I’m 15, overweight and I have no friends. I’ve been overweight majority of my life, it hurts when people laugh, whisper as you walk past or insult you, it really does. It hurts the most when it’s your own family or family friends making fun of you. My parents and their friends talk about me in a different language; they think I’m too stupid to understand, but I do. I feel like I can’t confide in anyone, as when I do, the secrets usually spread. I used to have friends but they all back-stabbed me, used me, made fun of me and told all my secrets to everyone. They had even used me to take blame for they had done. Last year, I lost my iphone at the community centre, I cried for days, my parents hadn’t yelled at me. However, this just recently I had lost it again, at the same place. I now know I made a mistake bringing it since I didn’t have a lock to fully secure the locker. I never locked a locker before, and it’s never happened. The one time since the incident I bring my phone again, it’s stolen. Find My iPhone is no use and my parents yell and scream about what a stupid idiot I am.They told me I have no brains, I just feel like a big disappointment and as if I am the worst daughter ever. I also feel like a huge moneywaster since i know how hard they work to keep me alive. My parents favour my brother, you may say it’s not true, but they have told me straight up. My parents tell me to be more girly, but it’s hard since I’m fat and cannot wear most clothes. I just don’t feel accepted by anyone,  no one wants me to be me. I cry when I sleep, shower and such. I’ve had big ambitions as I’ve always wanted to be a Youtuber, but my ex-friends said not to as I would be ridiculed and they didn’t want to be the friends of an internet loser at school. I like nothing about myself, and I’m just a blemish in my parent’s lives. All I do is feel like running away, cutting or just ending it. The only time I ever get praised is in my school work, but due to the high standards I set, I find myself disappointing my parents when not getting the highest mark. Sometimes I wish that I could be THAT person, I wish I could’ve been born with talent, potential or even good looks. I wish, well I wish I wasn’t me.
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Dont rely on other people. Stop looking at the flaws in yourself and find the good things about you. i promise, there are plenty.
I’m sure you have talents! There must be something you’re good at. If you do good in school, you’re probably smart. Don’t let people get you down. Everything they have is useless if they’re rude and mean spirited. You’ll get nowhere by wishing you were someone else. As for good looks…try something new. Part your hair differently, straighten it if its curly, curl it if its straight, try dying it, etc. Try mascara, or eyeliner, or something. You’ve got to love yourself if you want anyone else to.
Remember that you matter.
being fat is not a flaw.
its sad that you have been told it is.
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no. no diet (im assuming you meant that) and excercise.
she should not have to lose weight because people lke you feel like she should be dieting and excercising.
go and try to find some common sense and brains.
@christina–
It would probably help her self-esteem and confidence if she lost the extra weight.
Thereby helping her get rid of these feelings, as she’d be able to wear more clothes and be more “girly”.
@christina
Thank you for supporting me. Lately I have tried to join a gym in order to reduce the negative comments, but I feel so awkward going because everyone there is in such good shape and I’feel like I draw all eyes onto my much less than perfect figure.I just feel so bad when I saw the look in my mom’s eye when she was told the cost of the membership/personal trainer. I’m trying my best. My personal trainer told me that by the end of my training, people at school will look at me and say ‘Wow who is that’. But I don’t want that. I don’t people to talk to me because I look different. What my personal trainer said, really made me a bit upset since I don’t wanna change myself.
@noonoo12
I don’t necessarily want to be more girly, but my parents say that all girls should be, and that all girls should be more cute, neat and love to wear new clothes and such. I prefer to wear simple clothes, but I get weird looks from people. Ever since I was a young child I never liked to play with dolls or any other toys like that.
@Noonoo
the prblem is with society making her feel like she should lose weight to feel better about herself. you are participating in this behaviour ,therefore youre a shithead.
she should try to accept herself and love herself before she makes changes to her body. because (speaking from experience) losng weight will NOT make you feel more worthy.
I used to have a neighbor who was a big girl. She played softball, and she was a lesbian. She seemed to do fine as an overweight person. Most guys don’t seem to be attracted to large women, but if you wind up going the lesbian route they don’t seem as judgmental. There are guys who are ‘chubby chasers’ though. Either way, good luck.
@mike
As a fat girl , I have met A LOT of people who think fatness is attractive, actually.
you also give shitty advice because bike riding burns almost no fat.
people like you is why there are problems in this society. you are literally just telling a 15 year old girl that she will not be attractive until she loses weight.
you are actually a worthless fuck.
duke the same goes for you ^
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@funnywwe23
Do what makes you happy. If gaining your parents approval and not being seen as an outcast is what you want – do what is necessary to get that.
@christina–
I could have told you that. Haha. 🙂 Society is the problem. So if she wants to not be gossiped about and not have people say hurtful things about her, she’s going to have to adhere to society’s standards.
That last bit is pure bollocks – that shit never works.
What good is loving yourself when all you want is other people’s approval? That’s all funnywwe23 really wants. To be like everyone else. “Accepting yourself” is just admitting defeat and giving up.
How old are you by the way?
so what youre saying is she should just not like herself the way she is because “society will not like her anway”. yeah great advice.
my age is irrelevant to this discussion. the fact you seem to think it matters makes me think you are quite young.
This is making me hungry.
@christina–
She wants to fit in. That is all.
She’ll get over it eventually, but right now, she’s feeling suicidal due to the way she’s perceived. If she’s able to change that – it’d be a positive change and she’d be able to move on with her life instead of ending it.
The way you type, and the way you get immediately defensive makes me think you’re near the same age as me. I am quite young. So how old are you? 14?15?
noonoo when you grow up you will learn that not everything is about fitting in.
people who get defensive can get defensive for reasons unknown to you. they probably never have to do with something you think.
i get defensive because when i was her age i got told the same things. and i get defensive because when i was her age, i would have liked someone sticking up for me and telling me it is okay to be who i am and not constantly being told youhave to change to fit in, and that fitting in is the most important.
but like i said,
you will learn that when you grow up.
If there is one thing we have learnt from today, it’s that you can’t belie genetics. Dawn Approach was tested by Equinome and found to be the carrier of the CC gene. This means he’s optimum distance is 6.5f up to a mile. He’s a typical CC-Type maturing early and wining over sprint distances as a juvenile. Today he contested the Epsom Derby over 1m 4f. According to his DNA he would have to be a freak of nature to win over that distance, less than 5% of CC-Types win at beyond a mile and even then it’s at a much lower class.
With doubts surrounding his stamina, Dawn Approach was held up off the pace. Unusually for him he refused to settle and was never traveling well. Entering the home straight, Dawn Approach was allowed to take up the running but no sooner had he got there that he began to weaken. Battle of Marengo went past him but he too was getting tired. Ruler of The World then swept to the lead and it was Ruler of The World that won the derby. Libertarian ran on to take second with Galileo Rock only third.
Dawn Approach trailed in stone last. He was the only CC-Type in the field. We know that Galileo, Montjeu, Monsun etc can’t pass on the CC gene.
The point is that Dawn Approach is top class. An unbeaten champion. He is built for speed and not stamina. We are all born different.
Not me. That’s somebody else.
@christina–
Loving the condescension. 😉
I don’t think you quite understood what I tried to say before. This girl is thinking about SUICIDE because she’s picked on for the way she looks. The things they say hurt her. They’re school kids. They’re not going to stop. So if she changes just a bit, they’ll leave her alone. If she looks the same way as them, she won’t have to deal with being an outcast. Because she won’t be one anymore. Got it?
This girl has no friends, but it’s ok. Do you know why? Because she loves herself. And that’s enough. Haha
You really don’t know teenagers.
Don’t try to fit in it won’t work. Don’t show that these things hurt you, in fact don’t let them. If you look around something like half the people in the world are considered over/underweight. It won’t matter as much to you when you get older. There is no harm in trying to lose weight. It’s good. You should think about changing your appearance if it’s what you want not for anyone else. They don’t really care. They aren’t worth knowing.
@funnywwe23
Read some biographies of famous people. Most of them had to go through a hard time when they where teenagers. A lot of these where haressed for their look as teenagers. Just be tough! Times are coming when your values will count!
Anyone who calls you fat or ugly isn’t worth knowing. Look at how you are inside, and I promise that’s who you are. A friend of mine is overweight, but all of her friends call her sexy. She doesn’t care what people think of her, and that, to an extent, can be a great thing in life. Don’t lose hope.