I’m in love with my best friend’s girlfriend. Like madly in love.
I’m also going out with his ex, but I lied to him about it and lied to my girlfriend that I told him. They know and so does his girlfriend, they are willing to give me another chance but his girlfriend has lost so much respect for me but is willing to give me a chance.
I’ve tried to commit suicide once before but I woke up the next morning throwing up.
Everyone is loved, but I really don’t feel it
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So your in love with his current girlfriend and your dating his ex? Why are you doin that to him if he’s your best friend?
Before he got with his current girlfriend me and her fell in love with each other, we both told each other and we both were happy, but she told me she stopped because a rumour arose that I slept with my ex, that was several months ago.
I thought i fell out of love with her and then i then liked his ex, he said that he would be fine if we got together but I couldn’t tell him because i became scared.
I didn’t plan this! Otherwise I wouldnt be here. My feelings for his current girlfriend were repressed but they arose again really quickly
Oh okay sorry i wasnt trying to be a ***** or pick on you or make you feel worse i was just trying to understand the situation.
Its okay. I just have emotions juggling in the air.
Maybe it just wasnt meant to be and it sounds like too much drama cause your best friends involved it might not end well and you could ruin your friendship.
Hey, Anon. I just posted a similar story so I found it interesting that you posted this. When it comes down to it, ask yourself…how much do you love them both. If he’s truly your best friend, you’ll let him have a chance at happiness…and if you truly love her…you’ll let her. I know not many people are strong enough to do that, and it doesn’t make you selfish – it makes you human. But sometimes, humans aren’t very understanding of the weaknesses of humans, so be aware that your friend may not take it well…and an animosity may grow towards you.
If you choose to hide you feelings from them, you better be willing to hide it for the rest of your life because if they get married – you’ll be the bad one for being in love with her. And if you tell them, be willing to deal with the consequences of your feelings. At least that’s what I would believe.
Tell me though…why are suicidal about this? (I’m not attacking you, I’m genuinely asking.)
Before you think I’m judging you, this is my story:
http://suicideproject.org/2011/04/ambivalence/
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Hey, Anon. I just posted a similar story so I found it interesting that you posted this. When it comes down to it, ask yourself…how much do you love them both. If he’s truly your best friend, you’ll let him have a chance at happiness…and if you truly love her…you’ll let her. I know not many people are strong enough to do that, and it doesn’t make you selfish – it makes you human. But sometimes, humans aren’t very understanding of the weaknesses of humans, so be aware that your friend may not take it well…and an animosity may grow towards you.
If you choose to hide you feelings from them, you better be willing to hide it for the rest of your life because if they get married – you’ll be the bad one for being in love with her. And if you tell them, be willing to deal with the consequences of your feelings. At least that’s what I would believe.
Tell me though…why are suicidal about this? (I’m not attacking you, I’m genuinely asking.
I’m suicidal because I lost her, I have never fallen in love with someone so hard.
Everything in my life seems to go up shit creek without a boat or a paddle.
Oddly, I get the impression that you’re British. And indeed, one’s culture does have a bit to do with how one would handle this situation.
I understand how you feel but, of course, I won’t agree with that action…simply because I’d like to believe that you have the strength to deal with this. Maybe it’s my projection or my empathy or just the impression I get from you but you seem to be the type that would handle this appropriately and to the best of your ability. Although, there is no handbook on ‘loving your best friend’s significant other’ so there may not be a right way to deal but I can certainly point out a couple wrong ways – like breaking them up.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but you seem young (later teens) – mature indeed, but young nonetheless: a whole lifetime ahead of you. This is only girl that you’ve fallen that deeply for and it hurts like Hell’s damnation to know that you lost her and you have hold your tongue while you watch her be with your best friend. I’m certainly not the optimist, I’ll even be cliche enough to call myself a realist, but you’re gonna find someone else who’s gonna make this seem like just another few bad days. And that may not be what you wanna hear but it’s gonna happen…just give time a chance. Don’t give up.
No one makes you happy though; true happiness comes from within yourself…an understanding and acceptance of who you are. A character strength learnt. Discover who you are and love yourself because of it.
How long have they been together? Did you give up when you lost her or when you had to see her be happy with your best friend? That’s important question, but more importantly: do you think you will attempt again?
i just read your story and i found it interesting it seems to a grown from you and your best friends girlfriend falling in love with each other, did you originally fall in love with her and made yourself believe she loved you back or did you have proof she loved you, I’m not digging at you, just seems this could have grown from nothing maybe. and the other thing is, is it right to be going out with his ex if you still love his current gf? it’s probably a scary prospect but talk to him, you’ve already said that he was fine with you and his ex, he will probably respect the honesty?
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