in the hopes and pursuit of love, even a damaged and broken love, where is the line between determined devotion and the space, time and distance needed to be able “miss” someone.
basically, i am unable to think clearly because my heart is in so much pain. i want to reach out every day and try my hardest to prove i won’t give up on her… on “us” really, but she has to be able to miss me too.
how do i ardently pursue her, and at the same time allow her to feel my absence enough to wish me to return?
any thoughts from any one would be appreciated…
thank you
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Love is patient
love is kind.
It does not envy
it does not boast
it is not proud.
It is not rude
it is not self-seeking
it is not easily angered
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
-Keep love in your heart. If she truly loves you she will come back. But most importantly love yourself enough to guard yourself from being taken advantage of. your love and trust will be enough, to the right person. Try to forget, and if it is meant to be, it will happen.
Love – is personal – individual – and distinctly within us – we can feel love and give love … but love cannot be taken, commanded, demanded, coerced, bought or forced from anyone else … they have their own love that they are free to give and feel at their own discretion. No matter what we may feel for someone when we make our feelings towards others known we must know we are risking that the same feelings will not be returned … this hurts – but i find i better to know i offered and was refused than to go through life wondering “what if …” for the rest of my life.
for all the songs, books, poetry etc out there that suggest there is a way to “make someone love you” – it’s not possible – all that can happen is for you o show you love them and from there they must choose to either love back or reject you offer – or offer some middle ground which is usually inadequate.
As to the original post – love itself is either a natural and mutual match or it is not … relationships and cohabitation is the aspect that takes all the work – but once the bond of love is established, the personalities and attributes of the individuals is compromised to mutually agreeable and beneficial standards – that’s the part that takes all the “work”
~~ If you love someone, set them free … if they come back they were yours … if they don’t, they never were ~~
proverbial dawg