I’m so worried about him and he absolutely refuses to even talk to me about anything, never mind let me try and help him. He always insists on going through absoluely everything by himself. It never seems to help him in any way. Right now, his plan is to get absolutely smashed until he knocks himself out. He drank a whole bottle of whisky last night.
Hello again! Not entirely sure, but I think it’s someone who wears loads of brands, like Nike and Adidas, and they usually have a baby by the age of 15! That was how I had it explained to me when I asked, but don’t rely on my answer!!
@blackmist: a chav is the english version of white trash, but they also want to try to look like they have a lot of money so they wear loads of brands… but they have no taste, so they are shit brands line nike and addidas, or fake burbury.
@hannah, your BF sounds just like my ex. Hipocrasy is a sign of emotional immaturity. So is carrying everything alone and not letting you in – my advice is to get out before this relationship destroys you. Saying that, I know how hard that is. So.. ugh. Good luck. And at a certain point you’re going to have to start cutting yourself off to protect yourself. He’s being childish and you can’t let him drag you down into the pit with him. Ha, that’s how I ended up on this site!
That’s good advice, but I can’t take it. I met him on here, we saved each other, my problems are sorted except for him, and now I intend to work on his issues if it kills me. I’m willing to accept that challenge because I love him and he’s my best friend. I know how cliche this sounds, but I can’t and won’t live without him. I’m not strong enough to end our relationship, and I’m not crazy enough yet to want to even try living without him.
You’re a good person so I’m sorry this is happening to you. I can’t offer much advice that would work because if he’s anything like my ex, well it’s just like talking to a brick wall. But I will say that… YOU are not the one who can help him. Sorry, but sometimes it’s like that. Sometimes you can’t be helped by the ones that you love. You really need to talk to an external therapist. Love and emotions get in the way too much and it all becomes muddy and confusing. Beg him to get therapy. (I did but he refused….)
Thanks. I think he could be open to therapy. I will ask him tomorow and see what he says. It’s difficult though because he’s still learning Slovak so finding a therapist may be hard! Woth a try though.
Hey, if he’s open to it, maybe he has a shot! my boyfriend totally WASN’T. Anyway, whatever happens, remember it’s not your fault. You are too close and too dear to him to help him – sorry that’s just the way it works sometimes. Haha, maybe he can combine therapy with learning slovak and kill 2 birds with one session.
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my boyfriend is pushing me to the absolute limit. He’s being so bloody hypocritical.
I’m so worried about him and he absolutely refuses to even talk to me about anything, never mind let me try and help him. He always insists on going through absoluely everything by himself. It never seems to help him in any way. Right now, his plan is to get absolutely smashed until he knocks himself out. He drank a whole bottle of whisky last night.
I’m so sorry I’m ranting. I just have to get this out before I say or do something I’m going to regret later. Nobody has to even answer.
what is bothering your bf?
What’s the matter with your boyfriend that he has to knock himself out with drink.
Has he either got issues,or just a loser chav
He’s the furthes thing from a chav you can get without being a goth! He’s got issues.
its a cold world, keep your feet planted and your head to the sky.
Just hit him over the head with a pillow and tell him what he’s doing affects you too. Maybe he’ll snap out of it, maybe he won’t.
If I could hit him I would. He’s living in Slovakia for a while. I’m in the UK.
Damn. Tough nut.
Exactly.
What is a chav?
Hello again! Not entirely sure, but I think it’s someone who wears loads of brands, like Nike and Adidas, and they usually have a baby by the age of 15! That was how I had it explained to me when I asked, but don’t rely on my answer!!
@blackmist: a chav is the english version of white trash, but they also want to try to look like they have a lot of money so they wear loads of brands… but they have no taste, so they are shit brands line nike and addidas, or fake burbury.
@hannah, your BF sounds just like my ex. Hipocrasy is a sign of emotional immaturity. So is carrying everything alone and not letting you in – my advice is to get out before this relationship destroys you. Saying that, I know how hard that is. So.. ugh. Good luck. And at a certain point you’re going to have to start cutting yourself off to protect yourself. He’s being childish and you can’t let him drag you down into the pit with him. Ha, that’s how I ended up on this site!
That’s good advice, but I can’t take it. I met him on here, we saved each other, my problems are sorted except for him, and now I intend to work on his issues if it kills me. I’m willing to accept that challenge because I love him and he’s my best friend. I know how cliche this sounds, but I can’t and won’t live without him. I’m not strong enough to end our relationship, and I’m not crazy enough yet to want to even try living without him.
You’re a good person so I’m sorry this is happening to you. I can’t offer much advice that would work because if he’s anything like my ex, well it’s just like talking to a brick wall. But I will say that… YOU are not the one who can help him. Sorry, but sometimes it’s like that. Sometimes you can’t be helped by the ones that you love. You really need to talk to an external therapist. Love and emotions get in the way too much and it all becomes muddy and confusing. Beg him to get therapy. (I did but he refused….)
Thanks. I think he could be open to therapy. I will ask him tomorow and see what he says. It’s difficult though because he’s still learning Slovak so finding a therapist may be hard! Woth a try though.
Hey, if he’s open to it, maybe he has a shot! my boyfriend totally WASN’T. Anyway, whatever happens, remember it’s not your fault. You are too close and too dear to him to help him – sorry that’s just the way it works sometimes. Haha, maybe he can combine therapy with learning slovak and kill 2 birds with one session.