Last Saturday was one of the happiest days of my life. I may have met the girl that I am going to marry one day. I drove down to her place and we spent the day together and even had a romantic dinner together. It was truly perfect. But unfortunately, our religious differences have driven a wedge between us. I’m a Catholic-Hindu and she is purely Catholic. I am going to try to work things out with her, because I honestly believe that we are meant to be together.
Dave
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I didn’t think there was such a thing as Hindu Catholicism. Religion has divided entire countries but despite this, I’m confident that your love will prevail.
Awww Love <3 I almost got teary-eyed reading this 😉 Thank you for posting, Dave!
@ Age of Aquarius: I’m technically a Catholic since I was baptised, but I come from a Hindu background and am more involved in the Hindu community so I consider myself a Catholic-Hindu.
@ Tardiss: Before meeting her, I didn’t believe that I would ever fall in love. 🙂
dude, never bring up religion with anyone, exspecially if their views are different from yours, sure in some cases it can lead to stimulating conversations but only if both people are open enough to except other views and secure enough in thier own to not get offended. One thing that needs to be kept in mind when dealing with women is that even when they are wrong they are right and even when the man is perfectly right he is automatically wrong due to the fact he is not a woman
@ Dave
That would make sense. It’s an interesting combination.
Good advise Procel. I guess one of my problems is that I love a good debate, because I rarely lose, but when it comes to the woman you love, it’s okay to let her win. 🙂
Those are some of the hardest differences to reconcile because religious beliefs usually affect every part of a person’s life. They effect how you choose to raise any possible children, how you see the world, and how you spend your time.
Catholic-Hindu is not a religion. It’s an amalgamation of two accepted religions that makes even less sense. If you can find it in yourself to commit to Catholicism, then at least you’d be consistent and able to keep her. I don’t really see this working out any other way.
I know I get onto you sometimes and act like a jerk, Dave, but truthfully I want this to work for you. I’ve had a similar struggle with another girl who was Christian while I was not. It’s very, very hard to make two different belief systems (or lack of a belief system) exist in an intimate relationship. If she takes her faith seriously, there isn’t much you can do. If she’s Catholic only in name though, perhaps you can respect each other’s beliefs enough to make a relationship work.
The real question here is how much do each of you believe what you say you do? I’m happy you had a great date, and I hope you can come to some sort of agreement.
@Dave i wouldnt say its ok to let the woman u love win, id say quieter! at least mine is when she gets her way, as a friend of mine says happy wife happy life, incidently, if no one apposes the religious debate being brought up, what exactly is ur belief intailing? the imalgimation of the two religions must lead to interesting views, also what could be troubling her about your religious views is the hypothetical foward motion of the relationship, if ye were to get married what cermony would be conducted, if kids came up what religion they be thought etc, a while off id imagine but women are weird that way
alrite bro i love your post. i ain’t hatin. beautiful. but how are u a catholic hindu? contradicting. i’m a roman catholic athiest. You the man anyway! thanks for sharing wondering what u were up to.
@Letmesleep: Thanks for your helpful advise man. I know that we haven’t always seen ‘eye-to-eye’ in the past, but I appreciate your honesty and I agree that if I want my relationship with her to work, then I will have to fully commit to Catholicism, because she strongly believes in her religion and church. I basically combined the aspects of Hinduism and Catholicism that I agree with into my own practical religion that I practice. I’m flexible though. I really hope that we can work things out.
I think flexibility will aid you greatly. I get what the Christians/Catholics are like – I grew up in a pastor’s home/highly religious community and no one who subscribes to that type of theistic religion really wants to budge. For them it’s morally wrong to do so.
If you can shift her direction instead of expecting her to shift towards yours, you may work out just fine. I sincerely hope you do. I understand you don’t agree with everything she believes and that’s ok, but as long as you can find more things to agree on then disagree, you should be ok. Good luck.
Also, us not seeing eye to eye was me just being an ass. You never did anything wrong, I was just frustrated about my own place in life. Being unable to get a hold of peaceful death made me feel like the entirety of society was my enemy. I’m not angry anymore because now suffering is my choice. That’s a long-winded way of apologizing for being a jerk to you. Sorry for previously giving you a hard time.
@Letmesleep: I accept your apology. I can be a bit of an ass too at times. She does seem very rigid in her religious beliefs, like a fundamentalist. I, on the other hand, know that religion is man made and has inherent flaws, but Christ was a perfected being, so he is who I worship. I don’t give a damn about those pedophile priests that have corrupted the Catholic church. Thankfully, the new Pope looks like a decent guy.
personally i never got the desire to be a practicing catholic, mabye its different in ye’r country but in mine the catholic church were the biggest bunch of phedophiles and abusers ever, if they are the ones ment to preach… god help us
@Procel: The problem in Catholicism is that the Priests are not allowed to get married. All men have sexual desires which need to be fulfilled. Anyone who denies that is fooling themselves. If Catholic Priests were allowed to marry a woman that they love, then they wouldn’t have to fuck around with the choir boys or other parishioners. Simple as that.
I thought priests usto be able to marry years and years ago (appolagies i only half listened to my history professor) but the church stopped it because when they died the priests left the house the family lived in to their next of kin, leaving the church out of pocket. seemed to be the main reason they stopped allowing the marrages, it costs the church, money and wealth seem to always be a happy side effect of the religions, isnt that strange? while people starve and live homeless the church has wealth beyond imagining. if they realy believed what they preached then why would money matter to them? if your reward is in the next life why do they live so well in this one? prehaps pope frances will be different, but an istatution that old will never change. hmm i seem to have left the topic slightly my bad :-/
Pope Francis looks like a really decent guy. Recently, he went to a prison and washed the inmates feet and then kissed them.
@Procel: Just to answer a brief question about churches and money, I think most pastors/clergy are very poor. Only in the Vatican do you see religious authorities with wealth. Most of those who choose the life of a clergyman do so because they fully believe in what they teach. They feel morally compelled to do so. However, they also have to eat.
It should be noted that I don’t believe in any deities, but from an educational standpoint I think it’s important for people to realize that the Bible commands believers to tithe. It’s not modern day pastors who made that up, it’s supposedly God who demands it.
Again, I think it’s important to realize everyone has to eat, and if someone has made it their life mission to spread “God’s Word”, then they are no exception. Tithing helps pay for them to keep teaching, among many other church functions. Many churches have multiple outreach programs or charities as well, and that money has to come from somewhere. Most believers are happy to pay what God supposedly commanded them to pay, it’s really only those of us on the outside that look in and say “why aren’t you spreading God’s love for free”?
Anyways, that was all just to answer your question about churches and money.
Thanks for all the helpful responses you guys. 🙂