I was born in a undeveloped country in South America called Brasil. When I was a child my family faced lots of difficulties but my mom said that I could win in life if I was a great student. I have studied a lot and I could enter in a prestigious public university in Brasil. In 2013, I earned an exchange course in Australia sponsored by the Brazilian government, and there in Australia I met the love of my life. A wonderful Chinese girl that gave me happiness and we truly love each other until today.
However, my sponsor finished last year and I had to come back to Brasil in order to graduate in the university where I started. But my girlfriend stayed there to finish her studies. The problem now is that my financial conditions do not make me able to return there. I don’t have money to pay me an airticket to see her. It is also difficult for me to achieve the permanent Australian residence for working there.although the university where I study is a good one here in Brazil, it is a ridiculously bad when compared internationally, and they wouldn’t accept me in Australia.
My girlfriend does not understand my difficulty in making money in this stupid undeveloped country called Brasil. She thinks I do not want to marry her or spend my life with her. My relationship with is on the edge of collapse. As well as my academic and professional career with my dreams to move abroad and live in better places.
I’m thinking on suicide because I do not have economic power to love. Because of a stupid economic standard that my family do not possess. I will take my life because I’m poor.
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I guess many couples face this problem in online relationships as both live far away from each other. You should tell your girlfriend very clearly that you can’t come to australia because of costly air ticket. If she truly loves you, she will understand you and keep the relationship going on through texting, voice and video chat till the time either you or she can buy an airticket. But if she misunderstands you, then it is her problem, not yours And you needs to move on from your girlfriend.
As you have been able to enter prestigious public university in Brazil, you will be able to live a normal life in Brazil.
You have worked very hard academically to get to where you are. If your girlfriend truly loves you, she will be patient and understanding. Please don’t let this hurdle take away everything you have worked hard for.
I have a similar situation, met a beautiful french girl while I was on a trip-we hit it off well, even planned on getting married. We had to go back to our respective cities which are far apart and I was also too poor to see her. I wasn’t working at the time-this was in high school. She also thought I didn’t want to see her-eventually she moved onto some other guy. So ya being poor sucks ass and can make you lose out on good opportunities.
In your cause-like others have suggested, talk to her, explain your situation and she might be willing to wait for you. If she’s willing to buy your ticket then go there….you can pay her back when you’re working. But trying to become a citizen in Australia would be difficult. You might need to get some working professional visa before they allow you to stay. But these aren’t impossible odds-if you want it, you could probably get it.
Plus you can always find a different girl too. I actually dated great girls after that french one, and things were easier since they lived in my city. Sometimes the longshots aren’t really worth the time and effort that you think they are. Most of it-falling in love is truly an illusion. I heard that before but didn’t believe it, until I went through that experience with this girl and realized how true the saying was.
“I’m thinking on suicide because I do not have economic power to love.”
That’s a sad statement about the world, but it has been true ever since humans invented money. Just an idea: what if you say to your girlfriend, “I’m working as hard as I can to buy a plane ticket, but if you help by paying half we’ll be together much sooner.”
If she says ok, then AWESOME you have a winner.
If she says she can’t but she will wait, then not bad she’s still a keeper.
If she says no way, then maybe she never truly loved you.
Salt you ok bro just human like all of us be ok