I would like to make myself as unattractive to the opposite (or same) sex as possible. Because it annoys me so goddamn much when people use appearance as a basis for liking someone. I want to gouge one eye out, file my teeth down into stubs, and grow a dreadlock-beard while allowing my hair to get all matted and nasty. #$%!#$%^!^
I’m going more crazy than normal and trying to avoid shoving my head in the oven or something.
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Well… it honestly doesn’t take much for a guy to make himself unattractive.
But then you run the risk of other unattractive people using your unattractiveness as a basis for liking you!
The only way to remove appearance from the equation, is to only interact with people in ways that you can remain invisible… such as the internet.
The caveat here is that you’re basically shooting yourself in the foot, because it will be impossible to ignore just how incredibly shallow, petty, superficial, spoiled, greedy, moronic, idiotic, utterly oblivious most people really are. You’ll soon realize that despite there being 6.x billion people in this world… only a mere few are even worth the effort to discover mutual interests, attractions, and in/compatibilities. In short: most people are not worth knowing.
I find myself fighting this idea, but being constantly bombarded by ever accumulating evidence to support the very hypotheses i only reluctantly made due to evidence i couldn’t ignore, and didn’t want to be true. I tried to prove there were “other fish in the sea,” and only found that it would take a moby dick, to satisfy me. (and i mean that in a totally figurative, non-sexual way… but the irony is that most of the females i’ve had any reason to find interesting, would most likely use that same metaphor as a phallic euphemism…)
So, “first world problems,” on “i wish less people liked my appearance…”
But i totally understand not wanting so much “noise” in finding the right signals.
You said you want to grow a beard, so i’m assuming you’re male… in which case, the easiest way to make girls hate you, is to be poor, and speak the truth about the world. Most run away screaming when you blast holes in their false constructs, preventing themselves from being able to completely ignore reality. Most are still stuck in “disney princess” mode.
Instead of compromising your appearance, what you really need is a set of razor-sharp heuristics, so that you can quickly and reliably determine whether a new person is worth any of your time. If not, ignore them. If they pass the heuristics, it’s probably more than just appearances… and when/if you do find someone who passes the heuristics, it’s not a bad thing if that person also likes your appearance.
I tend to like most people – I’m unsure if that’s a character flaw for my part, or whether it’s a virtue, but it is what it is. I think the problem isn’t so much appearance that trips me up, as it is the “virtual” idea of other people. I have this idea that people view the collective mass of others as virtual, non-real, imaginary pictures in mind-space – until they get to know an individual other. At that point, the other becomes real and solid, personal and human, and the facade of symbolic thought dissipates as the two people grow closer and learn more about one another. So prior to interacting with an individual in group X, a person might think, “Oh god, they’re hideous and probably smell bad, and [insert cultural custom here] is just so damn weird!” But the person is not talking about a member of group X so much as the mental projection, built on the foundation of assumptions, of what a member of group X might be like. Based on appearance.