now i know i have problems with emotionally attaching myself to a boy. currently it’s to this one boy who i have ‘liked’ for almost the past two years. i know i shouldn’t depend my happiness on him, but i don’t know how to stop it.
last year he said he liked me back, but i just told him i liked him again today, but i included that i expected him not to like me now and all he said was “thanks for your kind words”
that fucking hit me harder than it should’ve. now i feel like i can’t work on my school work or do anything for that matter. i need to move on, but i just don’t see myself ever doing it.
tips on how to move on and not be emotionally attached? and does anyone else have this problem?
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Give it time and do anything you might enjoy in the meantime.
yes, with school its been keeping my mind off him and other things that tend to make me depressed
Rejection sucks. Just wait until you think you escaped ever having to get rejected again by getting married. Yeah, in fact it turns out to be the mother of all rejections when the person you married walks away.
I honestly wish I had an answer. This one might sting for a while but you are clearly young and it will fade I promise. First it will be on your mind constantly, then it won’t be the first thought though you will frequently recall it, then less and less. When you start dating the next guy, whatever is left will get a massive push to the back of the closet. I won’t tell you that it will ever completely go away, but you will need to go out of your way to remember and probably just feel a twinge of embarrassment (I am not saying you SHOULD feel that way, just that in my experiences you probably will). The good news is the embarrassment will be the worst of it – the actual pain will not remain.
Agreed: “Yeah, in fact it turns out to be the mother of all rejections when the person you married walks away. ” I had to learn this truth the hard way. You can actually not even like the person and yet still your heart is ripped out when they walk away. Rejection up front is way better that later.
I’m sorry you guys had to experience the hard way, I wish life wasn’t this way
That’s pretty funny actually because I didn’t really like her either. But the whole point of a commitment is to work through it. I am torn between knowing that I wouldn’t have been happy anyway and just hurt that I was abandoned, again, but by someone who vowed not to. It’s an odd feeling – it wasn’t so much wrong if there is mutual dislike but it it so wrong to just walk away from a marriage like that…
There are other factors that make it worse like paying for her to go to an Ivy League med school outright and never seeing the benefit (interesting timing) and having a brand new baby. But getting my time with the baby all to me is kind of nice, so mostly the parasitic nature about how she stole all my earnings and asked for more after…
It’s better to be rejected than it is to be lead on by someone who can’t make up their mind about you. People who express their disinterest upfront are doing you a favor. You’ll feel sad for a bit, but then you can move on and forget this person, and eventually you’ll most likely find someone who wants what you are willing to offer them (in terms of a romantic relationship), and vice versa.
ah thank you, yes I see it is better to suffer through the sad emotions now