ugh, why? i have noticed i can talk and become friends with anyone online two of my best friends i met on SP. no they live to far to hang out but still. if i could meet everyone from online i wouldnt have many social issues, online i seem to know a lot and say things i probably wouldnt say to their face probably just “ok sorry” or “yeah uh huh” i wish life was hidden behind a screen im finding a lot easier to talk and meet people this way. i hate meeting face-to-face. probably in fear of rejection.
anyone else like me?
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Exactly like that. 🙂 my best friends (even my boyfriend) I’ve met online. I’m not as outgoing in person… Just push people away or get hurt. If I met most of you in person I think it would turn out fine. I just can’t start the socializing in person -.-
@dawn: omfg, i met bf online too! haha yay im not the only one
lol :3
I think, not having look face to face people can’t judge you for what you look like. Instead its more so your personality.
My online personality is really the person inside me, and once people get to know me that is the side they’ll see. But I’m extremely shy, and quiet due to well. I’ve had a lot of crappy experiences with how people just judge me right off the bat.
That whole rejection, ugh… man I can tell you a hundred things I would RATHER do than risk rejection.
Soooo anyways, to make this really really really short, yeah I feel the same way 🙂
-Cheers
@acommoncold: exactly, im not so shy more the fact i just think im judged for breathing, i go into a panic attack if im somewhere and a familiar face shows up, its like i cant breathe hella annoying but glad im not alone.
It’s all in the confidence of knowing that most people will respond very similar to the way the do online as face to face … if you can say it here – you can say it there – just stand up straight and say it like you know it’s true.
dawg
Im the opposite i can make friends easier face to face
@dawg: good advice i should probably use it.
@nbarules: ugh, lucky. i rather be the opposite as well.
Well…I am opposite,I make friends easily,I am quiet,not talkative kind,but as I love meeting new people and see life and their experiences through their perspective,I find it easy making new friends:) so all Cheers!
Fakingit- I can mostly meet people online better though I try to make friends face to face. My only friends here actually friended me…not the other way around so I understand that. Who are your two best friends that you met?
People are always gonna judge so I guess I’ll just have to get over my fear of being rejected. Being rejected sucks. Makes me feel worthless. But, at the end of the day, seeking approval from others is perhaps not the best way to go about.
I was born alone, will live alone and likely die alone. Just have to accept and get on with it.
With regard to the people on sc:
I like the people here. If I could, I would have loved to meet some of them and just talk about ish and hang out or something. But that’s unlikely cos I reckon we all live miles apart. would be nice tho.
yup your not the only one i havent even left my house in months and meet people online…
ya just gotta have the attitude that if they don’t like something about you – they either need to get over it or go away – cuz if they don’t like me – that’s THEIR problem – not mine 😉 … cuz I like me just fine 😀
that said – I like almost everyone as long as they don’t lie or disrespect me.
likable dawg
@dawg: yes i have been told that SO MANY times, and the last part; me too, i refer myself as wanting to be EVERYONES best friend, or other words: the one that everyone goes to for help.
I never bother with internet much before 2009 when I needed it for school, but I met my first and only lover online. Its the fear that kills me when you in person with someone. Trying to think of what to say or not say… I just need confidence lol
@Silentblue
Ugh that fear >< I wish I could totally lose that. I won't even walk into a restaurant until I know my friends are there, just because I feel like everyone is judging me.
In reality I know they probably aren't, but still you get that feeling 🙁
damn im the same way but last time i went out i got made fun of for not eating and being skinny and the waitress’s were askin to give me free food i felt like a total jack ass and then my not frend anymore im not gay but he looks good for his age 14 and this fine ass waitress was hittin on him and im just in the corner of arbys tweakin the fuck out i hate thoes days
yes talk shit i did drugs and hell i will again i turn to things like that when i dont have anyone very much alone i dont want that self image but ive given up on myself
@silentblue: exactly. i have only found love online or to far away, then once i did in my neighborhood til my confidence gave me a endless mouth and wouldnt shut up bout it. ahh internet why cant it be in reality.
@whatifimfuckingcray: wow, i do the opposite and get judged i eat but now i try to avoid it for being judged
Some people that don’t understand aren’t always sure what to say whereas people here understand a little better, it’s not you.
@RosieLeighGreen: exactly why i like it on SP cuz here it isnt me, its whoever doesnt like me, its their problem. im liked here, off of SP nope, i have nobody.
Yea it’s something that annoys me too. I think people should be taught to recognize that other people have problems and how to talk about them from a young age so that people don’t have to come to internet to feel accepted.
@fakingit
So long you have someone/something/somebody, it doesn’t matter right? Even it does suck a little… or a lot
-Cheers
@fakingit: ive been in other positions were im the most normal outgoing person but still got judged so i gave up and, im that kid who couldnt finish homework ADHD ijust couldnt stop thinking about my gf i was an easy target for a# of prick jobs i had a mexican who had earlier smoked a blunt with me chew up a LB of paper and smacked it on my face in front of everyone of my friends and then i really lost it i cryed in the bathroom for hours then finaly said i would commit suicide on the flag pole? idk i was to depressed to care howstupid it was thing is it almost worked wish it did that woulda taught that fucker to be a peaceful person ended up in fucking lifestream..
@RosieLeighGreen: i agree completely i didnt see me doing this kinda thing talking to people online but its very comforting to me
@acommoncold: i have someone, someone to far, that is, no one to pull me through physically by my side though making it suck A LOT not a little
@whatifimfuckingcray: wow, sorry u had to go through that, see this is the kinda thing that pisses me off, nice people. we get hell. bitches. they get perfection. WHY WHY WHY? ugh makes me angry knowing how nice people r but get treated so horribly, i should shut up b4 i never do, just ugh. annoying judgemental people.
@fakingit, Me either but I think there should definatley lessons in schools to help understand things like this and how to deal with fragile people and how to recognize that some people might need a bit of help.
“its whoever doesnt like me, its their problem”
BINGO!!! words to live by!
dawg
Unless theyre your boss
@RosieLeighGreen: yeah i remeber going through the depression unit last year i felt so awkward though, cuz a lot of people knew me just didnt like me cuz of depression. so i see learning stuff like this in schools has both ups and downs
@dawg: I KNOW RIGHT! finally getting knowledge off this site. lol.
@nbarules: true true
@RosieLeighGreen i know what you meanabout teaching others to be respectful but they “try” and it just makes the bullies or whoev more pissed and fuck you over more trust me the last thing i wanted to do was “snitch” but it got to out of hand hes in jail now and has made death threats to me and its e schools fault they waited to long i only had one nice teacher and i wish i still knew her she bought me clothes and was cool as hell others told me i was a dumb ass punk who wouldnt get anywere in life and gues what wish granted fuckers