What others found it rubbish to have it deleted, I found it true to keep.
surrealist Says:
September 5th, 2010 at 10:08 pm
With regard to comments around marriage, let me say from experience, that it can actually bring more depression than not! It takes two unselfish, committed people to make a marriage work. It is not the Hollywood fall-in-love and everything feels so peachy as we live out the rest of our lives in bliss. I believe marriage can be great but only if it is approached by two qualifiable people – yep I use the word qualify. Marriage is not for the selfish, childish or lazy. If you are committed, diligent, caring, compassionate and empathetic, if you can look to love when you don’t “feel†like it (ie: infatuation – which is actually fantasy for the most part), then you can be certain in yourself that if you decide to marry then you are in odds that it can and will work. Now if anyone would like to debunk me that’s cool, but at least be married or have been in a previous marriage before pontificating your views, single people or those in and out of uncommitted relations have no idea, even though they think they are the biggest experts.
I also think Oracle has some good points, why are people seeking to invalidate his views? He is speaking from first-hand experience. Isn’t that what everyone here is looking for when someone shares their views, actual experience rather than textbook theories? On the one hand we look to and want people to share their truths from their spirit, but then when someone opens up about their ‘truth’, and it doesn’t necessarily gel with our own, we call it out as inappropriate in one form or other. Seems contradicting.
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My friend !
I love you. (I know, even though you may sound masculine, but pure love has no boundary at all)
I just have the wishful thought that one day we’ll have chance to talk things over drinks.
How nice it would be to see people like you sardining this crowded desert with love.
That would be like an oasis, at least.
Yes, a dream, but I need that.
oracle, so nice to see that you have further beautified to a subtle stage, I admire that.
and unity, I miss you, you are indeed a person who values the beauty of life.
the last but not all, pulling the plug, a friend here from afar sending you blessings !
little vulture, I love you too.
fireflieslite: I also agree with you.
that’s why I’m actually planning to *not* get married, even though I’m already 28 now (and here in Indonesia, there’s quite an expectation for you to already get married, have kids, basically “settling down” once you’ve reached even 26 yrs old!).
I also strongly & personally feel that as life will get harder (until I can see the ‘signs’ of humanity getting to the Higher-Consciousness path), I don’t want to ‘add more burdens’ to my future kid(s), so since I don’t plan to have kids, hence I still don’t see the point in getting married, especially to just “follow the society’s norms”. There’s NO way I’m going to do the latter.
The whole society’s “norms” is man-made invention anyway.
Well said Niki