Hello,
I’ve been aware of this site for a while now. Never posted before. But now I’m in kind of a dilemma and even though I don’t know any of you, I can’t think of anyone else I can really talk to about this.
My parents have come in to a bit of money and because of some weird thing where having more money will cause them problems with the government, they want to give it to me. I should point out here, BTW, that I’m not talking about doing anything illegal.
I don’t want it because frankly my poorness is perhaps one of the few things going for me at the moment. As we all know most of the women, and probably most of the men out there are just gold digging lumps of soulless meat. Their basically just the crap you learned about in biology class – food goes in, shit comes out, sperm goes in, baby comes out. That’s all they are and that’s the religion they follow. Most of them, when their looking for a domestic partner are really just looking for a second paycheck to bolster their income – and therefore better insure their material survival “nessesitiesâ€. I’m not interested in women like this. I need a soulmate who actually makes life worth living, not some money generator that makes it possible to live. And I want to be the same to her. I want to be the like-minded loyal partner she can count on to have her back as we try to make life something that is worthwhile. I don’t want some animal that is only interested in survival because that’s what Darwinism has programmed her to be.
I apologize for the rant.
In a nutshell, being poor can only be of service to me as it repulses all the bad eggs out there who only want money, meaning that it should be easier to find the girl who can help me make at least some small corner of this world worth looking at, assuming she indeed does exist.
The money is no good to me. There’s nothing money can buy that can make life worthwhile and perhaps this community is the only one brave enough to openly admit that, which is why I’m talking to you about this.
But the thing is that if the money goes in to my account, that means it becomes part of my estate, which means it will pass to my beneficiaries when I die. If I refuse to take it, it will remain part of my parents’ estates and go to their beneficiaries instead.
There are people who I owe a debt that in truth I’ll probably never be able to repay. They’ve given me the only goodness – the only hope and the only true happiness I’ve ever known. Once upon a time, I would’ve loved to repay them in kind, making their lives worthwhile just as they did as much as they were able to make my life, and the lives of so many others, worthwhile. But now, I’m weak and tired and bitter and to be honest, the money in my estate is probably all the repayment I’ll ever be able to give them. I know they love money, so I’m sure it’ll be appreciated.
I think about that, and then I think about that slim hope I might yet have of finding someone who I can actually trust, admire and love in my life that will all but fade away if I become just another golden nugget for the animal-women who are only interested in survival to sink their teeth in to. And I don’t know what to do.
So… does anyone have any input that might be able to help me with this? Any sincerely helpful thoughts would be appreciated. I need to make a decision real soon.
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your post is slightly confusing. you don’t seem to have any real good reason for taking the money, so i don’t really understand the supposed dilemma. besides the fact that maybe you want to give it to these ppl to whom you owe a debt, who “love money,” but are still good ppl? don’t really get that. uhhh also you could just take the money and invest it for a potential future / college money for your kids? donate to a charity? money is meaningless, but it can do some good if you do good things w/ it. also, yes some ppl will only want you for your money, but who says you have to tell them how much you have? and if you sense that is all someone wants you for, then don’t fucking date them….
“money is not everything,but right now if you have 50,000 dollars that will be very helpfull to me”.i am not saying this for your money(even if i want it so badly),what i am trying to say is…..their will be times where you really really need that money.and inorder to get your soulmate, you can just be pretend to be poor.it shouldn’t be that hard.
I’ve been more miserable with 100,000.s in spending cash than with 0$ as for luv intrests,it’s the little things that mean everything. but why bring others into our miseries? It makes no sense to do that to anyone!
Thanks for the input, both of you.
1298, they mightn’t be extraordinarily good people. Yes they are obsessed with money. But nonetheless, they have done great work. And for that, I owe them a debt. Their love of money doesn’t change that.
In terms of pretending to be poor…
I don’t know if that can be done. I’m told that the reason why I’ve never had much luck finding love was because I was too poor. And it’s not like I’ve every gone around advertising it. Somehow, people just know and they talk about me behind my back derogitarily because of it. If I get this money, then people will probably know it and suddenly I’ll be a financially secure guy in the eyes of the world. And then how will I ever be able to trust that a woman seemingly taking an interest in me from that point on is really taking an interest in me and not my bank account?
If I have this thing clinging to me… I just don’t know if I’d ever be able to trust a woman after that point because from that point on I’m no longer just me, I’m me with money attached and I’d never know which one the woman is winking at with her bedroom eyes.
so if you take it from your parents and give it to these other ppl, you won’t have it anymore…
problem?
I suspect they wouldn’t take it from me while I was living. Perhaps too much pride, or perhaps it would just be too taboo to accept the bulk of a man’s money as a gift and leave him with virtually nothing significant in his bank account. Don’t know for sure, but it’s just a feeling.
But I doubt they’ll refuse it as inheritance from a dead man. For one thing, they’d have nobody to return it to.
edit:not to mention the fact that I have no real way of reliably sending it to them. Whereas a lawyer tracking down the rightful beneficiary of an inheritance – well, they have their ways of making sure that the money gets sent to the person it’s supposed to.
well then just don’t take it. you can’t feel guilty for not giving them something you never actually had.
well you actually got me to log into this site- I wasn’t going to but like all of you I’m considering options.
What I particularly wanted to say was this:
To assume we are all money grabbing anythings is BS. I’m not sure where you are from or your who your circle of ppl are but that is not a fact just an assumption based on your own experience.
Most basic humans just want to pay their bills and have a little extra for special things and would rather earn that themselves for a sense of pride and achievement.
Personally I find money to be essential but really ugly unless used for good or to assist a country to function in the best possible way…but that will never happen.
Anyways now with that off my chest my constructive opinion/advice would be this:
You love your parents? they will need care in their old age so put the money into a trust fund for them and use it to help them grow old gracefully.
Then perhaps earn an income which covers bills and find someone with same income [round about] and both of you can build a future equally- that eliminates trust issues…That is my wisdom for the day, except to say that if your parents are getting a pension or some such thing with tax a lump sum payout will affect them so if you love them it would be nice to help them now and later. You could always throw a few grand to these ppl in the form of a gift – not cash- to say thankyou to ease your mind and let your parents know what u have done. Goodluck with your decision 🙂
“Most basic humans just want to pay their bills…”
But that’s exactly what I’m saying. Why do they want to pay their bills? Why do they want to survive? Why don’t they just kill themselves and be done with the hassle? Most people I know seem obsessed with making money to pay bills to survive so they can make money tomorrow to pay tomorrow’s bills to survive, ect., ect… And I look at their lives and I can’t understand why anyone would ever voluntarily want to prolong anything like that for one second longer then they needed to. There is nothing in most of their lives that would seem to make them worth watching, at least nothing I’ve ever heard them talk about. And god, how I hope and hope and hope that one day they might surprise me and actually tell me something about their lives that would make them worthwhile, but they never do.
Near as I can figure, the only reason they keep following that ritual is because the school systems (or ocassionally a traditional religion) sat them down and drummed it in to them that they were created by a force called Darwinism (or God, in the case of religious people) and that this force made humans with two specific agendas:
1. survive
2. procreate
And they drummed that script into them so well that that’s what they are now – animals; just a bunch of food consuming, fornicating animals. They don’t know why they follow this agenda and they don’t care why, either. It’s just what they’ve been programmed to do and so they do it.
If you don’t believe me, then how come, when a regular survival-obsessed person comes across someone on the verge of suicide, they unwaveringly *know* that it’s wrong, but almost none of them can tell the suicidal person *why* they are better off staying alive then being dead? How come none of them can, off the top of their head, name the incontrivertably wonderful thing that without a doubt cancels out all of life’s hardships and therefore makes it absolutely certain that this complete stranger’s choice to commit suicide is without a doubt wrong? How come most of them are only prepared to talk the person down from the ledge, just so they can fob them off to a “professional” who can explain to the suicidal person why they’ve been aggressively pressured or forced to keep living?
Most people *know* that staying alive is the “right” thing to do, even though they haven’t the foggiest idea why anybody should bother to stay alive. But they all regurgitate the philosophy, and abide by it almost flawlessly for the duration of their natural lives. Their like well trained elephants in a circus act. Animals.
Saying that, I am not lashing out at you or anyone here for that matter. I don’t judge people until I get to know them and I haven’t gotten to know anybody here all that well yet. When in doubt, I try to give others the benefit of the doubt 🙂
“Then perhaps earn an income which covers bills and find someone with same income [round about] and both of you can build a future equally…”
This, I’m afraid doesn’t make much sense to me, even though others have said it to me before. Without my love, I have no reason to live, so why on earth would I need to make a living? To me it seems like a slap in the face to the woman I hope to someday marry. “I had a reason to live before you, hon. That’s why I was trying to survive before we met. Your kind of just an optional accessory – I don’t mind having you around, but there’s something else that I care about much more and that’s why I’m sticking around here.” If I am ever fortunate enough to meat a woman that I sincerely enjoy being around and who does me the incredible honor of pledging to spend her life by my side, I can’t just go to her like she’s some kind of triviality that can me done without. It would be an unspeakable injustice and she deserves so much better then that. *Especially* from a man who would aspire to be her husband.
Thank you very much for your kind wishes, and for taking the time to offer me your respectful point-of-view. 🙂
@Ctried:
Great post.
“why you should stay alive”
The simplest and best answer is: because you can’t do anything if you’re dead.
And when we die we don’t come back (at least not as us… it’s anyone’s guess as to whether there is anything left of us to come back as anything else, but i don’t think there is).
Off the top of my head, and easy.
The problem is that some people are suffering, and have already suffered so much, for so long, that they no longer want to do anything at all; they only want the torment ceased, at any cost, up to and including the cost of never again experiencing anything at all.
Which leads into something i’ve realized on my own terms:
“The truth isn’t good enough.”