Has anyone else wondered this. Why? Why is this happeneing to me? What did I do to deserve this?
I’ll tell you now, I may not have been a straight A student but I am a very good person. I don’t go out and party, I don’t get drunk, I don’t smoke, I am so respectful to everyone, I’m very nice to everyone, I really have no type of social life, I always try to be the peace-maker, I am honestly just a good kid.
So, every day I wonder. What the heck did I do to deserve this!! I don’t ever try to hurt people, so what exactly did I do that was so bad that I have to go through all this. And it’s so upsetting cause it feels like all the people who are good, go through things like this, but all the kids who are disrespectful, or spoiled, or mean to others don’t have to deal with such a difficult life. They get everything. Yeah, it may be true that good things happen to bad people and vice versa, but WHY? Why does evil deserve good? People wanna be like “well life isn’t fair”. OHH, but life can be fair to all these bad people, just not me?? Okay.
This world is Twisted.
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I don’t think “good” or “bad” people exist. There are just people, all of which do good and bad things; some more than others. The universe isn’t like a friend where if you’re nice to it it will be nice to you. You didn’t do anything to “deserve” this it’s just something that unfortunately happened. ):
It’s just so upsetting, and I know you don’t believe the good/bad people but it’s true. I just sometimes feel I need to do evil to get good.
I feel better I’m not the only person who doesn’t drink, smoke anything and party all night who is young. Ha. I’ve wondered this too. You dont sound like you deserve this. The people who act the most immorally seem to do ridiculously well, I don’t understand why. Life isn’t fair, and it likes to remind you often.
VacatedHappiness, Yess, someone who understands what I’m saying! Yeah, life is just so weird and can be so terrible
KARMA is a fantasy! It does NOT exist. Like Scar504 says the Universe does not work according to such laws. Those “laws” just like religion have been made up by men. Realities like DNA and the circumstances you were born under will have much more influence in your destiny than you being a “good” or “bad” to others.
Know what? Good and evil don’t exist. The things that happen to us are just dumb fucking luck, but we are the ones who have power over how we feel and react to it.
If living clean and right leaves you miserable, then maybe it’s time to muddy the waters a little. If making peace leaves you with nothing, then maybe it’s time to make war.
Please don’t muddy the waters :/ just because bad things have happned to you that doesn’t mean you should do bad things to others. We can work one step at a time to make the world a better place.
Black Swan, I understand what you are trying to say. I may not completley agree only because that’s all I see now a days. “good for bad, bad for good.” I do agree though with how you said those realities will have the most impact.
Hah, I know exactly where you’re coming from. It’s the same for me.
Down to pretty much every detail, I’ve always been as nice as possible, always played by the rules, all that jazz, but it gets you nowhere in the end.
The way I think about it is: the people like me and you, the “good” people, we take the negatives of life, so that the others, the “bad” people, can reap the benefits. The “bad” people need us. I say this very loosely, as metaphorically as possible.
It’s hard to explain. Without darkness, there can be no light, without sadness, there is no joy. They wouldn’t have such great lives if ours weren’t so bad, otherwise, their lives would just be “normal”. We’re pretty much martyrs, in a twisted sense, but it’s one of the things I look at that make us “good”.
I really wish there was some way I could help you, I do, but sadly, I’m but a powerless “good” person.
Firstinflight; rigt, like I said I sometimes feel like I need to do wrong because it feels like what I’m doing now is just not what it takes to have a happy life.
Scar: I’m not sure who that was meant for but speaking for myself, I couldn’t “muddy the waters”. Although I think about it, I just couuldn’t do it. It’s just not me
Giegue: Thank you for the response, it was kinda hard to understand but I think I understood it enough. I never looked at it like that, and from my little understanding, it does kinda make sense. I feel it’s unfair, but it seems it’s what has to be done to make the world go round
giegue i’m not trying to call you out or anything, but i would pose the question. Why do you try to do good things? Is it because they’re good, or because you want something in return? You don’t have to answer and i’m not judging you, but if you do good things because you believe the universe will reward you then it’s just a waste of time. I think we should do good things because they’re good. Again i;m sorry if i insulted you i wasn’t trying to.
Forlorn i was replying to firstinfight
Scar is right: good and bad people don’t exist. There are good and bad actions, but it’s the intentions that count also.
Forlorn I am confused by your definition of good and bad. Do you think it’s bad to go out and party and get drunk and smoke? What is ‘bad’ about that? What’s so terrible about having fun? And if as you said you have no social life… How can you be kind to everyone… When you don’t know anyone. Or only in the most superficial way. Anyway, I wonder If yr definitions of good and bad are really just things you’ve been told to repress normal social interaction. I think it’s good to occasionally go out and party and make friends, just drink in moderation
First, I should say I didn’t mean that anyone should start doing wrong to others. It’s just that, if the way you’re living your life leaves you feeling this way, then it’s time to change the way you live your life.
There are plenty of “good” people who live wonderful, fulfilling lives and there are plenty of “bad” people whose lives are a living hell. And yes, sometimes it’s the other way around, but no-one’s asking you to be a martyr, and first and foremost you have to look after your own sense of self.
It doesn’t hurt to stand your ground, and it doesn’t hurt to stop and take a drink once in a while (provided you’re of legal age in your current jurisdiction)
ONE_DAY: When I say I’m kind to everyone, I’m saying I’m kind to everyone. If you talk to me, I will not be rude or disrespectful. When I say I have no social life, I mean I am basically on lockdown. I am not allowed to go out and do things. I understand you questioning what I said was “good” and “bad” I guess to go further into what I mean would require alot of typing that I’m not down for lol. But I will say I respect what you’re saying and understand why you’re saying.
For everyone, didn’t think people would get so touchy about what I said, so sorry, it wasn’t my intentions to upset anyone. Just express how I felt
I don’t think anyone is upset forlorn, we’re just voicing our different views.
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It’s ok I don’t think you’ve upset anyone.
Okay… So you’re polite. But that don’t necessarily mean that you are ‘good’. I know a lot of polite assholes. I question how you define good and bad because I think that might be getting in the way of your happiness. I believe a good person is someone who goes out of their way to do nice things for other people, regardless of whether they will get credit for it. That’s all that matters – whether they goto parties or drink or smoke is irrelevant. In fact, I think it’s good to go to parties and have a social life. If you don’t have a social life, then you have no capacity to help anyone because you’re not close to anyone.
yeah, I’m not upset. I guess I just express my views strongly sometimes. I think it’s good to talk openly with people who hold different opinions from your own. It broadens the mind, and if we all thought the same about everything, the world would be such a dull place!
@ Scar504
No, you’re absolutely correct.
I don’t believe in karma, I’m not religious, I don’t feel there is any divine force watching over me, dictating my good acts from bad.
It’s not so much I go out of my way to do good things, it’s more that I cannot live with doing bad things. I mean, If I see someone in need of help, my conscience will not allow me to ignore it, if I can help them. I do try my hardest to make other people feel better when I can.
I guess for me, it’s more a long the lines of: I can’t intentionally do bad things if I know they’re going to hurt someone. So I guess a more accurate way to describe me is, a “not bad” person, I’m not trying to come off as some sort of saint. Remember, my post was highly metaphorical, and I use these terms (good, bad) very loosely.
Don’t worry though, you’re not insulting me.
things such as merit, reward or punishment are nothing more than creations of your mind .. those concepts only exist, SEEM real because your own mind allows them to
you assume that because you’re nice to people, it makes you deserving of happiness and therefore you should be happy .. says who ? you’re better off if you let go of this belief
lots of people believe the Universe/God/whatever is there to reward or punish their behavior .. heaven and hell, merit, law of attraction etc
“I do/don’t deserve this”
“why (not) me?”
“how come I don’t have …”
self-inflicted torture that prevents you from living in acceptance of your reality
When somebody wins the lottery they don’t say “OH GOD!!! WHY ME? What did I do to deserve this”? It’s only bad shit that makes people feel singled out and “special”.