For the second time in 3 months my 16 year old son has attempted suicide. The first time was with pills and this time which was just yesterday he put his car into a telephone pole. Its been over the same girl both times and I dont know what I should do.
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Well I would recommend asking him if he has anything he really wants to do. And if he wants to visit Iceland or snow board or hike the appalachian trail or anything, if you have the money you should because that could bring him out of depression.
he is just going through a phase. Ok a dangerous one. don’t let him out of your site. talk to a counselor or Dr.
get him to laugh for a while, dont leave him alone
over a girl? what did she do
Hi desperatemom. I’m so sorry to hear this, I have a son the same age. He won’t go to school or engage with anything except sleeping, eating, XBox and laptop, so safe to say he’s a bit screwed up. I think he may have social anxiety.
I’m no expert on parenting. Will your son sit down and talk with you? Do you think there could be deeper issues than just a girlfriend? Has he got any history of psychiatric problems at all, has his behaviour been cause for concern before?
Are you on your own dealing with this, a single parent? Does he have brothers and sisters? Who can you turn to for support, is his dad involved in his life, or any other trusted male figure or role model? There are so many variables in this situation, can you write some more about the background?
I wish you well desperatemom. I hope you succeed in getting your son the help he needs. I think the key is going to the root of the problem rather than assuming this is all about a girl. Virtually all teens get rejected in love sometime. Not all attempt suicide. Zoe x
Without knowing the specifics, your son is seriously depressed. The most important thing for you to do and maybe the only thing is to be certain he knows that you know and that you are there for him without judgment, to talk to him, and to help him. He may not want to admit to anything because he feels weak and afraid of his friends finding out. Just let him know you understand his feelings and will not pass judgement.
Thank you all. I don’t know where to start. His dad moved to Texas in 2010. My son feels like he deserted him. My dad who my son was very close to passed away a month later. He hes not been the same since. He is angry all the time and has started smoking marijuana. When the 1st time he attempted it was shortly after his girlfriend tried to kill herself. She was in hospital for 2 weeks. He felt responsible and had gotten into an argument with her and his dad the same day. I came home from work and found him unconscious on the floor. I put him in counceling. But I don’t think he is being honest with them and they are always calling and rescheduling appointments. Then yesterday he asked me if he could go to the girlfriends house to pick up his stuff cause they broke up for like the 100th time. She lives 30 min away. About 40 minutes later I get call from him telling me he wrecked. The girlfriends mom was sitting on her porch and watched him drive head on into the telephone pole. Then sent me the text he had sent her daughter rite before. The only thing that saved him this time were the airbags.
I think your the best person to answer that question is you because you know him better than anyone. After 16 years you must know what makes him tick. It was a good idea that you came on this site and researched the topic.
What works for some does not always work for others. It sounds weird but my mom buys me books that relate to topics we discuss and finds something profound to keep my mind occupied. She texts me like 5 times a day which gets a bit too much.
When I was younger I would cause all sorts of problems. There would always be a plate of biscuits and tea outside my room.
That is why I am so worried and scared. I don’t even know my own son anymore. He used to talk to me. Now nothing. He wont open up:'(
That is very common. What his thoughts on how it affects you.
He just acts like nothing has happened.
Get him the book “Its kind of a funny story” its about a highschool boy i think was 16 liek himself who was depressed and met a girl also like him and had a really nice connection. writen by a author who was also depressed. tell him exactly this don’t change it. one who dont understand usually can’t help and make things worse but maybe my words could. I am also 16 a girl who is depressed. >>” he is not the only one that goes through these horrible lifeless mood he goes into. if he dies life goes on. there has to be a passion you can find in life that will make you want to stay. there is for everyone but most haven’t found it and don’t look for it. If you die you leave people with pain to live their life. that is not fair. ” say this seriously