I don’t know you and I have no idea what your situation is or what issues you fight. Just know you ARE a great person, and your life is precious. You matter to everyone in this community who’s post you’ve ever commented on. For with those comments you brought hope. Bad people do not give others hope. Bad people do not have empathy either, which you do obviously have. Also if you were a truly bad person you wouldn’t care about it. I know bad people they don’t care how badly they behave or treat others, as long as they come out one cent ahead. I know when I am depressed I don’t want to hear anything I just told you because it seems patronizing. But it needs to be told when in this state. People care a great deal about you. You are important to somebody. That is the mantra a sing to myself, when I feel myself falling into that dark pit that is depression, it might help you too. (Hugs)
Thank you so much. I really do appreciate your very kind and thoughtful reply. It just shows what a wonderful person you are.
I cannot help, but to think I am a bad person. If I was something better someone whould have helped me by now and others would not have hurt me the way they did.
I have been trying to get help, but the doctors dont offer me any advice on how to better my situation and myself. It just makes me think that the person I am is not worth saving.
It’s my experience that good people are the ones that find themselves in these hopeless situations. Bad people are the ones with money, a home of their own, and freedom to do as they please.
If you’re struggling, count yourself as a good person. I’ve never met a bad person who had a shitty life… Unless they were so bad and they went to prison for what they did.
I have been abused like so many other people in this world. It has left me a very bitter and sometimes a very angry person. I would never intentionally hurt another person in this world, but there have been times I have lashed out. In the end I hurt others who did not deserve it. That makes me just as bad and ugly as the ones who have hurt me.
You have PTSD, that doesn’t make you a bad person. You’ve been treated wrongly, and have developed triggers that set you off. That’s common. You can work through this, and if you could express to those people that you hurt, that it wasn’t really them you were going after, I’m sure they’d forgive you.
Yes, I do have ptsd. I have tried to express my regret to others that I have lashed out at. I was not forgiven by any, even though they knew what I was going through.
I just feel so much shame and guilt for my own behavior .
Haha, Nothing on these boards is stupid or pathetic. We all feel the way that we do, even if some people may see it as silly or over-dramatic. We can’t help feeling what we feel. But talking about it does help. Getting different perspectives on our situations can be extremely helpful. Sometimes our problems are so big to us that they are all we can see, but someone else can see beyond them and help us to see the aspects that we can’t.
It’s like business colleagues brainstorming, but for life issues. I hope this makes sense.
Doesn’t sound stupid or pathetic. Sounds like you’ve been hurt. Im definitely willing to listen if you want to talk. And I get a feeling from the responses here that I’m not the only one. 🙂
I don’t think you are a bad person for feeling hurt and anger because you have been mistreated. If someone has harmed you, it’s okay to feel wronged. It doesn’t make you awful. I mean, when you were frustrated, you didn’t harm anyone did you? If you just yelled at someone, I’m sure they can come to understand why you did if they don’t already.
I don’t really have any advice, except to stick up for yourself. Even if nobody believes you, YOU know what happened. As a spouse, you know better than anyone else, save your husband, what kind of person he really is.
And just a little food for thought here about not being believed: Nobody thought that the guy who turned out to be the MDK killer could be anything but a nice, respectable member of the community, and a devoted husband.
Don’t let them silence you with their ignorant and prejudice perceptions.
For every small mistake I make or hurt I cause others, it reminds me of the hurt others have caused me. It makes me feel I am a monster just like them.
I dont feel any anger towards anyone who has hurt me.. I just hate me.
The thing you need to remember is that monsters hurt others without caring how it might hurt them. You are a caring person who has been hurt and sometimes hurts others. You care though. You have remorse for the times you have lashed out.
You are not a monster. You are a person who has been hurt and feels that no one cares, listens, or is willing to understand you. Let me assure you that is very far from the truth. We care. We’ll listen. We are willing to understand.
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I don’t know you and I have no idea what your situation is or what issues you fight. Just know you ARE a great person, and your life is precious. You matter to everyone in this community who’s post you’ve ever commented on. For with those comments you brought hope. Bad people do not give others hope. Bad people do not have empathy either, which you do obviously have. Also if you were a truly bad person you wouldn’t care about it. I know bad people they don’t care how badly they behave or treat others, as long as they come out one cent ahead. I know when I am depressed I don’t want to hear anything I just told you because it seems patronizing. But it needs to be told when in this state. People care a great deal about you. You are important to somebody. That is the mantra a sing to myself, when I feel myself falling into that dark pit that is depression, it might help you too. (Hugs)
Thank you so much. I really do appreciate your very kind and thoughtful reply. It just shows what a wonderful person you are.
I cannot help, but to think I am a bad person. If I was something better someone whould have helped me by now and others would not have hurt me the way they did.
I have been trying to get help, but the doctors dont offer me any advice on how to better my situation and myself. It just makes me think that the person I am is not worth saving.
It’s my experience that good people are the ones that find themselves in these hopeless situations. Bad people are the ones with money, a home of their own, and freedom to do as they please.
If you’re struggling, count yourself as a good person. I’ve never met a bad person who had a shitty life… Unless they were so bad and they went to prison for what they did.
No-one deserves to die. Unless you are a criminal or terrorist.
Please tell us more. Why do you THINK you deserve to die?
I’d like to know why too if you feel like sharing.
I have been abused like so many other people in this world. It has left me a very bitter and sometimes a very angry person. I would never intentionally hurt another person in this world, but there have been times I have lashed out. In the end I hurt others who did not deserve it. That makes me just as bad and ugly as the ones who have hurt me.
Doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or that you deserve to die. And you are worth the time. HUGS
Thank you :'(
You have PTSD, that doesn’t make you a bad person. You’ve been treated wrongly, and have developed triggers that set you off. That’s common. You can work through this, and if you could express to those people that you hurt, that it wasn’t really them you were going after, I’m sure they’d forgive you.
Yes, I do have ptsd. I have tried to express my regret to others that I have lashed out at. I was not forgiven by any, even though they knew what I was going through.
I just feel so much shame and guilt for my own behavior .
Then it’s their problem. You don’t need to feel ashamed. You didn’t hurt them intentionally.
It could be I am just trying to find an excuse to off myself. Idk. I just dont think I am a good person though I have tried to be.
I know all of this probably sounds stupid and pathetic.
Haha, Nothing on these boards is stupid or pathetic. We all feel the way that we do, even if some people may see it as silly or over-dramatic. We can’t help feeling what we feel. But talking about it does help. Getting different perspectives on our situations can be extremely helpful. Sometimes our problems are so big to us that they are all we can see, but someone else can see beyond them and help us to see the aspects that we can’t.
It’s like business colleagues brainstorming, but for life issues. I hope this makes sense.
Doesn’t sound stupid or pathetic. Sounds like you’ve been hurt. Im definitely willing to listen if you want to talk. And I get a feeling from the responses here that I’m not the only one. 🙂
I sincerely thank you and and anyone else who is taking the time to reply to me. It truly means a great deal to me.
I don’t think you are a bad person for feeling hurt and anger because you have been mistreated. If someone has harmed you, it’s okay to feel wronged. It doesn’t make you awful. I mean, when you were frustrated, you didn’t harm anyone did you? If you just yelled at someone, I’m sure they can come to understand why you did if they don’t already.
I don’t really have any advice, except to stick up for yourself. Even if nobody believes you, YOU know what happened. As a spouse, you know better than anyone else, save your husband, what kind of person he really is.
And just a little food for thought here about not being believed: Nobody thought that the guy who turned out to be the MDK killer could be anything but a nice, respectable member of the community, and a devoted husband.
Don’t let them silence you with their ignorant and prejudice perceptions.
For every small mistake I make or hurt I cause others, it reminds me of the hurt others have caused me. It makes me feel I am a monster just like them.
I dont feel any anger towards anyone who has hurt me.. I just hate me.
The thing you need to remember is that monsters hurt others without caring how it might hurt them. You are a caring person who has been hurt and sometimes hurts others. You care though. You have remorse for the times you have lashed out.
You are not a monster. You are a person who has been hurt and feels that no one cares, listens, or is willing to understand you. Let me assure you that is very far from the truth. We care. We’ll listen. We are willing to understand.
Thank you so much for listening and your kind and caring words.