Hi guys, I need your advice.
My current situation:
I’ve been feeling so depressed for the past few weeks. In fact I haven’t talked to anyone at all.
I’ve been locking myself in my room. I find peace in solitary and I’ve formed this peace bubble.
I feel like this is what I need for now. I need more time to be with myself, not worrying what other people think of me. I’m sick and tired of having to pretend I’m okay. I just need some space for myself.
Problems:
My cousin’s engagement party is going to be held on Sunday. Before I was in this depressed mode, I promised my cousin that I will attend her party. But right now I don’t feel like I’m ready for any celebrations or social interaction with people. The party will be a huge party too. 1000 people are invited. I really think that if I do come, I will only be a party pooper. On the other hand, I feel guilty for not going to her party.
What should I do? Should I go or should I just stay in my peaceful bubble?
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I wouldn’t go just because it’s such a big thing for your cousin, don’t want to bum people out. But on the other hand, because its such a big thing, they might be upset if you don’t go…
I think you should go and try to enjoy yourself. You can always go back to your peaceful bubble but this party o my happens once. You might expect it to be one way but it could be better than you think.
You don’t have to decide now. You can call off with a stomach bug at the last minute. Wait and see how you feel. Maybe you’ve had enough solitude by Saturday and decide you can face it. If not, calling off on Saturday is perfectly reasonable. You won’t be the only person of 1000 who can’t make it. Don’t let dwelling on it spoil your lovely bubble!
I’ve decided to not attend my cousin’s engagement party. I feel like I’m getting worse. I really don’t wanna talk to people. I have no energy for that :(. I know I will regret this decision later on, but I think it’s for the best. I think if I do go to the party, I might do something stupid ( like trying to jump off from top floor). So yeah… I don’t wanna ruin my cousin’s big day.
I think that you are unwell and it is always fair to call off when one is unwell. You are sensible to call it off. I hope that you don’t feel too alone.
Fake it till you make it. I think you should go, since promises should always be kept, and do your best to be cheerful. It’s going to hurt, but after the party you can go right back to solitary and heal. I find peace in solitary too, so you’re definitely not alone in your sentiment.
1000 people? I agree with the pps. Plus it’s pretty easy to dissappear into a crowd that large.
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