I’m 5’7… so i’m too tall
My hair is shoulder length… so its too short
I hate wearing makeup… so im ugly
Ive had sex with 3 men…so im a whore
I’m pregnant…so im used
I let him beat me…so im weak
I beat him up because he beat me one time too many…so i’m a man
I cut myself…so i only want attention
I cry…so im dramatic
I’m popular and have no real friends…so im pathetic
I’m smart…so im a geek
I dont want another boyfriend…so nobody wants me
He’s had sex with me…so I belong to him
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Rain… To be honest, I don’t agree with any lines of what you posted. God created you in a certain manner… and you exercised free will along the way. You are who you are. Anybody who attaches those descriptions to the attributes you listed is simply not your friend. I’d wish them well… and move on. You don’t need that negativity and stupidity in your life. My 2 cents.
Nor do I agree with ANY line from this post. I don’t know ’bout God myself, I think you are who you are and there is NOTHING wrong with you. I think people can change, but I don’t think you need to personally. Anyhow, I don’t attach those things with you and like distant said, anyone who does tell them to move on.
girl,about being 5’7-i am so jealous. my poor feet have suffered through so many ridiculously high shoes cause i’m a short girl. (5’3.)i think the grass always does seem greener…:( my toes certainly think it would be better to be taller,after all the suffering the’ve gone through being pinched.
who says shoulder length hair isn’t pretty? I don’t like wearing makeup either. and from my experience from asking guy friends what they prefer,most of them don’t like getting lipstick or lipgloss all over their faces when you kiss them anyway. i think most the guys i know don’t like the look of too much makeup. guys? what do think?
i’m so sorry he hurt you. but HE is the one who is weak,not you. he’s pathetic. (what kind of man hits a girl?)
and you certainly don’t belong to him just because you slept with him!! and your not a whore! i don’t agree with any of these sentences either. you seem like a really good person to me. and not that my opinion matters,but he seems to suck. i’ve dated my share of jerks. usually at the time i’m so in love with them…and a year down the road i don’t know what i was thinking. love really is blind sometimes. but i hope you take our word for it,you deserve someone way better.
You all are amazing with making me feel better…I thank all of you from the bottom of my heart. Ellachristina, that made me laugh. Sometimes i want to wear heels and then i decide against it because i’d be almost the same height as any guy. 5’3 is such an adorable height. *sigh* I guess he liked girls with really long straight hair. I dont know how he expected that seeing as im Black and Puertorican with super curly hair. Yes, he always points out how other girls wear their makeup and that its what he likes. Oh it made him feel better when he beat me(because i’m a boxer) but then he got angry when he did it one day when i wasnt in the mood for it and made him only be able to see out of one eye for 4 days. Love is blind and even though i KNOW that, i still cant stop loving him. He says that if i sleep with other men, i’d belong to them too. *sigh* I will take your words for it. I dont know if I deserve better, but i’ll try to stay away from him.
you do deserve better!! ugh,he makes me mad just thinking about him. my gramma has a friend who nearly died because her husband beat her so much.she is one of the most beautiful people i know inside and out,but she didn’t see it herself. he is emotionally abusive,and i think he probably says these things to you because he’s trying to make you feel bad.as long as you believe it he has a power over you,he’s just trying to hurt you. he’s a liar and not worth it. i’m sorry,i hope i’m not offending you because i know you say you love him. but i’m saying this because i feel like you need to hear it. how he’s treating you is NOT love at all. your awesome,and you deserve someone who treats you that way.
you have to see the beautiful things we all see in you! and we just really need to switch places. my step mom cut off my curls when i was 6 and now my hair is completely straight and i’ve fried it to straw before trying to make curls but my hair is just too thick and heavy,it always falls flat. everybody always wants what they don’t have and it makes no sense! 🙁 i know this and i still wish i could change things about myself,so i know how you feel.but your gorgeous so own it!! i will too,me and in all my short glory. lol.:) thanks.:) but i hope you see yourself from a different perspective now. theres a lot of people who wish that they were tall with curly hair. your lucky to be just exactly the way you are.
Ellachristina…im so sorry about your gramma’s friend. Im certain she didnt deserve to be treated that way. I know..thats what kills me though he WANTS to make me feel so low that i cant imagine anyone wanting me when all ive ever wanted to do was please him and make him feel good. You arent offending me. You are right. Its me that is offending myself for not being able to let go of whats hurting me most. He used to love me…and the love he had for me is all i want to see most times so its all I DO see..no matter what he says or does.
It takes so very long to straighten my hair..maybe 3 hours..i used to do it to make it seem longer to him(even though ive always preferred shorter hair) I bet youre absolutely gorgeous Ella. You dont need to change anything about yourself. Even your personality is spot on 🙂 Yes…my legs are super long..i get compliments sometimes when i do wear the occasional heel…but i have issues with appearing manly and sometimes i’d prefer to be the short nonmuscular 90 pound girl with super long hair. D’awwhh Ella 🙂 im lucky to be able to talk to you in all your cute and short and straight-haired glory lol
and why shouldn’t you wear heels if you want to? i bet you have really long gorgeous legs,why not play that up? i’m always trying to make my legs look longer. i think you should show it off.
i’m really happy that you know you don’t deserve to be treated this way! i had an eating disorder for a long time,i’m in recovery now,and poor body image was a huge part of the pain i had to go through growing up. people told me over and over that i wasn’t good enough,and i started to believe them. i was abused by a step parent and i was so young,looking back at pictures now i can see that i was pretty,but i didn’t believe it because i was picked apart from 6 or so on.if people tell you something enough,we do believe it.i would be willing to bet he has put you down so much that you don’t see yourself clearly anymore,like I didn’t. what do you think?
thanks 🙂 aww,*hug* everybody is no nice on this site,i’m lucky to know all of you.I bet your gorgeous too! in a way…i think that’s the reason why they try to put us down? does that make sense? i think it’s about their own low self worth. people put other people down to make themselves feel better. it’s hard to let go of someone you love…we trust these people to be good to us,and they really let us down. it’s almost like you really feel bruised inside your heart. I believe you can do this though.we’re all here for you too. just please be safe. if you do break up,do you feel like your safe? i hope you can see how awesome you are! you have the strength inside,I know you do 🙂 i believe you’ll find a great guy who will love ou the way you deserve to be loved.
and if you prefer shorter hair,I think you should have shorter hair. why should we try to look a certain way to make someone else happy at the expense of what we want for ourselves? stay strong! and my guy friends are all leg crazy too. i think all guys are,lol. i don’t think it makes you manly at all! we gotta get some guys opinions here,i dunno if you’ve ever heard of blake lively? she is so pretty,and she’s really tall with really pretty legs. you should do whatever you feel comfortable with,but i think you should flaunt it. your tall enough to be a model. they don’t want short girls for models.lol.:)
Awwh well yes everything youre saying makes tons of sense. People can be so cruel..picking on a 6 year old and telling her she isnt good enough..this world..so corrupt. That may very well be the reason they put us down..ah yes, the heart bruising. Thats exactly what it is and how i feel..especially because he obviously thought i was good enought to get pregnant but not good enough for anymore of his respect and time. We did break up yesterday though. It hurts but youre providing the strength i need to get over it faster than slowly 🙂 I dont know if i’m safe. He threatens me all the time..but i’m not worried. I can handle him. he wouldnt be the first or second guy ive had to handle. Ella, you are so unbelieveable nice. It pains me that you are on this site. So many good people on this site and i am also lucky to know and interract with you all. 🙂 Guys do love legs..im just a tomboy at heart though. Ive been given many opportunities to model but im way more interested in sports. I prefer jeans to shorts and shorts to miniskirts 😉 but im sure your legs are stunning. I bet girls get jealous..i know im jelaous of your height ^_^
i’m okay now though,or,i’m working on it. it’s just dealing with the stuff from the past that is hard,but i realized she is a product of her past too,i don’t think her childhood was easy either and drugs were a problem. i’ve forgiven her,if not just for her sake,but also for my own. i don’t want to carry around that anger anymore-i think it was one of my first real steps towards recovery,just letting it all go.
your safety is the most important thing,please be careful. my cousin walks to work,and she’s not in the safest neighborhood,her bf got her a taser. lol-that might seem extreme,but i think it’s really important for you to feel safe and to have a way to defend yourself if you feel like you need it. no one should feel unsafe. your really nice too! i’m sorry your here too,but I’ve learned that I can use the pain I’ve gone through to be a better person,and i’ve tried my best to choose to use it for good rather than letting it hurt me anymore. you are so awesome on this site,always helping people. 🙂 it’s terrible your here,but i’m glad i got to meet you.:) we have a pretty cool group of people here. sports are awesome though. i wish i could participate,lol but ,i’m such a klutz.but thanks.:) i’m trying to work on my self esteem. my doctor said to look in the mirror every morning and find something about myself that i like. doesn’t have to be a physical feature,but it should be sometimes. maybe you should try it too? it helps me to realize that i am pretty and to focus on the good not just what I as flaws.
hopefully we can all help each other get through our pain and move forward. and i’m jealous of your height too and your curly hair! <3 i have to go,but i'll talk to you soon. don't forget your awesome k?
Awwh Ella hope to talk to you sooner than i think. Have a great day
Have a good day, ellachristina… Take care.
thanks guys.:) you’re both so nice and completely wonderful. I’m so blessed to know you. I hope both of you have a great day too!!
o.o nah I doubt all that. Trust me…you dun sound bad. You remind me of someone else. I bet you’re as wonderful as she is..well hope you all feel good and stuff like that c:
I dislike this guy and want to beat the shit out of him. And I don’t(probably) even know him!