I’m new here but I use this site to vent my pain. I see people asking for help on thier suicides, but I figure that if you’re serious enough you will do your own research. Today I’m shocked to see posts belittling and demeaning those in pain. I expected those posts of people talking about better sunnier tomorrows but was seriously taken aback by those that are insulting. Good thing most people here are suicidal and not homicidal.
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Your right. Mindless empathy and agreeing with someones pessimistic statements is 100% better than giving your actual opinion on the matter.
Stop being such a control freak and learn to face adversary with a smile, instead of being a coward.
Coward? We trolling now? Mine was an opinion. Like or leave it.
Hey Az, if you mean my post, read it. It’s actually the opposite of what the title is.
Enjoyed your poetry the other day.
No, not yours. I was answering the proctological wonder that referred to those in pain as cowards
ok. i see.
You coming to LMNO’s party?
Don’t do parties, sorry
The only thing you can do is misinterpret what I am saying, and give it a negative connotation.
I never referred to anyone being in pain as a coward. I was saying that anyone mindlessly agreeing or unopen to any advice or opinion, is a coward.
Just a virtual party, unfortunately.
When?
Now at LMNO’s post, “This is it, huh?”.
I do need to apologize for his behavior though, he’s not being a very gracious host, I think he’s passed out or something.
Lol, that’s okay
I don’t know anyone here but from today’s show it looks like Immurement is having a bit of a meltdown. This is not an insult, it’s just what I’m observing. It’s sad because going back a few years it looks like he was an supportive person but just in the last 2 or 3 posts he changed his tone to one of idgaf, turning to outright hatred toward those he perceives as weak. We all go through meltdowns from time to time. They are actually useful because, from a psychological viewpoint, they show us what our biggest fears are, our deepest insecurities buried so far we don’t even know they’re there.
On any mental health support site there will be angry people but once you realize their anger is directed at their own weaknesses, not at other members in particular, it’s a little easier to handle. Still no fun and if you decide to write this site off as a failure I won’t blame you.
It’s easy to troll from behind a keyboard. I was not going to give it no more than a post.
That’s not really the case. I’ve just outgrown self loathing, undeserved empathy, and pessimism. Some people want to create their own demise and have a pity party and I’ve realized how pathetic that behavior is.
If you think I’m projecting, then you are lost.
Immurement, anger is an offshoot of fear. We only get angry at things we are somehow afraid or insecure of. If some guy smacks his own head with a hammer, it shouldn’t make you angry because there is nothing to fear or feel insecure about.
But now if someone complaining on a suicide site about something that has nothing to do with you makes you angry (afraid of something deep down), you should ask yourself why is that. Seeing how you are taking issue with “weak” people I would guess that you have a deep fear of weakness. Maybe one or both of your parents were weak. Or maybe they told you that you are weak. One way or another it is manifesting itself in anger/fear whenever you perceive weakness.
Whatever, you can tell me I’m full of shit and totally wrong, I don’t really care and was just posting this to share some basic psychology 101 on a mental health support site. at least that’s more useful than telling people that they are cowardly pieces of shit agreed? You say you’re doing it for their own good, that they need “tough love” but my guess is that won’t help them anymore then it helped you when your parent did it to you. Break the cycle.
You are sadly mistaken. I am not angry at all. I just like to speak up when nobody does and call out foolish, counterproductive behavior.
Afraid of being weak? Not in the least bit concerned of anything in that nature. I’m not trying to prove myself to anyone or anything like that because their is nothing to prove in the first place.
Stupidity is something that needs to be addressed, just because a person does that does not mean they are harboring some kind of insecurity. You are skewing my words and making a judgement that fits your own opinion.
To be honest, it sounds like you are evading anything that doesn’t jive with how you think. Running away.
“angry at things we are somehow afraid or insecure of.”
I read that somewhere once. I then saw it to be true within myself.
I’ve also seen tough love be effective but I think it needs to come from a safe place. A trusted source with where there’s a relationship built.
I’m late to the party and don’t know the specifics here but blatantly popin off at someone who’s hurting will likely make them feel more insecure.
Please don’t trivialize my Shit bubble
LMNO I was told that years ago when I was a very angry person. At the time of course I responded by saying “fuck off”. But years later it sunk in. I still get angry but I immediately ask myself what am I afraid of. 10 times out of 10 I trace it back to some insecurity. I’m much less reactive now. I’m not angry at Immurement even though he’s trying to jab at me because I’m not afraid of internet people. I’m afraid of my downstairs neighbor so if he called me an asshole I’d probably put a bullet through the floor. Because I’m afraid of him. The mind is a pretty fucked up place but we can unwind it if we try hard.