Adultery is the case that a commitment broken.
Those who not married but cheated with real actions or just flirtings, the substantial commitment bonded is violated there.
And by law in most countries, people are free to engage in sex as long as they are not married and within the law abiding.
So the law seems to agree that lies are permitted to those people even sex is related.
Then why marriage is to be set being so sacred ? Some religious people even bind words of “till death do us apart”. Do we really have to die ?
Isn’t that only to bind the sharing responsibility of children and wealth among the couple ?
If really want to bind that sacredly, may be better first be a Catholic.
But then by law, divorce is so easy afterwards, the Catholic church just can’t do a thing about it.
Oh, there’s so much conflict out there in this world, with just marriage alone.
Sex is said to be sacred between the married couple, to bring prosperous beautiful children. A poet may write on that.
Sex is also thought to be beautiful with love between 2 unmarried couple. Love stories and movies promoted it.
There are also people here with platonic passion, or always trying to stay pure by driving away sex thoughts in order to get a sacred relationship. However, one of the partner may at the end find an excuse or a sex-partner and drop words like “sorry, you’re not my type”.
The ten commandments include adultery as a sin, has its big reason.
Buddhist also has a big law about sex too.
Sex can bring great passion but also grief.
You can’t do without it, but you can’t just have it without grief that follows.
The hormones in men and women are always doing the trick.
Friends that hate each other, lovers wanted to kill, children wanted to die too.
What a world ?
I see love, but I see more hate.
Seems like the only love one can fully and safely and better bring is to himself. Fullstop.
2 comments
1) Who said you cant do without sex? I know hundreds of persons who do without it and are absolutely outstanding people. I know guys and girls who bonk several times a day, sometimes with different persons and are sick in their minds. And there are others who have someone an acceptable balance and dont cheat on each other.
2) I am not a religious person, but I love the idea of the institution of marriage and the commitment that it demands from the parties. People say that “it is just a piece of paper”. So, if it is so, what are you afraid of ? I would never engage on children with someone who would not be willing and ready to “put his / her money where their mouth are” in Yes I want. Yes, I do. I am not inventing anything. It turns out that where there is family abuse, infidelity, cheat or worse is mostly in unmarried couples or couples who come from other marriages bringing their bagage from somewhere else. The traditional christians, I mean the moderate “religion practitioners” dont make headlines of beating or cheating.
Our modern society has wrecked havoc in couples. We have here thousands of victims coming from parents who have no values, and who should have never been allowed to get married.
I have the intention to lobby to enforce tests and trials for prospective future parents. Those who dont pass it, wont have children. It is not about their freedom, it is about the children.
Al
for genuine friendship
You are not supposed to share what you have as joy. But you should share your part to what others don’t have and they in need of.
You like a song very much, and you tell them that. But others may not share the same joy.
You are merely imposing, or teaching of what you think right, but not necessarily concurring with others.
On the other way round, can you bear to listen to your “friends” song that you don’t like ?
If you say you don’t have genuine friends, but do you realize that you are just always pushing the limits of others not to concur with you ? And are you willing to share your “friends” misery and try your best to solve it ?
If you say you are so compassionate, are you willing to dip yourself into the mess of your “friends”, and be able to resurface or risking of drowning ?
If you still think that you have to share what you think as right, and what you think to be great you define as joy, then first be a superstar to accumulate your fans, or be a philanthropist to offer yourself without asking for returns.
Because what you’re looking for is not a friend, but a copy of yourself.
It’s not easy, really not easy to sacrifice yourself, in such a hard work.
While the easy way out is being a hypocrite, or escaping, or bringing others along with your misery.