I have health issues starting, now that I’m 52, which as far as I’m concerned, mean I will be alone the rest of my life. What’s sad is that I’m still somewhat attractive and in pretty good shape but I will not be w/ someone if I’m falling apart physically, I won’t do it. I just lost my Big Love 7 months ago and don’t expect to find anyone else I want anyway but in the last few weeks have noticed health things going on that as far as I’m concerned, seal the deal — alone forever now.
And I am not happy about it. As much as I figured I’d never meet anyone who flips my switch again, I wasn’t ready to completely give up on the idea. But now, I probably will have to. May as well shoot me now, because w/out love, what’s the point, says I.
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three moons, just because we are alone and lonley does not mean we are not loved. i recomend a book called “we love those who save us”. its fiction drawn off real life. yes, i know you mean a physical person to do all those fun thing that couples do. dont give up too soon. it can still happen. i see stories all the time of people finding love in their 80’s and 90’s. no im not particulary interested in waiting that long either, but the possabilities are out their. who knows, maybe santa claus will bring you the new current hunk of your dreams. you could have a lot of fun unwrapping that. lol
i’ll check out that book, thank you tc
Would it be insensitive to ask what health issues?
thanks tc, but there is no current hunk, (hunk..lol you’re showing your age using that one, and I love it)…Only one I’ve dreamed of since the moment I saw him, is the guy I lost. I haven’t even noticed anyone else since that day, and that’s the truth. Love at first sight, crazy love the entire time and still in love now, with a big fat question mark over my head as to WHY THE HELL did he leave.
But this is more about me no longer feeling attractive, ya know? So now it’s not just finding someone I want to connect w/ but who wants to connect w/ me, and stick around.
Kind of like how you made the difficult decision to end your marriage, and try to survive on your own to pull your own weight..well I don’t want to get into a r’ship if I can’t put all into it, and that means everything…and I can’t do that anymore.
Getting old is the worst damn curse…
3moons, i am an infant in love but from my own one short experience of it i would confidently say that age and health are irrelevant when it is the real deal. And more importantly i can very confidently say that when one is in love it somehow, despite the worst of illness, gives one the strength to put astounding levels of energy into the relationship
One more thing, if in some fantasy world that one love of my long loveless life somehow came back into my world and she was getting old and “falling apart” i would not hesitate for one second to hold her and carry right on. That brief love i experienced transcended age, health, beauty and turmoil. In fact she was not well at that time.
thank you for that, ds. That means a lot. In fact, a friend of mine is “praying” (that’s not the right word for our beliefs, but it will do) and is 100% convinced my man will be back. The big question is, when. My problem, well, I don’t wannna talk about it, but let’s just say it’s what women getting into middle age have to deal with (you figure it out).
I am so much more than that, every person is so much more than any one thing, or even any subset of things. So yea, if he comes back, none of it should matter. Just like by the time he comes back, his knees will be worse, or his back will be worse, or his headaches. We all get old and our bodies betray us.
I just wasn’t ready for it. I want to be young. Much of the time I feel young. I’m not ready to grow old and fall apart and I swear I’d rather be dead, and will be, before I get really decrepit, physically. I simply refuse to go there, but unfortunately that’s the direction we’re all headed (if we live that long).
Well yes my love suffered too from what i suppose you are referring to and it made no difference to me. And my point is that it is not an exclusive to you and “your man”. Others would accept you as you are just as i accepted “my girl” with her issues when i met her. It seems to me you have much to be hopeful for. Strength
You say health issues, but even with those you are still a sentient being, able to feel companionship, to feel love for another aren’t you. Why give up now, 52 isn’t that old these days is it? I’m 46 and still not yet given up despite years of being alone due to an issue myself, hope to find someone who’ll be there for me regardless, knowing how I am. I hope you do decide to keep looking and find to someone.