How do people pick themselves backup when they have reached their lowest point? I don’t have friends to boost my morale and my family, especially my father, treat my problems as if they are insignificant. I hate waking up each day doing the same routine while I look at my peers making something of their lives and building friendships and relationships. I want to have something worth waking up for, but I feel as if I’m stuck in the same process that will never end.
I have made a promise to myself to work on my speech, so I can at least control my stutter.
I have made a promise to work hard at whatever short and long term goals I want to pursue.
The only problem is that I’m just surrounded by so much negativity with no one to vent to. I want to be happy, have friends, and my own life. I just need a way to build myself up…
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It sounds like you’re on the right track.I fully understand dealing with negativity around you.That can make it difficult to stay on top of positive thoughts.But it can be done! What are your interests? Is there one thing in particular that your heart desires to excel at? Stay in touch and let me know how you’re progressing.
I can relate to what you’re saying. I also spend a lot of time thinking about the ways I need to improve. Many times I start to chase after my goals, and fail pretty quickly. It’s hard when you don’t have the support system of good friends or family to keep you going. I know exactly what you mean about waking up each day with nothing to look forward to while everyone else is living life, and feeling like you had better start trying to work on yourself so eventually you can try to live a life too. I need to lose weight, I need to clean my apartment, I need to get a job, but when life is depressing it’s easier to just find a movie to watch and try to ignore how unhappy I am. But the problem with that is that it never gets better.
So you’re not alone. I’m struggling along with you. If some days you wake up and feel like you don’t have the energy to try hard that day, try to forgive yourself. Start small. A problem I have is getting big goals too quickly. Don’t beat yourself up 24/7 trying to improve if you can’t handle it. Tell yourself that just 3 days a week you’ll set aside time to work on things, or something like that.
Good luck. I know it isn’t fun. I’m sorry to hear that there is another person like me out there who badly wants a better life but doesn’t have any friends or support to help them get there.
I’ll force myself to try to be optimistic and put a positive spin on this although that’s not my nature…. maybe we will end up stronger in the end because we didn’t have anyone else to help us on our journey. Maybe it’s better to get through struggles on our own, because depending on others can be a dangerous game to play and people can let you down.
A simple saying that helps me a lot in weak moments, “be the type of person you would respect”. When I want to give up or be lazy, I ask myself what the person I want to become would do in that situation. would respect someone who keeps a clean home and takes care of their body, currently two things I fail to do. So I need to try to get there. I don’t want to look up to other people I admire forever. I want to look in the mirror and like the person that I see in there too.
ThousandCuts is giving sound advice. When all I’ve had to keep me going or even get me going was ME, the process could take weeks. First thing I had to do was cut myself off from the negative talk outside my head. That will make it possible to get that talk under control inside my head. When I was feeling down at home, I never dealt with my parents. They had nothing constructive to say to me. So, I abandoned them to their own sad little world. A lot of people like to play up their situation because they NEED
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…to be better than others. There are people who will accept you for you and where you are in life. Don’t give up trying to find them. Maybe someone is here. Maybe someone might volunteer at a local NAMI organization. Check it out. Anyway, that’s just an example.
I’m still figuring it out myself. I’m 40 years old and starting all over again. with everything. It’s super discouraging. But I’m still here. I’m still here.