lonley and lostt

I’m not exactly the best source for advice on romance, but here goes:

You have to be careful about who you decide to let into your life. I mean REALLY careful. If you choose poorly, you can end up getting burned. Once upon a time, I started dating a girl I considered one of my best friends. Now I’d probably get arrested for assault and battery if I ran into her in a public place.

Ultimately what I learned from that relationship is this: you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy in a relationship. I mean, you have to be comfortable with who you are. You have to live for YOU. Having someone else be the center of your universe will inevitably end badly.

If you can’t accept yourself for who you are, then how can anyone else?

You’re still young, so you have plenty of time to find your soul-mate. I know it’s probably not what you want to hear right now, but the best thing you can do is be patient. =/

@lalala7913: What you need to do is critically analyze the personalities and actions of your exes. What did they do that hurt you? What did they do that won your trust? How might the two be related?

Clearly that shouldn’t be the extent of your meditations on the issue, but dissecting the behavior of… *ahem* ‘undesirable’ partners can help you determine what to watch out for in the future.

But most importantly, remember what I said in my first post: “You have to be comfortable with who you are. You have to live for YOU.”

I thought that being in a relationship would help me compensate for whatever inadequacies I felt I had, but that was the exact opposite of what actually happened.

@lalala7913: Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Or so the saying goes.