If Black=ugly and tall=ugly and ugly= no value or worth, then why live? I don’t understand the reason for my existence other than sole purpose to be grateful they aren’t me. I haven’t managed to kill myself because i still fear the physical pain that must happen before the end. The pain of being alive still isn’t strong enough to make me go through it.
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Does black and tall = ugly? Shit someone better tell Naomi Campbell to stop being a supermodel
Everyone is ugly where i’m from. It’s like they all fell out of the ugly tree a hit all the branches on the way down. (you place your worth on how you look) If it’s any help i hit on ugly girl’s cause got more of a chance And some really hot girl’s are just to full on then self’s.
Them not then
OF them self’s not on them self’s
Can be the ugliest dude or chick in the world, you get that confidence “glow” and everyone will be all over you.
I guess I would sound a lil bland saying this but looking for a girl (or guy) based on looks is a little shallow. You wanna fuck someone good lookin then go out and get a ho, God knows there are enough of them around.
Otherwise, if your lookin for that relationship type, you gotta find the one whose got your back when that parties over, and sorry to say but these days with everyone just looking for one based on looks for sex, their not that easy to come by anymore
There are many “ugly” people that are happy and enjoy life,and many “good looking” people that have low confidence and are not happy.So what you are saying isn’t true.
I think you’re depressed,it can make anyone feel worthless
There are all so a lot of people who are pissed cause there ugly. If it’s stoping you living your life then see a Doctor and get some med’s. I think alot of women are insecure about how there look. If it’s any help i would do most women.
I’m asking what value ugly people have in the world.
I’ve already travelled the world. I’m almost 40. Since I clearly won’t get married and have kids, my existence is unnecessary. Black women are the least desirable women ( Psychology Today study )in the world. I’ve already done most of the things that I wanted to accomplish in life. With the exception of loving a guy and having the feelings reciprocated. You see the loneliness has become intolerable.
“Value” ? In the grand scheme of things everyone is equally worthless…or valuable? Either way. One really has to wonder what’s exactly going through your mind that you feel the need to beat yourself with such nonsense. What does your existence being unnecessary even mean? Unnecessary to what? Who is necessary? Any of the 7 billion saps could die tomorrow, the world would keep going all the same. If you’ve really done everything you’ve wanted to accomplish in life except for one thing you’re already light-years ahead most people. Even in their deathbed most can’t even begin to approach such a level of accomplishment, if what you say is true you’re already one of the lucky ones. Seems to me you have decided to beat yourself over the one thing you have persuaded yourself you can’t have.
But ok fine, let’s say you absolutely need to have a man. Are you sure your standards aren’t too high? I don’t mean for you to settle for just anyone but if you won’t go for anything less than a charming, handsome, wealthy, sensitive, intelligent and so on guy then you might as well join the queue of absolutely every woman in the world, it’s a long one. If you feel you haven’t been given the chance you deserve because of your “ugliness” you have to be willing to give that chance to men too. Everyone is flawed to all hell, the best you can do is know what handful of traits are really significant for you and be ready to be accepting of the man who has them beyond what his flaws may be. I guess your best chance would be to go and do something you love that could involve groups of people and see if this activity can serve as a bridge between you and the eventual man who loves it too.
Eh I don’t know. I’m an ugly guy myself I live with it the best I can. I sure miss my love every day since she left me but I wouldn’t recommend romance to anyone in their right mind. It always ends up badly. Always. You people who spend your days idealizing it really have no clue.
Rant rant. Take care girl.
Absurdist That’s not a comment. It’s a book. Uglyblackslut you really hate your race?
One word zoosk.
It’s hating that my race. Lets look at what options college educated black women have when the black men are in jail, didn’t attend private schools, have parents married for almost 50 years, and come from upper middle class homes. It’s culture and economics.
If there is any statitician on the board run the numbers please do. Zoosk really?!? Do you really think that I don’t have enough sense to have use the current dating sites out there?!?!
I’ve seen more pretty women with ugly men, ….. than average to handsome men with an ugly woman.
I think it has to do with instncts for the most part. A woman may be with an ugly man because she isn’t seeing the relationship in that way. Women instinctually seek security.
Men instinctually seek, reproductive prospects, even in todays world, where a man doesn’t want a child, the instincts “Rule” the mind, it seekd youthful, pretty females.
Do ugly people have value ? Wow, of course they do. How many live have you touched during your life ?
I used to be very depressed that between marriages I was alone and all I could think of was a relationship. After the last marriage, I came to this acceptance that I wasn’t cut out for relationships.
Sure I want to get laid, so what, masturbation would be all that it would be with a woman. I would be using her body to get off.
I haven’t had a yearning for Love in a long, long time and I’m free from the pain that comes with it.
I can hear the pain in your words. I was a lanky, tall, skinny, shy, dork as a teen and young adult. I filled out and didn’t attract a partner till I was working at a major oil company. So was it me or the security that the wives were after ?
I haven’t worked a (above the table job) since 2003, and haven’t had a single love interest since then. I’ve had sex, yet not any relationships, no job no love.
You’re talking statistics and demographics when you clearly have managed to override them to acheive most of your goals. Maybe part of the reason why you have a problem finding a man is because you’re a self-loathing black women, which I’ll bet makes you kind of unattractive to black men. Also, have you ever considered stepping outside of your own race?
@doolittle, come on, calling someone a slut is just not neccesary. Especially if she’s not getting laid.
The Silicon Valley has a black population of about 2.9%.
The only other black people I know are my family. The only time I met a man was living abroad. This one of the most diverse areas in the world. I was raised in it. My friends parents have immigrated here from India, Europe, and Asia. They at least understand or also speak another language. Often I was the only black person in my class and maybe 1 of three in a school. I have dated outside of my race. I also can fake it being the funny happy ****** that is easy to get along with, light enough skin to not be threatening, and if my hair is a certain texture people may think I’m biracial.
I hate that i want to kill myself due to lack of love and loneliness, than for not having 2 arms 2 legs and being relatively healthy. Yes, that selfhate I have not race. I hate I have access to freedom, money, health, but not mutual affection/love. Any Smiths fan is familiar with the song “how soon is now” – ” i am human and I need to be loved, just like everybody else does”
Get over the statistics and demographics. If you stop caring about your skin colour so much, maybe other people will as well. You can find love.
Out of interest, when you meet people, does this topic of conversation come up a lot? Because honestly, if we met and you spoke that way, I would be pretty put off. Because racism is racism, even if it’s self directed, and I would feel uncomfortable talking to you. So… maybe it’s one of those topics you should stay away from for a while? Have you tried talking t a therapist about this? Because the depth of your feelings about your skin colour probably need addressing.
I don’t hate my race. I hate that my options are reduced drastically because of my height, age, and race. That is fact. You may have the luxury to dismiss numbers, but if your chances are more probable for being struck by lightening then there is meaning. No therapist can change that. If you know of black therapists addressing this issue in the SF Bay Area by all means let me know.
Sure your options are reduced, but so are everyone’s in some way. That doesn’t mean you don’t have options. THAT is fact. Sure i have the luxury to dismiss numbers – as does every person who has the capacity to think for themselves and not buy in to what media dictates is ‘beautiful’. How many people on this website complain of exactly this same thing? There are so many people looking for exactly the same thing as you. If you could see past all the demographics and race, maybe you could see that.
Blackdugly your looking for love? Two kind’s of people. Player’s who ar allso lover’s
And ugly people. who dont play. I’m pissed dont killyour self yet. Friday.
PLAYER who are not real lover’s
Get back to me.?