No, you didn’t deserve it. Cuz no one does.
And it took so long to actually figure out that I didn’t deserve it either.
I hate to be /that/ person but I’ve been through the same.
So no. you didn’t deserve any of it.
throughout the relationship he slowly took control of me, he called me names not by my name, every minute of everyday, i thought it was my fault so i cut and i got depressed and i wanted to kill myself so bad, this was all the past year. it haunts me so much. i feel like a slut. im scared of people touching me.
I had to deal with someone like him for two years. just a few month ago I was finally able to end it with him because he moved hundreds of miles away. I guess I’m lucky in a sort.
I’m lucky that my ex didn’t end up killing me.
You’re not a slut. You’re a survivor.
how am i not a slut? i agreed to have sex with him numerous times because he told me if i didnt then i didnt love him. then he raped me . cuz i said no, we were togeather for over a year, breaking up with him was the scariest thing ive ever done, even tho hes broken up with me 100’s of times and took me back. i did everything to try and be perfect enough, i gave up friends, even tho i got depressed, i cut, so he hit me, no my parents dont know any of ths. they kno we had sex they know he verbally abused me. they dont know everything in depth though. im 16. im a fucking slut.
He’s a horrible person. You need to break up with him, and if he threatens you or hurts you, call the police. You will be much better without him. He’s only hurting you and making you feel worse.
Because that’s what abusers do. They control you by making you feel bad about yourself, that you’re no good unless you do what he tells you, and if you do, you also feel bad because that’s not what you wanted. It’s hard to explain. I went out with a guy for about 2 months and he was very manipulative like that. Purposelessly making you feel bad unless you give in to what he wants and when you do, you feel sh*t about it too because you’re being forced/manipulated.
I know it’s hard, but you have to get away from this guy. Some who cares about you would never physically or verbally abuse you. You might not even want to break up with him right now, but once you do, you will realize you are much happier without him. But you have to give that time. Might take a few months.
Well, good for you for breaking up with him!! 🙂
The next step is hard but you will get better. It does take some time to undo the crap that he did to you though. A couple of months is fine; don’t be so hard on yourself. The worst is when someone f*cks with your mind.
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of course you didnt deserve it
he wouldnt have done it if there wasnt something wrong with me
no theres something wrong with him not you.
..thankyou
he did it simply for the power and control – you were a random target – it’s the abuser way. it’s NEVER your fault – and it’s NEVER “okay”
dawg
No, you didn’t deserve it. Cuz no one does.
And it took so long to actually figure out that I didn’t deserve it either.
I hate to be /that/ person but I’ve been through the same.
So no. you didn’t deserve any of it.
No you didn’t deserve it. He is wrong not you.
throughout the relationship he slowly took control of me, he called me names not by my name, every minute of everyday, i thought it was my fault so i cut and i got depressed and i wanted to kill myself so bad, this was all the past year. it haunts me so much. i feel like a slut. im scared of people touching me.
I had to deal with someone like him for two years. just a few month ago I was finally able to end it with him because he moved hundreds of miles away. I guess I’m lucky in a sort.
I’m lucky that my ex didn’t end up killing me.
You’re not a slut. You’re a survivor.
how am i not a slut? i agreed to have sex with him numerous times because he told me if i didnt then i didnt love him. then he raped me . cuz i said no, we were togeather for over a year, breaking up with him was the scariest thing ive ever done, even tho hes broken up with me 100’s of times and took me back. i did everything to try and be perfect enough, i gave up friends, even tho i got depressed, i cut, so he hit me, no my parents dont know any of ths. they kno we had sex they know he verbally abused me. they dont know everything in depth though. im 16. im a fucking slut.
He’s a horrible person. You need to break up with him, and if he threatens you or hurts you, call the police. You will be much better without him. He’s only hurting you and making you feel worse.
You’re not a slut because he forced you and used you. Rape and just sex are completely different. like I said you’re more of a survivor.
why do i feel so bad then
Because that’s what abusers do. They control you by making you feel bad about yourself, that you’re no good unless you do what he tells you, and if you do, you also feel bad because that’s not what you wanted. It’s hard to explain. I went out with a guy for about 2 months and he was very manipulative like that. Purposelessly making you feel bad unless you give in to what he wants and when you do, you feel sh*t about it too because you’re being forced/manipulated.
I know it’s hard, but you have to get away from this guy. Some who cares about you would never physically or verbally abuse you. You might not even want to break up with him right now, but once you do, you will realize you are much happier without him. But you have to give that time. Might take a few months.
i broke up with him a few months ago, but its still carrying on with mee, as i said up there ^
Oh that’s right, “ex” 😛
Well, good for you for breaking up with him!! 🙂
The next step is hard but you will get better. It does take some time to undo the crap that he did to you though. A couple of months is fine; don’t be so hard on yourself. The worst is when someone f*cks with your mind.
I know that all too well.
yeah ik, he did that too.
Cut his fucking balls off, he doesn’t deserve them!