself whenever you achieve something after you’ve work hard. Try to show it to your parent what your good at, your best subject for example.
Sorry if my comment to long and if my english is kinda bad. Hopefully what i shared with you can be of any help for you.
Cheers~
Thanks for the advice, everyone. 🙂 I’ll try that positive poster idea, and I’m looking up different workouts that I can do without equipment. Thanks again, everyone. 🙂
I have the same kind of problem too. May God help us.
I hate to be a downer to everyone, but I haven’t been pushing myself. In fact, I’ve felt so ashamed that I don’t get my work done because I’m thinking sad thoughts that I lie to my mother about doing assignments. I’ve lied for years, now. I’m doing so poorly in those classes that I’m about to get kicked out because I’m a transfer student. In five more school days, I’ll be kicked out, and sent to the school where I’m supposed to be going, filled with people that I hate, and whom hate me just as much. I feel like shit. I made my mother cry from having lied to her so much. My mother and father are on the verge of sending me to military school, and I’ve just screwed up big time. I don’t see how I can make my grades better in so little time, so I feel hopeless. I just want this to all go away. I’m trying to stay positive, but I’ve already screwed myself over big time. I hate myself so much right now. Why could I have not done my darned schoolwork before this all happened? Why did I have to wait until right before the finals to screw myself over?!!!!??!??!?!?!