screamed at my brother and now my throat hurts. Didn’t make a difference…. Fuck it. Never gonna get through to him. I never scream at anyone… If he doesn’t stop, he’s gonna lose a sister…
hurting me… Last night him and my stepdad were playfighting and Aedan decided that everytime my stepdad got near him, he would hit me. And this morning he slapped me over a song cuz I didn’t want to hear the song… we weren’t even fighting. I dissagreed and he got mad… and ‘lose’ as in the first part of the name of this site…
DON’T END YOUR LIFE , DON’T GIVE UP , REACH OUT TO ME.
Before you decide to take your life, imagine who will find you. Imagine them walking into a room, and seeing you just hanging there. Whether it be your little sister, little brother, mother father, grandparents, a friend. Imagine what will happen when they find you. No, they will not say “Finally, they’re gone.†No, they will not say “I’m happy they did that.†No, they will not say “I never loved them anyways.†They will die. Their hearts will break. They will hurt, more than you ever could. They will cry, scream, and break down. They’ll believe it’s all just a dream, praying to wake up. Except, they won’t feel that for a few seconds, or a few days, not weeks, nor months. They will feel that until the day they die. Everyday will be hell. They’ll think of you ever second. They’ll hate themselves for not being able to help or save you. They’ll wish they could die too. They’ll want to give up, just to be with you. They won’t be ever be happy again. They won’t smile. They won’t go back to their daily routine. They’ll die every time they walk past your room, or see a picture of you, or think of a memory with you. They’ll think, but stay quiet. They’ll visit your grave, feeling a knife go through their chest every time. And every morning when they wake up, no matter how long it’s been, they’ll wake up to thinking they’ll see you, only to be let down once again. And every night, they will cry themselves to sleep, because even though they refuse to admit it, know you’re gone forever.Before you decide to take your life, think of your family, burying you. Yes, your own mother and father are planning your funeral. It’s supposed to be the other way around, but it’s not. They’ll have to call the cops, sign a death certificate, pick out clothing, buy a tomb stone, a casket, pick out flower arrangements, and more; All for their child’s funeral. The morning of your funeral, everyone who loves you is wearing black. Tears are streaming down their face, while their heart is breaking. Everyone who you thought didn’t need you, or didn’t care, are waiting in line to see you. They aren’t waiting in line at a party, or a graduation, or at a wedding reception. They’re waiting to see you, hands folded, lifeless, in a casket.Before you decide to take your life, think of everyone you will be hurting. Don’t you dare so no one, because absolutely everyone will be affected. Your grandparents, won’t have a grandchild anymore. Your parents, won’t have a child anymore. Your brother or sister, won’t have a sibling anymore. Your pet, won’t have an owner anymore. That person you sit next to in class, won’t feel your presence anymore. Your teacher, won’t have a student anymore. That time your grandparents told you no, will haunt them forever, thinking it is their fault, that you are now dead. That time your parents yelled at you, will haunt them forever, thinking if they didn’t yell at you, you would still be here. That time your sibling said they hated you, will hate themselves, because they believe you would still be alive if they said they loved you instead. Those kids who made you feel bad, will wish they were dead too, because if they just smiled at you instead, you would be here. That teacher that you didn’t meet her expectations, will feel like a failure, because you would still be here, if she believed in you. Everyone, who has ever been in your presence, will hurt, because if they showed you they cared, you would still be here.
Before you decide to take your life, think. Don’t just think of yourself, think of the consequences for everyone else. No one’s life will be the same again. That person who God made specially for you, won’t have you. That happiness that was waiting for you, will never show again. Before you decide to take your life, realize that you may be ending your pain, but you’ll be starting a lifetime of everyone elses.
If you are feeling alone, and think that suicide is the only way out:
My ask is open, and I’m always here. I’ll never judge you. I’ll try to help you.
Talk to me :/ if this makes you feel worse, please email me, im here and i CARE!! your a complete stranger but i care, and i’ve been exactly where you are, reach out to me :3 Please don’t give up hope
– I RECENTLY SAVED A YOUNG 32YR OLD WOMAN on here , and heres her story,
I have seen this long post about thinking of everyone else a few times on here.
I love the passionate appeal to reaching out and finding hope.
I think we all need hope at points in our lives.
I worry that if we tell suicidal people to “think of those who will find you” that it can create more guilt for the suicidal person and those feelings of guilt can create more stress and could make someone even more suicidal.
Sometimes suicidal people do not have anyone worthy of saving themselves for.
Sometimes parents are abusive
Sometimes no one else actually cares if someone suicides
Sometimes there is no funeral, no tears, no grief
And sometimes, suicidal people actually want exactly what you are telling them to fear;
Sometimes they kill themselves hoping to inflict as much pain on their family and friends as possible.
Sometimes in our desire to “save someone” we may make promises, but we must be careful to never make a promise we cannot keep!
We must always be careful how we frame our pleas to those ideating suicide.
We must seek to find resources where they may be none, to create connections where there may be none. Sometimes the best strength we can find lies within a person, as no one else in their circl of family and friends actually cares enough.
Suicide prevention is a lot like first aid, we want to make things better without causing more harm.
“I worry that if we tell suicidal people to “think of those who will find you†that it can create more guilt for the suicidal person and those feelings of guilt can create more stress and could make someone even more suicidal.”
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screaming at someone rarely has the desired effect … and usually results in exactly the opposite of the desired effect
what is it he is “doing”? and in what way would he “lose” a sister?
curious dawg
hurting me… Last night him and my stepdad were playfighting and Aedan decided that everytime my stepdad got near him, he would hit me. And this morning he slapped me over a song cuz I didn’t want to hear the song… we weren’t even fighting. I dissagreed and he got mad… and ‘lose’ as in the first part of the name of this site…
Don’t do it <3
I try :/ I miss VA
DON’T END YOUR LIFE , DON’T GIVE UP , REACH OUT TO ME.
Before you decide to take your life, imagine who will find you. Imagine them walking into a room, and seeing you just hanging there. Whether it be your little sister, little brother, mother father, grandparents, a friend. Imagine what will happen when they find you. No, they will not say “Finally, they’re gone.†No, they will not say “I’m happy they did that.†No, they will not say “I never loved them anyways.†They will die. Their hearts will break. They will hurt, more than you ever could. They will cry, scream, and break down. They’ll believe it’s all just a dream, praying to wake up. Except, they won’t feel that for a few seconds, or a few days, not weeks, nor months. They will feel that until the day they die. Everyday will be hell. They’ll think of you ever second. They’ll hate themselves for not being able to help or save you. They’ll wish they could die too. They’ll want to give up, just to be with you. They won’t be ever be happy again. They won’t smile. They won’t go back to their daily routine. They’ll die every time they walk past your room, or see a picture of you, or think of a memory with you. They’ll think, but stay quiet. They’ll visit your grave, feeling a knife go through their chest every time. And every morning when they wake up, no matter how long it’s been, they’ll wake up to thinking they’ll see you, only to be let down once again. And every night, they will cry themselves to sleep, because even though they refuse to admit it, know you’re gone forever.Before you decide to take your life, think of your family, burying you. Yes, your own mother and father are planning your funeral. It’s supposed to be the other way around, but it’s not. They’ll have to call the cops, sign a death certificate, pick out clothing, buy a tomb stone, a casket, pick out flower arrangements, and more; All for their child’s funeral. The morning of your funeral, everyone who loves you is wearing black. Tears are streaming down their face, while their heart is breaking. Everyone who you thought didn’t need you, or didn’t care, are waiting in line to see you. They aren’t waiting in line at a party, or a graduation, or at a wedding reception. They’re waiting to see you, hands folded, lifeless, in a casket.Before you decide to take your life, think of everyone you will be hurting. Don’t you dare so no one, because absolutely everyone will be affected. Your grandparents, won’t have a grandchild anymore. Your parents, won’t have a child anymore. Your brother or sister, won’t have a sibling anymore. Your pet, won’t have an owner anymore. That person you sit next to in class, won’t feel your presence anymore. Your teacher, won’t have a student anymore. That time your grandparents told you no, will haunt them forever, thinking it is their fault, that you are now dead. That time your parents yelled at you, will haunt them forever, thinking if they didn’t yell at you, you would still be here. That time your sibling said they hated you, will hate themselves, because they believe you would still be alive if they said they loved you instead. Those kids who made you feel bad, will wish they were dead too, because if they just smiled at you instead, you would be here. That teacher that you didn’t meet her expectations, will feel like a failure, because you would still be here, if she believed in you. Everyone, who has ever been in your presence, will hurt, because if they showed you they cared, you would still be here.
Before you decide to take your life, think. Don’t just think of yourself, think of the consequences for everyone else. No one’s life will be the same again. That person who God made specially for you, won’t have you. That happiness that was waiting for you, will never show again. Before you decide to take your life, realize that you may be ending your pain, but you’ll be starting a lifetime of everyone elses.
If you are feeling alone, and think that suicide is the only way out:
My ask is open, and I’m always here. I’ll never judge you. I’ll try to help you.
Talk to me :/ if this makes you feel worse, please email me, im here and i CARE!! your a complete stranger but i care, and i’ve been exactly where you are, reach out to me :3 Please don’t give up hope
– I RECENTLY SAVED A YOUNG 32YR OLD WOMAN on here , and heres her story,
http://suicideproject.org/2012/07/thank-you-alexa/
I can help and im here.. i never left her, and i’ll never leave you, no matter how many times you push me away, i’m always here!
If you live by yourself, or your in a situation where your parents or anyone doesn’t care, I DO. Talk to me
I’ve already read all that on your original post…. and you already know that, I emailed you about it…
I have seen this long post about thinking of everyone else a few times on here.
I love the passionate appeal to reaching out and finding hope.
I think we all need hope at points in our lives.
I worry that if we tell suicidal people to “think of those who will find you” that it can create more guilt for the suicidal person and those feelings of guilt can create more stress and could make someone even more suicidal.
Remember; events create thoughts create feelings create crisis create events….
Sometimes suicidal people do not have anyone worthy of saving themselves for.
Sometimes parents are abusive
Sometimes no one else actually cares if someone suicides
Sometimes there is no funeral, no tears, no grief
And sometimes, suicidal people actually want exactly what you are telling them to fear;
Sometimes they kill themselves hoping to inflict as much pain on their family and friends as possible.
Sometimes in our desire to “save someone” we may make promises, but we must be careful to never make a promise we cannot keep!
We must always be careful how we frame our pleas to those ideating suicide.
We must seek to find resources where they may be none, to create connections where there may be none. Sometimes the best strength we can find lies within a person, as no one else in their circl of family and friends actually cares enough.
Suicide prevention is a lot like first aid, we want to make things better without causing more harm.
Thank you for caring so much!
OM shanti
“I worry that if we tell suicidal people to “think of those who will find you†that it can create more guilt for the suicidal person and those feelings of guilt can create more stress and could make someone even more suicidal.”
uh yeah I’m one of thos people -.-
Ya I kinda worried that may be the case, but your feelings are real, normal, and valid.
Suicide and depression are very complicated and all tied up with our feelings.
Peace to you.
Thank you Guardian 🙂