as a female I am constantly the objective in anything that is sexual. when I try to take a stand for ourselves we are crazy, whores, ect… you can use your imagination. well my bf and I recently got into this argument, why is it ok for him to watch porn n not me? long story short it seems to me there are double standards anyone else who can explain this?
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You should be watching it together or not at all if he wants to hold you to his standards. Maybe he’s insecure and thinks you might like what you see and upgrade. It’s a control thing in my experience
Your bf sounds like an ass…but then many guys tend to be. Just don’t put up with that garbage if you don’t think you’re being treated fairly. Don’t let people get away with insulting you-stand your ground if you need or walk away from those people if that’s the better solution.
When I was younger and used to get into arguments with some people-I’d get sucked into it and sometimes I’d either give up too early or get into a battle which I should’ve avoided with a “whatever” comment. Now I’m much more tactical and strategic about arguments and so forth.
I’m a guy who thinks men and women are equal. And usually the arguments come down to personality not gender. Where I work, there’s some girls who are really sensible/good people and a few that are down-right bitches who bad-mannered and tempered. Most of the guys at my office are well-behaved, aside from a few drama queens and gossip-whores.
misogyny is an integral part of today’s society and no offense, but many young guys (and consequently older guys) are impressionable and easily influenced by today’s media and dogma. Women are presented as sex objects that can be used to quantify a guy’s worth (fuck bitches, get money hey) and subsequently it dehumanizes women. Many men aren’t able to empathize with women because they’ve grown up with such a warped perception that discourages men from trying to empathize with women. (being anything but “manly” results in alienation and ostracization)
a lot of this is the product of theism and the sacred virginity/purity dogma that have been imposed on women for thousands of years. It will take some time to extirpate, but feminism is coming a long way 🙂
if your boyfriend doesn’t respect you or what you want (within reason) then fuck him, why would you condone misogyny? He needs time to mature and realize he doesn’t deserve a woman if they’re “inferior” to him and don’t deserve the same privileges that he does.
Women generally aren’t as visual as men. Porn doesn’t stimulate them unless there’s some sappy love story attached to it.
Girl on girl porn is usually alright, and men typically don’t have a problem if their woman watches that. I’m sure your boyfriend wouldn’t mind if you viewed some hot lesbian porn.
fisting is a good selection too, great for bonding time
I expected 5sos’s response to be more like “spoken like a true, card carrying, standard bearing misogynist” or some such regarding C4’s comment.
observation dawg
I give C4 the benefit of the doubt and (wishfully) think he’s being sarcastic
While i agree with your assessment (that it’s sarcasm) I think I more expected you to call him on whether this post and topic was the proper place for it … I’ll defer to you expert ability to ferret out when sarcastic humor is warranted in regards to women’s equality issues.
For the record and in regard to the original post … I think the boyfriend needs to be made acutely aware of the double standard and the potential ramifications such a position can reap … most women I know would sentence me immediately to taking the walk of shame with little hope for clemency if I were to hold, much less voice, such a position of male superiority and/or entitlement.
equality dawg
There’s nothing shameful in viewing porn. Double standards on the other hand, are not okay. If your b/f can’t handle the thought of you watching porn, while doing so himself, ditch him. He’s being ridiculous.
I can relate to this.. My ex used to watch porn with me. She actually caught me watching porn and she wanted to join. (She’s my ex for different reasons.) She didn’t mind me watching porn but she was against the disgrace genre of porn. The porn that looks painful and the people are tied up and could be in pain. I hate that type anyway.
Your boyfriend shouldn’t control what you watch. That’s like not allowing your significant other to watch a soap opera or favorite TV show.
Maybe he is trying to protect your eyes from such disgusting stuff. But no, it’s pretty normal. And pretty fake. I honestly think 90% of people watch porn. Watching it is perfectly healthy. But being addicted to it is completely different.