I know this is really selfish but i want to feel like the middle of someones world for just a second. Not any longer. I want someone to come up to me, put their arms around me and say “Hey, how was your day?”
Just once.
Just such an awful feeling when you give and give and everyone just seems to take.
@deeplyconfused, thanks *hug* it was okay, got some homework done and had a pretty shitty dinner. Hopefully i can finish all my essays for Uni soon and have some time off.
(Although saying this over the internet is fine it would have taken 5 minutes to say that to my family. It’s not that hard. I know it isn’t because I listen to them)
I used to want affection and I don’t think that it is totally gone yet, but now I just live with NO emotion at all. None. I don’t want anything from anyone anymore. I know better.
affection is a great and wonderful thing … unfortunately now a days it usually comes with strings attached … loyalty, honor, compassion and fairness are sorely lacking in society today.
You may all think that you don’t need affection or other people anymore, as do i at times. But we all know that to survive we need affection and we need other people or we would cease to exist.
Maybe that is why we isolate ourselves when we are depressed. Maybe it is a biological evolution type of thing, telling us to slowly shut down and die when we feel this immense pain.
I am not a ‘teenager’ or a ‘big baby’, and i don’t really have a need for money. I have never understood how such an object has become the root of existence for many people.
If I could have a choice I would choose an isolated house with a clone of myself. They would really understand me.
But each to their own, people want different things in life and we should all respect that. Not criticize them for it.
To clarify – I was only agreeing with truth’s statement about needing cash – which I do … not for frivolous wants, but for survival and security … here’s nothing worse than waiting for the eviction notice … except of course getting the eviction notice. nothing in life is free so money has it’s utility … no one want’s to hug a poor, homeless loser and all the hugs in the world won’t feed the dogs. everyone “needs” money or something of value to barter in today’s society … the “want” of money is relative to the need to procure the needs for survival (or even death).
greed, on the other hand, those that live to accumulate wealth – in THAT context I agree with you that I don’t understand how people can amass such vast amounts of wealth while others go hungry or hide under bridges to get out of the rain.
I think I could go the rest of my life without interacting with others as long as I had my dogs … but that isn’t really a realistic scenario but I would not prefer it … and as for affection … well, I’m old and jaded now so i always wonder why someone might want to be affectionate, what’s their “angle” … it always seems anymore these days that somebody is out to “get” something for their “trouble”
Apologies if it appeared that I was agreeing with the “big baby” comment – it was not my intent – it’s actually a fairly rude and insensitive comment.
solace, have you thought of a support group? there may be free ones in your community. they can be incredibly powerful, and you can get hugs there, too. i think most people inherently want to connect with each other and express care. there are billions of us in the world. π anyway, i’m giving you a mental hug right now, and wishing you well.
I believe we all need some form of interaction at varying degrees, but not everyone needs displays of affection
really, I’d rather have someone give me cash .. I don’t care for wealth in itself (having money wouldn’t make me feel superior), I look at money as a tool for opening doors .. more money, more open doors .. no money, one foot in the grave
I didn’t call you a teen and a big baby, I only called you a big baby π
and I meant it in an affectionate way, I didn’t mean to be rude :/
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Yeah… Me too.
We all need that. How was your day? *hug* x
Just such an awful feeling when you give and give and everyone just seems to take.
@deeplyconfused, thanks *hug* it was okay, got some homework done and had a pretty shitty dinner. Hopefully i can finish all my essays for Uni soon and have some time off.
(Although saying this over the internet is fine it would have taken 5 minutes to say that to my family. It’s not that hard. I know it isn’t because I listen to them)
awwww .. a big baby in an adult body π
I’d rather have someone give me cash
How shallow and sad, truthbetold.
I’m with you truthbetold … send cash … and lots of it … it’s the only thing that will save me.
broke dawg
how condenscending of you, deeplyconfused
I used to want affection badly in my teens .. I’m truly sorry I’ve gotten over it π
I used to want affection and I don’t think that it is totally gone yet, but now I just live with NO emotion at all. None. I don’t want anything from anyone anymore. I know better.
I want this too, how great would it be to find someone that really wanted to know you through and through. We all deserve this.
affection is a great and wonderful thing … unfortunately now a days it usually comes with strings attached … loyalty, honor, compassion and fairness are sorely lacking in society today.
shame dawg
You may all think that you don’t need affection or other people anymore, as do i at times. But we all know that to survive we need affection and we need other people or we would cease to exist.
Maybe that is why we isolate ourselves when we are depressed. Maybe it is a biological evolution type of thing, telling us to slowly shut down and die when we feel this immense pain.
I am not a ‘teenager’ or a ‘big baby’, and i don’t really have a need for money. I have never understood how such an object has become the root of existence for many people.
If I could have a choice I would choose an isolated house with a clone of myself. They would really understand me.
But each to their own, people want different things in life and we should all respect that. Not criticize them for it.
To clarify – I was only agreeing with truth’s statement about needing cash – which I do … not for frivolous wants, but for survival and security … here’s nothing worse than waiting for the eviction notice … except of course getting the eviction notice. nothing in life is free so money has it’s utility … no one want’s to hug a poor, homeless loser and all the hugs in the world won’t feed the dogs. everyone “needs” money or something of value to barter in today’s society … the “want” of money is relative to the need to procure the needs for survival (or even death).
greed, on the other hand, those that live to accumulate wealth – in THAT context I agree with you that I don’t understand how people can amass such vast amounts of wealth while others go hungry or hide under bridges to get out of the rain.
I think I could go the rest of my life without interacting with others as long as I had my dogs … but that isn’t really a realistic scenario but I would not prefer it … and as for affection … well, I’m old and jaded now so i always wonder why someone might want to be affectionate, what’s their “angle” … it always seems anymore these days that somebody is out to “get” something for their “trouble”
Apologies if it appeared that I was agreeing with the “big baby” comment – it was not my intent – it’s actually a fairly rude and insensitive comment.
money dawg
solace, have you thought of a support group? there may be free ones in your community. they can be incredibly powerful, and you can get hugs there, too. i think most people inherently want to connect with each other and express care. there are billions of us in the world. π anyway, i’m giving you a mental hug right now, and wishing you well.
I believe we all need some form of interaction at varying degrees, but not everyone needs displays of affection
really, I’d rather have someone give me cash .. I don’t care for wealth in itself (having money wouldn’t make me feel superior), I look at money as a tool for opening doors .. more money, more open doors .. no money, one foot in the grave
I didn’t call you a teen and a big baby, I only called you a big baby π
and I meant it in an affectionate way, I didn’t mean to be rude :/