So I mentioned in my giant self absorbed rant last week that I had a date set up for Monday (yesterday). Anyway, pretty funny story. I didn’t really want to go, not that I was nervous but we just didn’t really click when we spoke. Anyway, we said we’d meet late on Monday and she’d text me letting me know where to meet her. So Sunday I left my phone in my car while I was at a get together. When I came back to it, this is what I saw (word for word):
Girl (Message 1) 6 PM: “I can’t make it on Monday but we can reschedule if you like”
Girl (Message 2) 10 PM: “You ARE A TOTAL DOUCHEBAG! WHO THE FUCK DOESN’T MESSAGE SOMEONE BACK ABOUT A DATE RIGHT AWAY!”
Girl (Message 3) 10:09 PM: “You ar a piece of shit. You are whats wrong with MEN!!!!!”
Needless to say, I did not reply haha. A nice welcome to online dating for me.
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My first thought in response to that, was: “Period much?”
She seems a little nuts.
She was crazy to date you, when you didn’t reply she got crazy lol
XD It’s so nice when they save you the trouble of getting to know them better.
Im a chick my self and i hate not being responded to when im texting someone i like but i dont go all ape shit crazy lady *Tisk Tisk Tisk* 🙂
The thing about responses is that it does suck waiting for them. It’s best to just know that the other personis really an xmen and they are fighting to save the world right now.
If a guy told me that id look at him like this: -_- and flick him in the forehead and say Seems Legit “RIDICULOUS” ahaha
And that’s kinda the thing. You never really know what someonse doing.
They are probably jackin off or eating a sandwich but they might be at the vet holding a dying kitten that someone stepped on.
If you where responding to my statement then very true but i csll Bullshit on Xmen lol aha
By definition I’m actually a mutant, so why not be an xmen?
1. would anyone really want to be involved with someone who frequently encounters (invites) seemingly “random” events, which often seem to conveniently conflict with your plans?
2. If you’re in the middle of communicating with someone, and they just… “disappear,” and you don’t hear from them for several hours… is that something you want to deal with on a regular basis?
3. If you /know/ someone is expecting a response… is it cool to just leave your phone in the car for several hours, knowing it’s likely they will attempt to contact you?
4. If someone does #3, and you don’t hear from them for several hours…
A) it sucks to wait for a message that never comes…
B) it’s best to assume they are not interested enough to be worth you being so upset about it
C) capslocked ranting insults isn’t the way to make someone more interested
As stated in the OP, the OP was not all that interested. Evidently, the “date” was… but seems to struggle with patience, perspective, and self-control.
Conjecture: I propose that this person likely does this same thing to people who she considers less interesting or unimportant, and then gets mad at them for expecting a response. Maybe /that/ is why she was so upset?
When you know someone well and have some semblance of an established relationship, ditching your phone without warning and ignoring people you know will be upset by sudden disappearances, is just wrong.
When you barely know someone, freaking out over lack of response over the course of ~4 hours, seems excessive, to me.
These types of problems can be largely avoided through increased awareness and consideration for others.