Reading this kind of shit pisses me off:
“The idea here is that no matter what happens in your life, no matter what misfortune comes your way, you always have an opportunity to practice some virtue. That practice is rarely easy, but it’s always there for the taking in one form or another.
Some examples:
Failed your exams? Now you can practice persistence.
Girlfriend dumped you? Now you can practice independence.
Doctor said you’ll never walk again? Now you can practice patience.
Your baby died of leukemia and your house burned down? Now you can practice acceptance.”
Yeah, I’d like to see the author of these idiotic words break his legs, never be able to walk again, and find virtue in being a paraplegic. Hey, he can now practice patience!
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I agree; that kind of stuff is annoying as hell. (!)
I guess that’s why i’m going to fail at my current career. If someone tells my: “my dog died!” i’ll reply “shit happens”. No, not really, but that lack of objectivity that most people use nowadays is one of the things that has the world upside down. Finding justification for the unjustifiable is the most idiotic thing ever, other than *insert whatever you hate here*, plus it causes people to be even more awful than they were a couple of decades ago.
People are more retarded now than ever.
Practice acceptance.
Suck a dick. I do what I want
screw it all but the worst is “Your baby died of leukemia and your house burned down? Now you can practice acceptance.” WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?!
Exactly. Makes me kind of wish it on him. Like what a cold-harded prick to say something like that.
AND he has a website where he doles out advice to people, and people listen to him too. So that’s fucked up.
Raped? You now have an opportunity to practice parenthood.
Actually this kind of thinking reminds me of the so-called “counselor” we had back in high school.
This is exactly the kind of stuff she would love to say.
We had a really lousy counselor. No psychology training, just lot of this flowery garbage. If someone reported bullying or abuse, her technique was to blame the victim and try to re-frame the situation in a way that suggested the victim needed to change themselves. Nothing was ever done to the bullies or abusers.
Your post title says it all: UGH! 😮
because doing nothing was the easiest thing for her to do. god forbid people actually try to do anything to help these days. my school counselors were all shit too. AND the one in college.
This is why you can’t talk about depression to anyone, because most people, although they may not be THAT big of an asshole like the guy above, they all think along those lines too. Like, boohoo, quick your crying, and get over it.
yeah it is really annoying…. They also like to pretend that they know what you feel like too…. Honestly it really doesn’t even matter what somebody feels, if they state that they feel bad then they feel bad, it really doesn’t matter how bad. I just wish more people understood that, and at least stopped telling people to “get over it” -_- that thought process does not help with anything, it only makes things worse.
What I don’t like about that quote is how flippant he is about those situations. He said it’s rarely easy but that kind of attitude makes it sound as easy as flicking a switch in your mind. He’s just offensive. (And I hope he offers help in *how* to practice those things, because that’s the part a lot of people don’t seem to pay attention to.) I agree with the basic point though. Through my problems I’ve effectively lost years of my life and still feel close to death quite a lot of the time – and a couple of them need solving/alleviating for me to feel able to live (though mainly depression). But if I can practice acceptance, strength, patience etc, then at least something will have come out of those years of hell – something that could help me in the future. At the moment it’s still a painful struggle and it’s hard to see anything positive, but if I get through it I’ll be a better person in a lot of ways. A couple of other horrible situations in the past couple of years have helped me learn important lessons.