i love this site. i just found it a few weeks ago. let me tell you why i love it. i’m 37 and my biggest problem like some many others that i’ve read is loneliness. anyway, i have no one to talk to about my deepest darkest feelings. if i tell my sister how i really feel, she will say, “i dont want to hear it, do u know how many people have it worse.” but on this site you can say exactly how you feel, if someone needs support there is always some one to help, if someone doesnt want help but just wants to vent then nobody will judge them.
i’m amazed how many young people think about it and the amount of people who suffer from loneliness. it doesn’t seem right that so many people are lonely.
i first tried to commit suicide when i was 14. i swallowed a whole bunch of pills but ended up waking up in the morning and than ran away. most recently, i tried to sit in the car in the garage. I guess i’m just looking for a non-violent way. but in the end i always get scared or talk myself out of it and end up suffering through more long lonely days.
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I’m surprised too, about the number of people who want to commit suicide, or think about it. It’s extremely disturbing. I, too, like this website. Perhaps it can save people from making huge mistakes. But then again, where is the person who created it? Are they suffering too?
i dont know who created it but i bet alot of people are glad its here i to am lonely and think about almost commited it to about three times now put im still here i am here to help it makes me feel good to help
Okay. The first question is — Is it true?
So let’s say I was believing the thought “They don’t care about me.” I invite everyone listening to find that group of people and follow along. So, “they don’t care about me”. I would question myself: Is it true? For listeners, “They don’t care about you — is it true?”
This work is meditation. It’s about dropping into your own answers, deep within you. Allow that knowledge and wisdom to surface. Ask and wait. We’re shown images in there. We’re shown ideas and concepts. And we awaken in there. The most powerful source in the world is inside us.
The second question is — Can you absolutely know that it’s true? “They don’t care about you — can you absolutely know that it’s true?” And then wait. Contemplate. Meditate on that question.
And then the third question — How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? How do you feel when you believe that thought? What are you like with people? How do you threat them? How do you treat yourself? What are you like as you’re standing over the sink washing out a glass, or stacking the dishwasher, when you’re believing the thought that they don’t care about you? As you track the cause-and-effect of believing that, you witness all the images of past and future, that the thought brings up and all the stress that it causes.
And notice if any addictions start to surface. Mind is the cause of all. So all addictions are born out of the mind that is believing its own stressful thoughts and has lost awareness of our own true nature. So how do you react? What happens when you believe the thought that they don’t care about you?
I love one of the variations you ask related to this third question – “Can you think of a stress-free reason to believe that thought?” It just cuts right to the core. Is there any reason why I need to keep on believing what I’m believing if it causes me such pain and sorrow or suffering or stress?
Yes, if a person is wondering what to question, then just notice what you’re believing, identify it, and ask yourself, does that thought bring peace or stress into your life?
And then there’s the fourth question. Who would you be without the thought? In that same situation that who would you be without the thought that they don’t care about you? The world becomes so visible – past, present, future – and it leaves us clear now. If you sit quietly with this question and go inside, you can see that without your belief, you would be free, happy, light-hearted. This is not a matter of denying the thought or trying to substitute a more positive thought for it. It is simply a matter of seeing who you are with the thought and who you are without it. I often say that I can’t let go of my thoughts–that’s not possible. But when I question them thoroughly, they let go of me.
And it makes you realize that you may not have been seeing reality, perhaps, ever. And that part of the human condition is that we so quickly believe all these thoughts in our mind are the truth. It’s really our perennial practice to start to unravel, or question, or inquire into them, to start seeing what is really in front of us.
I tried to kill myself with sleeping pills too but it didn’t work. Some weird things happened to me that made me feel so alone in the world, and I wished I had never existed. I didn’t want to just die…it was that I wished I had never existed in the first place. Everything seemed so meaningless.
But there is a purpose to all of this. I don’t believe in any religion because it’s all man-made theories to me…but I did start to read about people who died and came back to life, and what they experienced while they were dead. I’ve read a few books about this topic by medical doctors and now believe that there is a positive afterlife for everyone…no exception. 5% of Americans have experienced this according to a Gallup poll, so it gives me hope!
Now, whenever I feel depressed and want to end my life, I read a few stories from the Near Death website, and immediately, I again find purpose in life, knowing that Death is something I look forward to, but must wait my turn for.
http://www.near-death.com/