I have a girl friend who is suicidal and I’ve been by her side but I know she needs a therapist after reading a few comments I feel a little hopeless I just want her to be happy and I don’t want to lose her her family is the cause of her pain and she has told the school counselors and they notified her parents but her mom and dad aren’t taking any steps I’m on the phone with her rn and I know she feels like there’s no hope or reason to keep living in agony and I know she thinks that she doesn’t deserve me and that I don’t deserve to feel bad because of her but she means everything to me and it doesn’t bother me i just don’t want her to push me away but I also feel like that might be the right thing because we’ve been dating for 2 years and I hang out with her everyday(not kidding) and I feel like I’m limiting her from loving her self if all she lives for is me I want her to love her self and be happy but I also know how hard it is to see any hope when you feel depressed I just need advise and also needed to vent because I don’t know if I should tell her how I feel
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What you wrote sounds like it could have come from someone that loves me. Word for word, except the school part because we’re a little older.
From my POV (without being her), if handled well you dont have to limit her. You can help her love herself.
As for how she feels….. The best answer i can think of is compassion. I have bpd so sometimes things are ok and i know he loves me but sometimes im just like her and im pushing him away because hes better off.
Im actually in the middle of that rn.
Talk to her. Try to understand why she feels the way she does.
Sometimes an answer isnt always needed. Just being heard and loved can help at times.
However considering im still struggling with it myself theres only so much advice i can give, im sorry i wish i could be of more help.
Oh and maybe try the therapist. It might be of help. Id explain more but honestly im at work lol.
It occured to me unless you meant college/uni. But still not including that part because we arent in school.
Although he did try to help me when we were in school, i was just stupid.