Okay so I am new to this site and I don’t really know what to do but yeah..
I’m young and I have already made many mistakes in my life.
I was talking to this guy and I sent him a picture (because he asked) of me in a bra because I figured that it was just like me being in a bathing suit. Well we just sort of stopped talking months after and I figured that he deleted everything. I started talking to another boy and we started dating, after about four months the same thing happened whit my boyfriend and I sent them because of course he was my boyfriend and he wouldn’t tell anyone right? Well a couple months after I sent him the pictures I decide that the relationship wasn’t working out so I ended things. I never actually sent neither boys a picture of me naked, only in my bra.
He told people that I sent him nudes and once the other guy heard he told people the same thing. I was fairly popular but that caused me to loose a lot of friends over that mistake. I started to have an attitude problem and I acted out. That cause me to break my closeness with my family and I feel like were not even sisters anymore. I truly regret doing all of that. But still people go on my Ask.fm (A website where people can ask anonymous questions.) They say stuff like, “You are an ugly slut. Your parents should have had an abortion. Please do everyone a favor and kill yourself.”
Every time I read something I know someone out there feels that way about me and they judge me over something that happened awhile ago.
I would feel better if I had a better relationship with my family but I just don’t know how to patch things up or if I should just give up and listen to what the people say to do because that’s what I deserve.
Just help.
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It is possible to report those incidents. A girl recently committed suicide (there have been others previously) over the comments made to her anonymously on ask.fm. You should report them on the site or at least tell your parents about it.
When taking the pictures, did you have your face in the shot? If not, then they have no proof of the person in the picture being you, and you could play it off as them making shit up.
Friends that have “ditched” you over this, couldn’t have really been friends to begin with. That’s not what friends do.
As for the problems within your family, I don’t know what to suggest, but if it’s possible, try talking to members of your family individually, telling about problems you’re having. It would probably interest them to know of the things going on with you.
Welcome to “people are horrible and will try to make you feel terrible for stupid reasons.”
Don’t kill yourself over some underwear pics. In fact, be very selective about what you take from anonymous comments on the internet.
And stop sending people undies pics. Don’t write or publish anything you might later wish you hadn’t. Be careful who you trust with your personal stuff. Keep private things private.
It doesn’t make sense for you to believe that you “deserve” to be told to kill yourself, just because you showed a few guys some underwear pics. I mean, really?
That is just “Beyond Asinine.”
Those people just enjoy making you feel bad. The best counter to that, is to refuse to feel bad. Undies pics are not such a big deal. Maybe they don’t like girls as much as they want people to think they do.
Listen, you’re young. Everyone makes mistakes. People will often amplify what they mean, whether good or bad, when they are online because they can remain anonymous.
Your family will forgive you. Don’t act out anymore (if at all possible) and it will be behind you in a few months. If look back on the ridiculously idiot things I did to my family when I was younger I feel terrible. But time passes and new things will develop, they won’t forget about you indiscretions but with time they will think about them less and less. Don’t let it get to you. Trust me, if you keep thinking about it and bringing it up it’s only going to eat you up inside. You can’t let a couple moments of weakness define who you are as a person.
I’m really sorry they did that to you. That’s cruel. But please be strong, it’s easy to lose your head over things like these. You now know to be smarter about your privacy in the future. I can promise that life truly does go on. Stay strong.
“I’m young and I have already made many mistakes in my life.”
I’m probably older and I’m still making mistakes… and I’ll probably make a lot more mistakes before all is said and done. Never give up on your family. That was one of the things I had given up on last year… and it proved to be a mistake. By having no resources… family, friends, workmates, churchmates, etc., I boxed myself into a corner. When the days got really dark, it made things really difficult.
There will ALWAYS be people who say things about you. Thanks to social media, we can now say that there will ALWAYS be people who write things about you. Such is life. There are some things in life you can’t control and other people’s gossip is one of them. Hard as it may be, don’t let it get to you.
Also… DON’T GIVE UP! You have years ahead of you. What happens now will, ultimately, mean nothing on the grand scale of things.
People are like bees. When one stings they all come to get their sting off as well. People love to gang up on anything they find out of place. As for those anonymous sites? They are for cowards because you notice they used a site where they couldn’t be identified. As stated above if it doesn’t have your face it in…you know the old saying “its not what you know its what you can prove”. Even if it does have your face on so what its not a nude picture and any friends you lost over this? They were frauds. Any friend who abandons you in a time of need is a fraud. Don’t let a picture dictate your life. Talk to your family let them know you saw the error of your ways because they will have your back. Don’t let these douche bags make you feel any less about who you are.
Thanks you so much this made me feel so much better reading it!
Hey there,
Yeah, I’ve read all of the comments, and if they were really your friends, they should have stood up for you and been more supportive.
I don’t know your age, but just so you know, not all guys are like that. If another guy asks for such a thing, and you say no, and he does not respect that, you know he is not meant for you because he does not respect you or your wishs.
If you want, you can email me. We can talk.
brl.cents@gmail.com is my email.
@stillalive You are welcome….at least I was able to help somebody