We own a small mom and pop motel which is very stressful to begin with. In 13 years we have not had to fire anyone because it would always work out that they quit first. We always preferred not to fire people but to let things run there course until the person just left. We live on an island community where everyone knows each other and many people are related. It has always been in our best interest to let things run there course and not fire any of our contract labor as not to stir the pot. We are very dependent on locals referring their family and friends to stay with us when they visit Cedar Key. I recently had to fire a contract labor person working for us. unfortunately she was a friend before she began working at our motel. I have had a good relationship with her kids entertaining them, taking them our for meals, we would trash pick the island and I would pay the girls. Their mom had a bad habit of speaking about her 11 kids to our guests and it annoyed our guests to the point they would complain to us or others in the community. We have been in this business for 13 years and have come to realize that people on vacation do not want to be annoyed. They work hard and spend good money to stay with us and they want their vacation to be happy happy happy. I had no choice but to fire this contract labor person and it has been eating me alive. i know I did what I had to do for the business but am having nightmares all the time and have to pass by this person house everyday and see her kids who hate me now. This person called us wanting to come to our house and try to stay friends. What it turned into was what did I do to get fired. It all became really ugly and she said some really nasty things to me.I tired several times in the past to tell her our guests may appear to care as not to be rude but they are actually annoyed. they want to get away from their own kids on vacation and do not want to hear about someone else’s kids, especially 11 of them. i lost my temper when she would not listen to me and began insulting my character and my personality. I have a very low self esteem and all the mean things she said put me into a suicidal state. my personality is not to hurt others but to hurt myself. This person has already caused me to cut and burn myself badly because I do not know how to deal with it. I told her to get out of my home. My husband should have been the one to escort her out once she began to insult me. I am the idiot to tell him to get her out of my house. I have severe rheumatoid arthritis and my daily pain from this adds lots of stress to my life. We have 50 animals to tend to every day and the motel business. Our lives are very stressful and even though we live on an island it is not always paradise for us. After I asked her to leave my home I went into a freak mode and again began cutting myself and hitting my head against the wall. My only sick way to handle the stress is to hurt myself. The guilt I feel for having to fire someone who has kids to support is killing me. I have lots of nightmare almost every night usually of being shot at or stabbed or chased. I awake very disoriented and sometime takes up to an hour to snap out of it. My heart races and feels heavy as does my entire left side. I so can not wait to die just to have peace in my life and no more pain. I have not had the courage to go through with killing myself because this annoying part of me stops me. Â I often hold my gun to my head and finger on the trigger but just can not pull it. I hate the side of me that stops me from ending it and it just frustrates me more. I am 48 and know that with my disease I will not live a super long life and always hope that in another 10 years or so I can find peace. I am on medication and do see a doctor but not much can take place once every two months and a 20 minute session. This is all my insurance will cover and i have had to fight just to receive some of the medications the doctor would want to prescribe because they are not generics. I am so lost right now and just want to run away for a little while.
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I went to Key West, Florida once. It was mostly gay people riding mopeds there.
I went snorkeling, the water was warm. That’s all I remember.
I don’t understand how anyone can pity a woman who didn’t learn her lesson the first 10 times. It’s her own fault she has 11 kids. Why would anyone have that many kids, without a reliable way to earn enough income to support them?
@clevername; Obviously you’re unaware that the Bible never mentions birth control.
My mom came from a family of 15 children. I once asked her “How come your parents never used birth control”? She answered “God doesn’t believe in birth control”. My Grandma was pregnant for about 20 years (she had three miscarriages and other complications, but spent most of her child bearing years pregnant). This was God’s will.
Because clevername, you are not supposed to act with conviction or thought or at the very least consideration of others. Only fulfillment of desires, weak desires.. so long as you do it with confidence! As you should know, anything can be made true by simply saying so and consequences are for someone else.
lol… it’s hilarious how i intentionally avoided any mention of gods…
My next sentence in that previous comment, was going to be: “i bet she’s catholic.”
Did you know that approximately 49% of all children are “accidents”? They were unplanned. One thing lead to another and – wahlaah- now there’s a baby.
Don’t hate people for being born. They didn’t ask to be here, and roughly half of their parents weren’t expecting them either.
@neb:
It’s strange that you say “don’t hate people for being born…”
Not sure where you inferred that i hate anyone for being born.
My issue is with the idiots to continue producing offspring without being prepared to raise them.
Obviously, as i’ve stated many times, most of us are accidents. Your “49%” stat seems a bit low.
Another thing that bothers me is how adults, or even teenagers, in this day and age, can possibly ever have unprotected sex and “not expect” conception to occur. That’s like expecting to go surfing without getting wet, or expecting to lay in a fire and not burn.
It all ties into the failure of people to teach new people discernment, and how to form accurate and appropriate expectations. People are being taught to hope in completely irrational and potentially destructive ways, and then shocked when they encounter disappointment.
“Accidents happen” is a poor excuse for shirking from accountability. I find it absolutely debilitating that people can place self-esteem in such high regard yet there has never been a time in history where a nation (America) was so bereft of principles and actual value, ie real esteem as-a-result and after-thought. But then I remember that nothing will change until it is forced to, which brings wisdom full circle.
@clevername; My 49% statistic came from the internet.
I don’t feel qualified to take care of a dog, much less a human. Any life-form is a tremendous amount of responsibility; if I don’t want to potentially mar a dogs formative years, why would I mess with a human?
I wasn’t dissing you personally, just saying that most (many) people here didn’t ask to be born & they’re doing the best they can with what they have to work with.
Ever see the movie “Idiocracy”? Ever read this here very website? Do people accept responsibility for the consequences of their actions? Do people plan ahead? Do people act based on reason/intellect/logic or emotion? How do you think the future will play out?
Survival of the fittest doesn’t favor intellect over emotion in this current paradigm.
49% seems highly convenient as a way to avoid saying “most people.” I choose to remain maximally skeptical of that figure, rather than bothering to investigate it, because i’m quite certain that such a figure is nearly impossible to accurately investigate via the internet. Lots of people refuse to admit their offspring were accidents, so it’s unlikely that an accurate stat can be gathered in that regard.
Survival of the fittest no longer occurs as it once did, due to social engineering and circumvention of the process, via the concept of eugenics. They want idiots breeding, not people who are smart enough to know that things should not continue as they are.
However… it is still arguable that “the fittest,” might mean those of us who possess both intellect /and/ access to resources. If you’re smart enough and have the right tools, you can exploit one of the world’s most available and renewable resources: Humans.
And in that way, i would be forced to argue that TPTB seem quite fit. They have managed to maintain their system of exploiting other humans for their own gains. It’s frankly impressive.
I think we’re headed for a neo-globalist caste system… but perhaps with a hidden top-tier, which allows the lessers to believe they have value, which in-turn, helps keep them motivated to remain productive for their masters. I think we’re headed toward reproduction restrictions, perhaps even prohibition and selective licensing, maybe even mass sterilization, allowing for special privileges for a select few, whose genes will be more highly valued than others, and used to mass-produce ideal workers or bosses or heirs to legacy empires.
I know for a fact that I was an accident. I wish my dad had used a condom!
My parents’ parents didn’t want them to get married. But they did, and then i was born. And then stuff happened and they divorced.
Every moment of my life has been a lesson about what happens when people have children they’re not prepared to raise.
We all wish our dads would have had their shit cut off!!
My dad had 3 kids by three different women when my mom met him and he never married any of them….you would think that would be a red flag that this man wasn’t going to treat her child any different but apparently it wasn’t…..I’ve also been told stories about how he was a liar and how when he owned a club back in the day he showed a girl giving him head on a T’V to get back at her for something…..yet the decision was made to not only sleep with him out of wedlock but to do so raw….most of us “just happened” I doubt they actually sat down years prior and planned and prepared to have a child…. My dad has 5 kids now….and those are just the ones I know about….who knows how many people out there share my paternal DNA
Anyway, i totally understand the sentiment in the OP, about this person’s behavior having negative impacts on a vacation-based business. You’re absolutely right, people on vacation most likely do not want to hear about someone’s 11-child sob-stories.
Business is business, and this woman apparently doesn’t understand that… which, being the mother of 11 children with inadequate means of supporting them, does not surprise me in the least. You’d think that after the 3rd or 4th child, she’d realize “holy shit! how am i going to afford this!?” But ELEVEN!? Really? It seems like there are likely lots of things she doesn’t understand, and that much of her life is the result of her acting on outrageous beliefs, rather than careful thought and the forming of appropriate expectations.
It’s unfortunate, but there are lots of people in this world who might try to make you feel bad, due to something they chose, and did to themselves.