Goodbye World

“Why hurt your family by ending your life?”

Guilt trip, disqualified.

Suicide is rarely “done to hurt” anyone. It instead “occurs,” despite being aware of the potential for discomfort, both in the self, and in the others who remain, because, that person suffering their own existence, cannot figure out or access a better way to eliminate their own suffering… which is experienced to a degree that dwarfs the significance of any “pain” those who remain may feel.

Grieving for one lost to suicide, simply cannot compare to the agony experienced by the person who ultimately commits suicide. It is comparatively insignificant. To say “but other people will feel bad!” misses the point, entirely.

Also, people say things like “get help.” What help? Are you suggesting that “help” exists to change the past, the effects generated by immutable events, and even the world at large? No such thing. People don’t just up and kill themselves without cause; there is always a cause, and it almost always is rooted in that person’s day to day experience of their own existence being unbearable or even just completely unsatisfying, and without any reasonable expectation that what might make it better, will actually occur.

You can’t solve most of life’s problems with pills, prescribed or otherwise.

Solving problems takes many things, some of which are action, cooperation, proper studying of any problem, resources and opportunity. Most of these things are lacking in those who are depressed. It’s not that they don’t want to be okay, or that they’re unaware that anyone will be upset… it’s that they feel trapped, backed into a corner, out of options, and are tired of facing each next day full of the same pains as the last, while things just don’t just get better.

As has been more recently noted around here: suicide is like an animal chewing off its own leg to escape a trap. It has no choice; it can either remain trapped and terrified, which is torturous… or it can sacrifice a part of itself it would rather keep, to have a chance to escape. Only in the case of suicide, the sacrifice is the entire body, even in the understanding of either a potentially worse “after,” or the lack of any “after” at all. Either way, it often seems better than remaining trapped, helpless, terrified and tortured. Trying to convince them it isn’t better, is a lost cause… unless you can save that “leg” and release them from that “trap,” and even help them mend, so they can run and survive and feel “free” again. Or, at the very least, provide them with a way to continue existing without excess pain, that doesn’t require them to survive fulfilling the requirements of existence.