It can be hard to learn and deal with what you learn, especially in that case. I cannot give you much advice, but keep your head high. The past is the past, and although it’s to deal with, in the end, you cannot change what’s been done. If you don’t go to therapy, try it. If you’re too afraid to talk to your parents about it; go on psychologytoday.com, search your area, and examine the professionals’ accounts. When you find one you like, email them your situation, and let them help you.
I hope today/tonight is a good day/night for you!
aren’t we all? if only people knew how serious it really is to bring someone into this world. every single couple that I have met did this for selfish reasons.
what’s so saddening to me is that sometimes you know they actually did their best but they themselves were flawed and victims of their parent’s incompetence so their best has been far from enough. sigh,this world is so awful. reproduction should be banned for good. that’s the only way to end this crap once and for all.
Indeed fally. It’s a self perpetuating cycle.
I think some people rush into it, without thinking of the consequences, or find themselves knee deep in crap that is so overwhelming.
I praise anyone that can do a good job of raising a child, must be really tough and unbelievably stressfull, perhaps even more so in these times.
Another thing that sucks is that sperm is periodically recycled. Had the timing been right, had they just waited a few more days, we wouldn’t have to be suffering right now.
Born into a luck based unfair world where will power means nothing. Effort doesn’t determine success, just dumb luck (genes and the resources you have which are based on where you are born and the income of your parents).
Peaceful suicide is something all humans are entitled to. We all deserve to die when we choose.
Well said Water. I always tell this thing to others that suicide should be within arm’s reach of anyone and everyone (except if you’re someone’s parent and you’re responsible for their future).
Some of you sound like your egging this on. We know that if we weren’t born none of this would be happening. But we were born. I hate being alive, but ya know what? Even though I feel like shit myself, I can easily make other people feel better when I need to. Having this awful experience can make you very wise in the long run when you get older. Giving up now can change everything and affect future people you will meet.
what’s the point though? being wise, making others feel better, meeting new people,etc. it doesn’t fundamentally change anything. many lived long enough to meet new people and made some happy, helped others, gathered experience and died wise. where all that experience is now? what’s the difference between them and the ones who didn’t wait? I know how utterly absurd my argument is but I really can not let life deceive me anymore.
one thing you need to take into account is that all of those supposedly good deeds you mentioned above have the potential to go horribly wrong. I have this terrible experience of trying so hard with all I the good intentions I had in my heart to save a life. I ended up not only failing at it but also doing harm more than helping.
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It can be hard to learn and deal with what you learn, especially in that case. I cannot give you much advice, but keep your head high. The past is the past, and although it’s to deal with, in the end, you cannot change what’s been done. If you don’t go to therapy, try it. If you’re too afraid to talk to your parents about it; go on psychologytoday.com, search your area, and examine the professionals’ accounts. When you find one you like, email them your situation, and let them help you.
I hope today/tonight is a good day/night for you!
aren’t we all? if only people knew how serious it really is to bring someone into this world. every single couple that I have met did this for selfish reasons.
Well said fally. But even if they did so out of selfishness, they should at least have raised us responsibly, and not through child abuse.
what’s so saddening to me is that sometimes you know they actually did their best but they themselves were flawed and victims of their parent’s incompetence so their best has been far from enough. sigh,this world is so awful. reproduction should be banned for good. that’s the only way to end this crap once and for all.
Mine were simply too lazy to give me enough, that’s all. They could have done much better than they did.
Indeed fally. It’s a self perpetuating cycle.
I think some people rush into it, without thinking of the consequences, or find themselves knee deep in crap that is so overwhelming.
I praise anyone that can do a good job of raising a child, must be really tough and unbelievably stressfull, perhaps even more so in these times.
Another thing that sucks is that sperm is periodically recycled. Had the timing been right, had they just waited a few more days, we wouldn’t have to be suffering right now.
Born into a luck based unfair world where will power means nothing. Effort doesn’t determine success, just dumb luck (genes and the resources you have which are based on where you are born and the income of your parents).
Peaceful suicide is something all humans are entitled to. We all deserve to die when we choose.
Well said Water. I always tell this thing to others that suicide should be within arm’s reach of anyone and everyone (except if you’re someone’s parent and you’re responsible for their future).
Some of you sound like your egging this on. We know that if we weren’t born none of this would be happening. But we were born. I hate being alive, but ya know what? Even though I feel like shit myself, I can easily make other people feel better when I need to. Having this awful experience can make you very wise in the long run when you get older. Giving up now can change everything and affect future people you will meet.
what’s the point though? being wise, making others feel better, meeting new people,etc. it doesn’t fundamentally change anything. many lived long enough to meet new people and made some happy, helped others, gathered experience and died wise. where all that experience is now? what’s the difference between them and the ones who didn’t wait? I know how utterly absurd my argument is but I really can not let life deceive me anymore.
one thing you need to take into account is that all of those supposedly good deeds you mentioned above have the potential to go horribly wrong. I have this terrible experience of trying so hard with all I the good intentions I had in my heart to save a life. I ended up not only failing at it but also doing harm more than helping.
All parents screw up all kids.